genuine love?

hi dear fabjonah sure genuine love, but onesided ? what about him ? i hope you should have realised that one can have happy married life and all the bliss in the family and perhaps this kind of thing happens with most of the people but one has to get over the situation and must adjust according to the changed circumstances!! good luck and still it is time to get a good partner and get happily married and not wait for something to happen !!

I have never been in love like I can say that I can love him forever genuinely. Because one day I am in love with a guy and give everything I can to him to show how much I love him, but then later on after a few months I just get bored. I have never had a long relationship, I just got fed up easily with relationships. Sometimes, I can say that I can live without a man in life, sometimes I prefer to live with one. So I don't know what is genuine love and never felt it that way yet. Maybe you just need to keep looking for your soulmate, he might come and you never know what the future holds.

he was probably ur first love. but i think most people date similar type of people, and they marry the one with the best compatibility. you will probably marry another guy similar to him but better chemistry. so keep looking.

i want you to find anather guy because he is totally crook, leave him, he is now settled and i don't think so that he will come back again if fortunately he will come you shouldn't accept him because he betrayed you!!!

Hi my friend..actually i understand what you tried to express fully coz i have a similiar situation like you. Maybe the former mylotters thought that you're female..i didn't mean to be malicious coz i love a girl too..We're dorm-mates and she's lesbian she expresses love towards me..i never thought of loving a girl before but i do fall in love with her and get used to loving her&being with her..seems foolish?? But i have a very traditional family which doesn't allow homosexual things and i have a BF before that..But she said she would always be my side and never leave me..I think i'll never leave her too although i will get married in the future..maybe we're best friends or secret lovers in the future??I'm not so sure about future i only know i can't be away from her!The basis is that--love.Love is the foundation of every possibilities.My friend if he doesn't love you then every possibility come vain..tell yourself,"it's a beautiful dream that you can't get hold of".no one forces you to forget him..you can bear him in mind even if you have found a new love..Try doning something eles.Love is only part of life.Time will tell and life will continue~

Learn to break off and move on. If you keep hanging on to the memory of somebody you tend to compare your present relationships to what you had and that simply doesnt work out. Find somebody whom you can be comfortable with that you can connect with not only physically but also emotionally and intellectually. There are a lot of guys out there (not the jerky ones) who's just waiting out for someone whom they can share life with.

wow! thanks for sharing your story. i understand what u r going through. all i can say is start thinking of things that is possible. if u linger on to him, u gain nothing but are wasting ur precious time. there is a better life out there, better people who will love you and care for u. if u read one of the discussion that i've posted, u will understand why i've replied to u. its just so difficult to forget the one we have truly love and given ourselves for. its the same with me...he's still on my mind and memories are still so fresh after more than a year of breakup. and in ur case its 11 yrs which is simply a long long time. you have suffered too much. don't u love yourself? don't u love the one who will be your future partner. i believe u r a person who can really spread love and make others happy, so save ur precious love for the one who deserves it. but, like me u need freedom from ur past incident. pray for freedom from ur past bondage and move on.. m struggling too, friend and am simply tired but i have a hope that i'll be free one day...finally!!! take care.

hi there, fabjonah.. from what you've written, it seems that he was your "first.." we rarely forget our "firsts," because that is how we human beings are built.. the mere fact that he's already married should stop you from "wishing" you'd still be together.. if you really love him, you should set him - and yourself - free from the past. that is the past now. and the reality is, he is married.. don't fool yourself into thinking that if in case he gets divorced, he will come after you.. marriage is a lifetime commitment and in the eyes of GOD, it is something binding and sacred.. God's design for male-female relationships is MEN ARE INITIATORS, WOMEN ARE RESPONDERS; Marriage means ONE MAN-ONE WOMAN FOR LIFE. You said that you "started making friends with him". It seems it was you who made the first move.. you cannot blame him if he got mad at you.. perhaps all the while, he was thinking you were his bestfriend but somehow you've let something 'unwanted' happen.. in our lives, we can determine our level of maturity by how we respond to temptation. temptation begins in the mind. spare yourself of 'future' heartaches by LETTING GO of the PAST, LETTING GOD TAKE CONTROL and moving on with your life.. someone out there whom GOD has designed for you will come when you least expecct him.. in the meantime, enjoy life, meet friends, do something worthwhile (like a hobby or a craft, volunteering) with your time than wallowing in the past.. how am i able to say these things? i've learned my lessons the hard way.. and i am glad to say that now, at 31, i am single, joyful and content, just purposefully-waiting for the right one.. perhaps you may want to read joshua harris's book, "i kissed dating goodbye." happy myLotting, fabulous.. :)

me personally, i wouldnt becuase it has been 11 years since you guys have even talked and you have wasted alot of years of your life waiting on someone whois happily married. i could understand if you knew he wanted you too or even if showed you little signs of wanting you but he hasnt since the incident and to make matters worse he is married that ought to tell you whats up. you have to move on and find the one person that you are supposed to be with. you never know you could find someone that you realized makes him look like a dweeb.

Hi there. Just move on coz I understand your feelings. Once I was attracted to a guy who also liked me but then we depart. We never met and I keep the memory. Leave him behind though it's genuine love. He is already married and maybe he said he liked you was just friend type. Or he will not be mad after you slept together. Guys alway dreamed to have intimacy with the girl he likes. It's not you to be blamed that you slept together. You will finally meet a nice man who is so willing to be intimate with you, protect you rather than leave without an explanation and mad. It's not responsible, baby.

its better u let bygone be bygone . he is gone can't u see for you self? someone is out here looking for someone with true love like you but unfortunately u r hiding.. don't make urself surfer ok!! if you do not mind i like someone like you and if you give me a chance i shall prove to you!!!

The whole thing depends on these two facts 1. Did he love you?? 2. Is his marriage happy??

You should be happy on him now. Try to move on. You'll just end up hurting yourself. I recommend these because of my own experience too. My first love really felt crazy that I cared much more about her that I dont bother to take care of myself. I made some crazy decisions that considers me a fool for doing such things for her. I can't help it, I love her. But when we have our break-up I then realize that what I have done for her was not logical anymore. It was like I did'nt recognize myself anymore. I am so thankful of that break-up. Now I learned to prioritize myself first before my girlfriend. I learned not to be a fool anymore. There will be a time that you will forget him. It's just not right to stay like that. He is happy now. And it's time for you to be happy too.

common babes u just cant say that u were frinds with him and u never knew he did not have a girlfriend if it is really so then its just ur foolishness or that guy cleverly manipulated u and he too wanted what u did with him so better forget what happened and get on with ur life yaar get married and that will settle every thing i still cant believe that after 11 yrs ur still waiting for him or even asking us suggestions on this matter u i think must be mature enough by this time!!!!

I am sad because this happened to you but hoping that one day you will be together again was really a bit wishing too much. I do not think that is real love. For you to know that it is real love, three things must be present: 1. Commitment, the two of you and I say really both of you should be committed to each other mainly because 2. Romance - will not be there always. Romance is important becasue really, attraction should be there. You should desire the person you are with but biologically speaking, this only lasts two years, after, you are in the good hands of commitment. Lastly 3. you need Intimacy. Not physical intimacy but meeting of the minds. YOu have to be really good friends first before anything. The lack of any one of these will result in a disaster so the next time you fall in love again make sure you have all three. Good luck!