how you will control your dear?
By candysky
@candysky (855)
Malaysia
November 3, 2008 1:14am CST
hai all the mylotter... I wish to know whether will you control your dear? will check all his/her personal email, message, and all? will you control your dear by saying can't chat with other girls or guy?
well, for me, in a relationship, i think trust is very important... although i wish to know all the thing of my dear, but i won't go and check his personal things...
well, i will open this discussion is because my brother's girl friend, check all my brother things and not allow my brother talk to other girls... she has my brother messenger login id, she will login and check who my brother usually chat with and not allow the girl looking for my brother.... the worst things that i can't stand it, yesterday, my brother's friends (girl and very good with my family) looking for him and his girl friend go and reply and scored the girl... i feel that she is so rude... I don't think she has the right to scored... after she scored my brother friend, she is angry with my brother... after i chat with my brother friend, only i know that my brother has cancel his friendster because of his friendster has a lots of girl friends (normal just add as friend)....
so, I wish to know, will you control your dear like that or are you dear control you like that? if this is happen, can you stand with it? Thanks for taking time on reading my discussion....
4 responses
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Well I am not a cotrol freak same with my gf. We set our rules well I don't like her to chat. I trust her but not the men hahaha! I just love her that is why! She can go out without me same with me once in a while. But I just have to fetch her afterwards. I think everything that is to much is bad. We still do have our life even were in a relationship. Some of my office friends calls me up she even asked them if there is a problem or any massages. But she tells me! On IMESH she used it once in a while to unwind she sees some friends of mine and she tells me someone said hi to you. Were avoiding jealousy usually that is cause of a fight or arguements. I think what is important is believing your partner and trusting him more. Basicall we don't touch each other cell phones. I asked her who texted you and your so focus on it. She just answers me my Ate my older sister. Anyway have a nice day!
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 08
yes... jealousy usually that is cause of a fight or argument.. that's why for me and my dear, we always trust each other although we are long distance relationship and seldom meet each other, but we trust each other and believe we can stay together forever... so, trust is the most important issue in relationship....
Thanks for your response....
@landi927 (657)
• China
3 Nov 08
I won't do that! Although most of time I'm curious about who he is chatting with or other thing about my boyfriend, i won't check his personal things like cellphone or email. If i really want to know, i will ask him. Of course he will tell me. He has some very close friends, so do i. I don't like him to check me out all the time. So i think he doesn't like it that way too. So i choose to trust him.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 08
you are right... well, i also very curious on who the person talking or chatting with my dear, but i won't go and check his personal things.... it really rude... i think although after marriage, also can't do like that... we have to trust and respect our dear... that's why when i know my brother girl friend doing this thing, i really can't stand it... it is too much.... 
luckily my dear is so good.... 
Thanks for your response...
luckily my dear is so good....
Thanks for your response...
@gorjuzliz10 (201)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
even if you are involved or married to a person, i still don't think it's right to go through their personal belongings - like checking their phone, their email and things like that. it's just not about trust but respect as well. you have to respect their privacy as well... after all, they are still entitled to it. and sometimes,being too controlling can get suffocating to your partner.
