All I'm asking is for "ONE MORE CHANCE"...
By kissie34
@kissie34 (2294)
Philippines
November 2, 2008 8:20pm CST
Would you ever give "one more chance" to someone who breaks your heart?? Would you accept him/her again in your life?? Would you still want to be with him/her after all the heartbreaks she/he cause to you??
This is the scenario.. You and your partner had spend more than 8 years as boy-girl relationship.. No doubt that you both love each other.. 6 months from now is your wedding.. The girl love the guy very much, the more guy love the girl more than his life.. However, the guy is very demanding and obsessive.. He wants their relationship to be perfect and he will do everything for the girl even the girl didn't asked for it.. When the girl had a problem, the guy always make the solution to solve the problem even though the girl don't want him to solve the problem.. The girl don't have the right to make a decision for her own life and for her own work.. The guy always make the decision for her.. The point is the guy wants her to stay in her job because they need to save money for their wedding and for their family.. But the girl isn't happy with her job because the girl don't have a good relationship with her boss.. Then one day, the girl had woke up and feels that there is something wrong with her and with their relationship.. It seems that she need some space and she wants to do something with her own likes and decision for her life.. So, the girl had talked to the guy and told him all the things that she fell.. Well, the guy didn't understand her because the guy thinks that they don't have a problem and everything is perfect.. He thinks that he can make a solution with what the girl feels.. He thinks that he can do something to make their relationship work.. But the girl had made already a decision and that is to broke up with him.. The guy don't want to accept it and trying his best to solve what's bothering on the girl mind.. The girl doesn't really want to broke up with her but if she still stay with him she can't find her self already and the more she will feel that there is something empty in her life.. So, she stand on her decision and that is to left her boyfriend... The guy can't accept the decision of the girl.. He tried everything to get the girl back.. He never surrendered until one day he saw the girl with someone else (the guy is just a new friend of th girl).. He thought that the girl left him because of another guy.. Because of what he saw, it seems that his life isn't worthy already.. He stayed at home for days, weeks, and months.. He was always drunk.. For 6 months, his life was miserable.. He lost his job and even his life...
A year after, he met someone.. He thought he will not love again but when he met this girl everything had changed.. He get his life again.. The girl gives him a new life.. But for this time, he changed the way he treat their relationship.. He makes sure that the girl can decide for her self, he will not make any solutions to a problem if the girl didn't asked for it, and most of all he will not do something without asking the girl whether it is ok or not... They spend their relationship very happy.. He thought that everything is okay, everything is perfect..
One day, there is a reunion with their friends.. They both invited to come to the reunion.. The guy thought that it is already the time to meet her again since he is already ok.. But when he saw the girl again he realize that the pain is still there.. He still want the girl to his life.. On the other hand, when the girl had saw the guy she realized that she still love the guy.. She still wants to be part of his life.. But then the girl had found out that the guy had already a new girl.. The guy brought his new girl in the reunion and he let his friends know that that is her new girl.. The girl feels so bad of what she had heard.. She can't believe that the guy has finally moved on and forget her.. She was really hurt..
One of their friends invite them to go for a vacation in one island.. They will spend there for 2 weeks.. They both attend to the invitation.. They spend together for 2weeks as a friend (well, the guy didn't bring his new girl since the girl is very busy in her job)... They had spend together again and enjoyed each other company.. However, 3days before going home from the vacation the new girl had arrived in their vacation.. The guy didn't know that the girl will come.. So, of course the guy spend his 3 days stayed in the vacation with her new girl.. Well, because of what had happened in the vacation they both realized that they still love each other.. But the guy don't want to hurt the girl because he knows that the girl really loves him.. Of course, no matter how hard the guy keep his feeling to his ex, the new girl can still feel that there is something wrong to the guy.. So, the girl finally decided to confront the guy and she asked him if he still in love with his ex.. The guy can't answer her.. The guy had just told her I love you and I don't want to hurt you.. Because of what the guy said, the girl had the feeling that the answer is yes.. So, he told the guy to close his eyes so that when she get hurt the guy won't see it.. Then again she asked the guy the same question (this time the guy is closing his eyes). The guy can't still answer.. But the girl want to know the truth because the more she feels hurt when every time she saw him hurting.. So, the guy confess that he still love his ex and he's very sorry he really don't want to hurt her.. The girl was really hurt of what she heard (even though she was already expecting that answer).. The girl don't have a choice but to let him go.. The guy was very guilty of what he have done.. He knows that he had hurt her so bad..
Well, the girl still didn't know that they guy and his new girl had broke up already.. She confront the guy and she told him that she still love him.. If she can just go back to the past and changed what she had done then she will stay with him.. She was very sorry of what she had done.. She wants him back.. But the guy don't know what he really feel.. The pain is still in his heart and no matter how much he still in love with the girl, he can't decide to accept her again in his life.. The pain that he feels was still there and he can't forget what the girl had done to him..
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So, if you are in the situation of the guy would you still accept the girl in your life?? How would you deal with the pain you feel?? Is it easy for you to accept her again since you still love her?? Or you try to get the other girl back to you life even though you don't love her as much as you love your ex??
Does this scenario had happened to you?? If you have any opinions/ideas about this love story, please share it with us.. thanks for reading my long story.. Have a nice day! happy posting..
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7 responses
@artzone (22)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I did have an expreance of a guy in my life that broke my heart. Yes i did except him back into my life and heart only because i knew him that well. I knew he really didn't mean what he did. He was very sorry for what he did but most of all what got me the most is that he addmited that he did something very wrong. I was mad at him and disappointed that he did what he did that hurt me. But i could see in his eyes how much pain it caused him to hurt me the way he did. I knew from that time on that he would think twice or more before breaking my heart again. So far i am still with him married and have a daughter. If i was not with him still and if i desided not to forgive him i would not be were i am i am right now. Ever seen then thou he has done ever thing to his power not to break my heart. So in my own opion its up to the person if they want to forgive or not. If they truly know them and love them maybe it will still work out, but if they done this over and over again i would say show him the door. But it just depends on the person and how forgiving they are.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
That's great to know! At least you have a good experienced of giving a second chance for him.. Well,you are right! It is up to the person whether she/he will able to forgive and forget all the pain had cause and if how sincere that person is to come back in your life.. I'm glad that you made the right decision.. Well, yes if didn't able to forgive him and accept him in your life then you will not be happy as you were right now.. thanks a lot for sharing your experienced to me.. Happy posting!
@littleowl (7157)
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4 Nov 08
Oh dear kissie...from bitter experience it is never good to have someone back..it is never the same..I KNOW..the pain is hard to bear I loved my ex with my mind body and soul but for my own sanity, peace of mind, my children, and from being killed I HAD to leave him..I went through nervous breakdown one after the other it took me 4yrs to get over him but it would never be the same to have an ex back, I did and it was worse..so please please tell your friend or whoever Not to have him back no matter what..your friend littleowl
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Oh! I'm sorry to know that! Well, in your case that guy don't deserved another chance even just to be a friend.. I hope you cope up already and find someone that really deserve for you.. Just forget that guy and move on.. There are plenty of guys out there and I know that there is one guy for you.. Thanks for sharing your experience with me.. Happy posting!
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
One more chance is easy. But things will never be the same. I think it speaks of deeper connections when chance is being given. No one is impervious to pain and avoiding pain is not a good way to deal with it. Cheers!!
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Yes, i agree that giving one more chance is very easy especially if you still in love with him/her.. But the saddest part is if the relationship will be the same like before.. Of course, because of the past everything will be changed no matter how hard to not changed it still there are many changes.. Well, i think it is to the partner on how they want to handle their relationship.. If they can take all the changes that happen to them then they can live together forever but if both of them can't understand the situation and can't accept the changes that happened then it won't work at all.. So, for me it is really hard to be in the relationship for second time around.. Anyway, thanks for sharing..
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Well if Girl number one told you the truth when she broke up with you then honestly I don't see what she did was wrong. Yes, I am sure it hurt, but if she told you honestly she needed to live her life on her own it probably was because she felt lost in the relationship. Even alone. Like no one (not even you) could hear nor understand her. And it was good on her part to own up to this before the wedding.
And as for Girl number two, of course she already knew the answer. Women tend to understand what guys do action wise and we tend to pick up on little things. Again I know it caused pain but you were honest. And honesty hurts when it involves the heart.
And it would be difficult for you to try to go back with Girl number two because like you said you don't love her as much as Girl number one. I think you have your answer in your question.
You lived, learned and hurt. Now if you and Girl number one can talk through things and come to an understanding I can see a possible future. But with Girl number two...she will always be girl number two. Right? And that is not fair for her...she should be girl number one to someone who is in love with her.
Good luck.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Well said taraface412 ... I don't know what to say anymore.. Anyway, I'm agree with the girl decision of breaking up with guy since it is for her own good..I know that she hurt the guy so bad but at least the guy had experienced being love with other girl, right?? But sadly is that the guy doesn't love the girl as much he love his ex.. The girl number I think made the right decision of letting the guy go since the more she will be hurt if she keeps on pushing her self to the guy and fooling her self that the guy loves her the way she wants... Giving a second chance isn't that easy but if you love the person so much then why not?? Besides you are going to be happy again to the one you love..
Thanks again for sharing..
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Hi!
Wow, the story is quite long. But I have read it anyway. And it is so touching. I almost cry. Quite sad, but somehow I can relate. I think the guy should accept the girl once more. Everybody deserves a second chance. The pain eventually will go away after spending the times together as a couple again. It will go away, for love will emerge once again. It will hurt more if the guy will not let the girl feel his love once again. As they say, love is sweeter the second time. So, give it a shot. If the guy really loves the girl, go for it. It’s better to love again. No regrets in the end.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Thanks for reading my long story.. Well, yes you are right! The guy must really give the girl second chance since he still love her.. The pain will just fade away after spending each other company and love again.. But I hope that in real life, forgetting is kinda easy.. Anyway, thanks again..