Do u dislike someone who never think about anybody but his or her damn self?
By hiddenwing
@hiddenwing (3719)
China
November 1, 2008 7:20am CST
Today, something happened. A professor in town was fired since he had a qurrel with someone who had very strong backing. U know what, the professor did nothing wrong. Apparently, someone was bullying him. I saw the professor crying. He was really pathetic.
Then I talked with a girl about the thing. "Poor professor! " , I said!
"I don't care about others' misfortune. It was none of my business", The girl said!
I felt that she was kinda disgusting to say that, u know. She was kind of my friend since we met everyday. I wanna end the friendship though it was not that easy for reasons. I've already known she was selfish somehow. But I have never known that she was that cruel! Do u dislike someone who never think about anybody but his or her damn self though he or she doen't offend u in some way?
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14 responses
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
I think should waste my time to care about them either. In the world, there are some people like that. If I always worry about it, then I will feel less happy.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
I mean I shouldn't waste my time worrying about their cruel mind either. I just typed a wrong word and the meaning was totally opposite. Thus, I have to add another comment.
@ediblecottoncandie (109)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yes, it gets frustrating -- but I try and not let it get to me.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
It was kind of sad really. I got sick or her at the time. But now, everything is fine. How stupid I was. What I should do was just let her alone
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
Hi there hiddenwing!
I dislike people who are self-centered. I have met a lot of people who match your description. It's so bad how people think only of themselves. While it is true that it was not an issue or problem that your friend was involved in, she would have been more discreet with her reaction. It is indeed a sign of selfishness. Funny how people hate other people who are inconsiderate or insensitive but they themselves are with other people.
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@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
Yeah, accordingly, I knew she was much more selfish than I imagined. However, I do have to meet her everyday for reasons. Anyway, I should be more discreet. One thing is sure, she will definately turn again a friend for her sake some day.
@ellie333 (21016)
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3 Nov 08
Hi Hiddenwing, I expect if this person herself suffered some sort of misfortune though she would also expect people to rally round to help her. Some people are just totally selfish, she wouldn't be on my friends list as I like my friends to be lvong and caring like me, not insensitive souls at all. You don't have to end your friendship, like you say it is difficult to do that but just be aware of her personaliy trait on this level and keep her at a distance. Huggles. Ellie :D
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
3 Nov 08
She is very snaky. Sometimes she likes using others. I do have to guard against her move! Thanks for your kind response. Have a great day.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yes, someone who has no empathy for others does irritate me, also. Are there other students who feel that the professor was terminated unjustly? If so, maybe you could
get up a petition to protest it. I don't know what is allowed at your school.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
It is too late though. I pray he will be fine in the future.
I wanna find a word to describe compassion.
Thanks for telling me, empathy is just right.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Nov 08
Sometimes, the interpersonal relationships in town are too complicated. It is not that easy to do something as we can imagine
I gotta go to a training school learning a foreign language 10 minutes later.
Have a good night!
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Glad that I happened to help you with a new (to you) word.
FYI Look for "gonna" and "wanna" in your English dictionary.
I, too, find myself using them in casual conversation, which this should be. Just don't use them when you are expected to speak or write proper English.
Was it your Korean class to which you were hurrying? How do you keep so many languages straight in your mind?
@ideamanx6 (45)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
Oh my god. That is really so selfish. It was really none of her business but at least show some sympathy on the poor professor. When I stumbled upon a person like that, it really turns me off. To think that we have been friends for some time.
But lets not be a bit judgmental first. Maybe the girl has also having her problem which we might not know what it is. Maybe she is not in the mood to talk to anyone that's why she mentioned it.
Try to talk with the girl further. Maybe she has been enduring some problems.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Nov 08
She always wanna gain extra advantage by unfair means. For example, she once borrowed me some money and didn't pay it back on purpose.
Honesy, I didn't care for it.
Also, she once told me that if she was a worse person, she would live better. I knew what she meant. She lied to a teacher that she was much poorer so as to get the scholarship for the students living in hard lives.
Oh, I just coundn't imagine she was more like that...
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Nov 08
As u know, the fox may change grey but never good! There is also a saying in town. It is much more difficult to change a person than to change the world. You are so kind and you wish the whole world will be like that. To our disappointment, something will not go to the effort that is required. I used to be a person who was in pursuit of perfect. It wound't really work!
Thanks for your kindness anyway.
Have a great day
@ideamanx6 (45)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
Oh dear. That is indeed so selfish. In my whole life, I had never met a girl with that attitude.
Have you ever tried to open up to her about that issue? Maybe she might change because of knowing her negative way of living. Just talk to her about her attitude. And do it in a nice and calm way. Maybe she'll listen. After all, your his friend right? Maybe its time to let her know.
In this world there is nothing to be selfish of. No man is an island right? We need people. No matter who we are we will always need a help of someone. There would be times that you would get toast on your own but with your comrades help, things will work out. In short, there is nothing to be selfish of.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
1 Nov 08
I know several people that feel this way as well and it just makes me angry. We should never go through life caring only about ourselves. Selfish people tend to think they are the only ones that matter and others hould drop everything for them but they don't life a finger for someone else. My son is always telling me I am too 'soft' because I cry at the drop of a hat. I am a person that sees and feels other people's pain and I agonize over it. I am always trying to find ways to help others. That is what life should be about.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
I guess lots of people are compassionate. Thus, when some disaster happen in some area, we moan for them though it is not our own business. This is what life should be about...
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
I don't judge people for the things that they do or whatever. I don't have to be friends with them either. I don't care if they're not like me. I don't expect everybody to agree with me. Life is not so straightforward. Cheers!!
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Nov 08
No matter what I do, the peach seed will grow into a peach tree after all, I may wish for an apple or an orrange, but I will get a peach!
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
1 Nov 08
Hello! My neighbors are self-centered.They took all sorts of benefit from me but now after living thirty years as neighbors they are leaving comments on me and my family members.However I don't care for such comments,rather I feel sorry for them.I don't like to go to help these people at the time of their needs.I hate them really.thanx.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
Shame on them. They don't even know what embrassment is. Poor thing
If we care about them and get annoyed, it means we use others' fault punishing ourselves.
Luckily, you don't really care for such comments from them. It is worth to cheer
@jewilim (495)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
I don't like those kind of people too. I think she would also feel bad if other people would say the same thing when something bad happens to her. I think its really nice to think of other people from time to time. We only do not live for ourselves but also for others because we wont be where we are if not for other people. Its really so that that there are really some people who are like that. I myself feel sad for the professor even if i don't know him, but with that situation he really does not deserve it. :(
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Nov 08
U know what, during the wenchuan earthquake, everyone else felt sorry to hear that. The girl, on the other hand, is totally insensible. I was disatisfied with her at the time. But I won't waste too much time despising people like that. It just feels so much better to complain a little. Hehe
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yes, it is annoying when someone is so self centered that they can not think about how someone else must be feeling besides themselves. I know people who you try to talk to about something, then they turn the discussion on themselves. Whether it was her business or not, she could have at least shown a little compassion for the Professor.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Nov 08
Yeah, I totally agree with u. Of couse, she coundn't help the professor. I won't blame her anyway. But a person with no comapssion is really ...
@msedge (4011)
• United States
29 Apr 09
We have our own negative and positive sides.But i have true friends that are really real.If someone is selfish and nice to me i would be nice to them also but thats it.As long as you did nothing wrong to me i would be kind to you but it would be hard for me to trust since i was already betrayed by i thought a friend.
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Yes. she isnt even worth my time actually. i wont waste my time talking or listening or being with a person like that. i am a person taht cares about other people. so i dislike people that dont care about others. if he/she doesnt care for others, then i am pretty sure he/she cant be a good friend to me either..
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Nov 08
Yeah, she can't be my good friend that I really trust. But for reasonas I have to meet her everyday. What am supposed to do? Oh gosh help me that someday I won't see her anymore!
@nankum (48)
• Sri Lanka
2 Nov 08
sure .I don't like those persons who cares only about themselves.When we are living in the society we have to took orther selves also.One day we might need those unafortunates help also.But there is no reason to hate those selfish persons.Just love them care about them .Let them to feel how is that feeling of not being selfish.So that is my veiw.I don't like them.But don't hate them.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Nov 08
Thanks for sharing your kind opinion. I will take it secriously. But I really think she is a bad girl since she has no empathy with others.
