Effects of internet on a relationship....

the internet has no effect on mine and my boyfreinds relationship at all. this is because i only ever access the internet at work so it never takes up any of my freety time at home. also my boyfriend isnt really intrested in the internet. he only uses it when he needs to so it doesnt use his free time either

I totally understand where you are coming from. Cyber infidelity has been going on for many many years. People think it's OK to have deep discussions with others of the most attractive gender to them on a regular basis. However, infidelity hurts because of the breech of intimacy on a psychological level in relationships: "Why won't (s)he talk to me about those things??" I'm very lucky in that my beau has told me he will give me the password to his MySpace account. I never took him up on it but...the offer made me feel a lot better. I hope you discuss with Chad, openly and honestly, your thoughts on this. Good luck to you two!

Lexus, I feel for you girl but I think you should consider counselling cos there are some pretty deep rooted issues there from your preious relationship which can be destructive. This new guy seems great, and I know that some people can be unfaithful online....but he probably won't be. You seem very hung up on the issue and I think you should speak to someone. I wish you the best x

I'm glad that you realize that your trust issues are all about you, and not about Chad. And I do hope you're able to talk to him about this to help you to rebuild your trust in yourself regarding the man you choose to be with in your life. I have an ex husband who had goodness knows how many online affairs and in person affairs, so I know what you're going through. It's very difficult to stop those feelings of fear that swell up when you know the man you love is chatting it up with others online, so you need to be your own reminder that it's okay this time around. One of the issues I had with nuckfuts was his obvious hiding of all that he was up to online. Perhaps Chad can help you to ease your mind if you know you can check into his social networking site anytime you please? Sometimes just knowing you can do that, really makes all the difference. You will likely find too, that you won't even check, unless he's there with you. What helped me to get through my trust issues thanks to nuckfuts, was to regularly remind myself that my new lover wasn't my ex at all. I regularly reminded myself that my new lover had given me ZERO reasons to not trust him, and so I owed him that trust in return. That didn't stop the doubts from creeping up now and then, but over time, it did make it easier to talk myself into remembering that he was worthy of my trust. It's a slow process, but workable. Good luck! :)

i think you will complicate things further by worrying about it and confronting him about it. Iknow it is ratehr complicated and disconcerting for a woman if her man tlks to and firts with other women on the internet. I had a similar problem at home. There was a time when my wife thought I was probably going to desert her if i spoke toother women on the internet. i had a talk with her and told her that it has nothing to do with us. I love her dearly and will always love her no matter what and there was no quesiton of my deserting her. to me my family is very important. i told her that she shoud nto take my talking and flirting on teh internet seriously as it is just a make believe world and it is just something like a fantasy. The fantasy makes me love her more and does nto diminish my love for her. That is my free space in the marriage. I love her dearly and will do anything for her. She understood and since then she is more relaxed. its been over two years ago that we had this talk. I have never given her any cause for complaint on any front. I love her as much as i have always loved her. She does not bother about my talking to women on teh net. sometimes she teases me and says " Who are yo chatting with? Leave her and come here i am waitign for you." That is the level of comfort we enjoy. She does not use the internet and does nto chat but she accepts my chatting. If you love your man, just turn a blind eye to his chatting on the net. it can be difficult inthe beginning but just give it a try. It willgive you a lot of peace of mind. Have a heart to heart to talk with your man and make it clear that you have no objectionto his talkingn to other women on the internet but that you love him a lot and would never be able to bear losing him. Tell him that you trust him and know that he willnever desert her and that you do not mind giving him his free space. i am sure he will understand and respect yo for it and will be more devoted to you. Don't confront him for this as it will only turn him off and make him more distant.

Hello Lexus! What you felt is only normal. You can't stop to feel that way. I am married for 3 months now and we (my husband and I) are still separated because I can't immediately go to his country. My husband is not into social networking site, but If I will put your situation to me, I would feel jealous too because flirting online and in person made no difference. I can say there's no difference because you can fall in love too to the person whom you have talked online because I fell in love with my husband online. Like what you said, when you're at your sons father, he went online and flirted and meet women, you really have reasons to be jealous. You must be happy because he is willing to give up some social networking site because of you, it only means he loves you. Let's put it this way, maybe he is just jealous everytime you go to your ex's house that's why he express his jealousy by flirting someone too? Maybe it's just my imagination anyway. I got jealous too when my husband told me today that his daughter called him and want him to go with them with her ex - wife. I didn't tell him don't go because it's selfishness for me but honestly, i really got jealous.