fantasies - should we go for them or leave them as make-believe?

I think it depends on the fantasy. It's pretty common knowledge that threesomes never go as well as you imagine them to, but other fantasies might not be so bad. I think as long as both (or all) participants think they would enjoy the fantasy, it's worth trying at least once.

That's funny you said that abwig...my mom once long time ago was one who used wigs alot and when I mean a lot I mean a lot....people did not know her true hair from the wigs and they were different colors...well one day she decided to play a joke on my dad and her family was in on it...she dressed a whole new way, wore different makeup and put on a new wig...then my grandfather asked him to come over and she introduced herself as someone else and he did not know it was her...and right there in front of my grandparents she flirted with him and even sat in his lap and still did not know...all he said he kept saying was..."I don't know you." and of course she was like "yeah you do." They still laugh about it today. That's all innocent kind of fantasies. But some fantasies are meant for the head and they should stay out of the bed. Because when it's a fantasy you can change it around any way you want, once it happens that's it...it's done and what may have happened is not what you intended as an end result.

the fantasies work for me. i really makes me feel satisfied after the "thing". oh well, except the fantasies with 5 guys and a girl... stuff like that. haha. i would never do that, i think. i mean, it's safer to go mono than poly. maybe if im confronted with that situation, i'd do my best to weigh pros and cons before i would get to the act... i really don't know. but i guess i would think about it first..... oh no... i don't know!!! hahahaha. i'm confused! but with the thing about wearing a wig for my hubby? no, i won't do that. it would hurt me a little, for me to pretend that i am someone else so he would be aroused... that would hurt me. (and the thing above won't hurt him! waaah. im selfish, right?) well, getting down to it, i guess fantasies are okay unless they would, like, not make them into habits. maybe once in two months, or something like that, would do. :)

I think you should act on every fantasie! You only live once, so why not make it exciting?