felling guilty for self love?
By Dragonofgold
@Dragonofgold (509)
Canada
November 2, 2008 7:29pm CST
I find that I feel guilty when I buy something for myself even if I need it, like a new winter coat (and in Canada, that is essential, I must say). I have this idea in my head that I should make sure that the family is provided for before me. It took a long time for my husband to make me understand that taking care of me is also taking care of the family, cuz if mommy aint happy, aint nobody happy. Does anyone else experience the guilt?
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@latriciajones (846)
• United States
3 Nov 08
i have that same feeling. like if i even go get my nails done i always feel like i should do something for my kids and my husband. i feel like if one can get then we all should get. but let me tell you my husband is nothng like me. he will go out and buy a whole wardrobe and not even stop once to ask if i would like something.i guess that has alot to do with the fact that every time he does ask i always say no thanks and so now he doesnt even ask.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
3 Nov 08
It is well known in my household that I will not buy anything for myself if someone else needs something. I always put the needs of my children and my husband before my own. I waited 4 months before buying new shoes, until I had literallt walked through the solesd of the ones I was wearing before I bought new ones. My husband got so frustrated with me and told me that I needed shoes to work and take care of the kids. I finally gave in and bought myself a pair, but I still felt guilty about it.
