My boyfriend: The future Sailor.
By melissacus
@melissacus (441)
United States
November 2, 2008 1:21am CST
I'm 19 years old and I've been dating my boyfriend more than 3 years now. We live in a tiny town so it's really difficult to start a life here, especially if you don't have a scholarship for a big college or parents with money. So, he's made a decision to join the service in the beginning of next year. I support him %100, but I'm scared to death at the same time. I know since he's joining The Navy that his chance at encountering combat is extremely slim, so I'm not worried about that. I'm worried about our relationship and being away from him for 2 years+. I just keep running the worst case scenarios in my head. He arrives and meets a beautiful, smart, intelligent girl who's perfect for him and the next thing I know, we're done. Or he attends and after awhile he realized he doesn't want a marriage when he gets home, let alone a serious relationship, and we're done. I'm probably just being a drama queen about the whole thing. Girls: Have you ever been in a similar situation? Guys: Have you ever been the one that's leaving? I just need some perpective and opinions, and HOPEFULLY some reassurance on the matter. I would appreciate it greatly!! :)
2 responses
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
2 Nov 08
I see where your coming from. Ive heard alot of stories of men who dont stay faithful when they leave for the army or navy or whatnot. But those couples are usually new and not 100% committed yet. You've already been dating this guy for 3 years, and I know hes not about to throw that away for some hussy while hes away from you. That would just be three years out the door for a one night stand, and he will realize that its totally not worth it. I wouldnt worry if I was you at all. He has a loving girlfriend, and by reading this post you sound very supportive, and not jealous, and confident with your relatinship. What more could a guy want? He wont screw this up.
@melissacus (441)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Thanks a lot. I think I just needed someone else to tell me what I already know. Thanks for knockin sense into me.
:)
@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
2 Nov 08
Hi melissacus. Thank you for initiating an exceptional topic of discussion.
I myself was sailor, not on navy but in merchant navy that is commercial ships carrying cargo from country to contry and crusie vessels. I started my sailing carrier 34 years before and now retired. I have a happy family with grown up children.
So becoming a sailor is not bad. It is the the person - who is good or bad not the profession. A person with good will power can reamin good always.
It is not only saliors, in other rpofession also amny bad guys causing broken homes.
So don't worry.
@melissacus (441)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I completely agree. It does have to do with the person, not the profession. Thanks for the response. :)
