Have you ever had a miscarriage

first of all, my deepest and most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. i had a miscarriage in 1996 at six weeks also. it was so emotionally painful for me and my husband. i wanted a baby so badly and like you said it is all just gone. you should NOT feel guilty in any way as you did nothing wrong and it is something you had no control over. please do not feel badly for blowing off friends either. i isolated myself for the first week and then my husband and i went to a support group at a local hospital and it did us a world of good to share our sorrow with others who had gone through the same exact thing. most people around us were very insensitive and said stupid things like, "well at least you can try again" or "perhaps it was for the best". we sure did not think it was for the best. the support group was the best thing we could have done to help us through it. the lady who ran the group wrote out a little birth certificate for us so we would have something tangible to validate our loss and asked me if i had any strong feelings as to whether it was a boy or a girl and i really felt it was a girl. she then asked me to give her a name so i chose Hope so we would have the hope to go on and try again for another baby. she gave me a pink knit hat and a little lapel pin in the shape of baby feet. when i finally did get pregnant again 4 years later i wore the little feet lapel pin my entire pregnancy. i have a beautiful son who is almost 8 now and the love of my life. if i may. i would like to share a poem with you that i wrote when we lost our baby: There's nothing left of you except what's in our hearts You left while I was sleeping and now we are apart i never got to hold you or read a bedtime story and for that I will forever be sorry Someday we'll be together and I'll know you right away but I'll miss you and grieve for you until that one sweet day you have to give yourself time to grieve as this is a real loss. my love and best wishes to you.

I have neve had a miscarriage but I two of my cousins have had one. That is such a terrible to thing to happen to anyone and you should not blame yourself for it happening. All I will say to you is keep praying and try again later on down the line. I hope that you get better soon.

I would like to offer my deepest sympathy to you and your husband for your loss. Yes, it is a loss, so many people, those of whom have never had a miscarriage and a few that have, don't think it's a big deal. I've had 2 miscarriages. My first one, I was 13 1/2 weeks along and on vacation when it happened, that was the longest week of my life, my husband (at the time, I have a new and better one know). refused to leave, I wasn't in any pain, other than emotionally hurting; just a little discomfort. After my first one, the doctor told me that I just needed to get over it, and he was very cold and uncaring. Needless to say, I changed doctors. With the second, I was only 5 weeks along, again not much pain, except emotional. My new doctor took me into his office to talk about it. He told me that I needed to grieve the loss of my unborn child, and that it was not my fault. He said that a miscarriage is our body's way of saying there was a problem with the fetus. It made it so much easier to get through that one. About 2 years later, I divorced that husband, got married again and my new husband and I have a 10 year old son, I also have a 23 year old daughter, a 20 yr old son, and a 19 year old step daughter, so my cup runneth over, I still can't wait to see my unborn children in heaven, I feel as though my parents are with them though. If you think you are getting too deep into a depression, please talk to your doctor about it, sometimes just talking to a professional helps. We're all here for you also! You'll be in my thoughts.

I have had 3 miscarriages, all very early in the pregnancies. I was never affected in the way some ladies are, with all the depression, sadness and blaming myself simply because I listened to what the doctors told me, and that was that a pregnancy under 7 weeks is not actually a formed baby it is still in egg form and is not classed as viable until after 7 or 8 weeks. My friend had a scan when she was 8 weeks pregnant and all they could see was an egg, no baby and she miscarried too the egg had not been fertilised so although she was showing pregnant it was not a proper pregnancy. That early on is pretty common and a lot of people do not even know that they were even pregnant, the doctor is right it is not your fault and you will go on to have another baby so please try not to let this upset you so much. I have four kids so there is your proof that life does go on after miscarriage. Take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know you've probably heard those words at least a million times already, but I honestly cannot imagine the pain of losing a baby. When I was 6 weeks pregnant with my daughter we we're so scared that we were gonna lose her because I was losing so much blood during that week and I went to the hospital and they told me that the baby was OK. But I was losing so much weight because the nausea and vomiting was so bad I couldn't keep nothing down. I have to say that was the most frightening time of my life. I think that it's normal to feel depressed after losing a baby. I would probably lose my mind.

I'm sorry for you,but dont think too much of it.Once I had a miscarriage and the doctor said it might be a selection of your body who feels the zygote is not in good quality.Remember it's not your fault cause so many unexpected matters combined in our life.Let it go and cheer up, you would be a great mother in the future. I suggest that you could be pregnant after 6 months as your body needs time to recover. Now you need a good rest,take care!

No, but many women in my family have, and they have all told me how painful it was. It through them into a deep depression. It is not your fault if you have one, it is just the way that your body is. Sometimes, it is harder for some women to carry children. I know that I might not be able to carry children. That is the way life is. Some women are lucky, and some are not.

I am so sorry. I don't think it would be unusual at all if you did get counseling. I think a lot of women would benefit from counseling after something so traumatic, but maybe they just think they can do without it, or they might worry what people might think. Because it isn't your fault. A young woman in my church had a miscarriage two weeks ago. She has PCOS and didn't know it. They found out that is why she the miscarriage. She may be able to have another child, but she too felt like it was her fault. I will be praying for you and your family.

I had a miscarriage back in December 2005. Like you, I was only a few weeks along, but it still very hard to deal with. Although I hadn't bought any baby things, I had been looking. And I had several names written down. I guess you could say I was very excited about having another baby (this would have been my 3rd). It took me a long time to get over it. But eventually the pain lessens, although it may never go away completely. I'm sorry you had to go through this...

Who knows why plans miscarry. When its a baby, it is even worse. There are reasons which are certainly hidden from us. I would think it is a good thing because it has happened and hopefully there will no longer be any reason for any more miscarriages.

I am sorry for your loss. My sister and I have both suffered miscarriages. They are not easy. It is a very emotional time. It is not your fault. They say that almost all women will have miscarried in their lifetimes and just won't know it. What that means is, it is not your fault. You will have your baby. My sister and I have 4 children each now. Just relax and let things happen naturally. Allow yourself to grieve.

i am so sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage. it is not your fault, i believe that everything that happens is the work of the lord. and he wouldnt do anything unto you without there being a reason. dont blame yourself, you had nothing to do with what happened and you shouldnt beat yourself up about it.

I'm sorry for your loss, glords. These emotions come with dealing with such a loss. I don't really know how to advise you on this one as I've never been in a situation or know someone who has but yes, the doctor is right. It is not your fault and I hope you always remember that. I hope you and your husband know that you have each other and your friends and family who are also there to support you whenever you need them. Take care and stay strong.

I am really sorry this happened. I know people who have gone through this, but I haven't. I remember when I first got pregnant 19 years ago, the Doc said it was early and anything could still happen and to just go normally about my business that he did not see any problems and that if a miscarriage should happen it simply meant the pregnancy didn't take properly and I thought about his words and realized that I already loved the little baby and wanted it very badly so I know you hurt for your loss, but it is not your fault or anyones. Happy thought don't come easily in times like this, feel what you feel and accept your feelings. Do not feel bad for feeling bad, don't fight the feeling just know it is how it is right now and pray for peace on this and everything else that ever happens. Cyber hug sister and pamper yourself right now!

I have had three miscarriages the last one was my most painful emotional because i felt it was meant to be. all happned about 6 weeks along. The only advice i can give you is to let time heal you. Go to counseling if you need to but be sure and find someone who will listen to you if you need to talk. Miscarriage is losing someone who you loved. You need to go through the grieving process to deal with it. I am sorry to hear of your loss, I wish you well in the future

i think its normal. My mom had 3 miscarriages and out of 5 pregnancies, she only gave birth to 1 and that was me. you happen to lost your soon to be child in that incident so i guess you'll be extra careful the next time you get pregnant.

Yes, I have had a miscarriage. Mine happened in February of this year. I was six months pregnant when it happened. I was very depressed and I moped and cried for days on end afterwards. I did end up getting put on a depression medication because I was just not functioning. I would say, yes see your OB doctor and request an anti-depressant. They will be able to help you out. It happens and it is best not to blame yourself. I think you will get through it and you will actually learn from your experience. Good luck and if you need to chat just let me know.

m really sorry........ its unfortunate but be brave..........

That is unfortunate but don't give up. I am sure you will be successful the next time. It is not your fault or anyone elses -its sometimes happen without any reason. I have never had a miscarriage but I have been trying to have a baby for along time now and it is very frustrating and sad to find that every month that I am not pregnant. But I know, when the time is right, I will have a beautiful baby in my arms. So will you - so don't worry, go out and be with your friends and family. Take care.