i have a muslim bf , and i'm a christian.
@SImply_Close_To_JQ (29)
Malaysia
November 3, 2008 7:56am CST
Friends, i need yuor help, i have a muslim bf in Dubai, and i'm a christian of malaysian. i need to know what is the things i need to aware and also the details abt muslim. Does it effect my life once i married to a muslim guy? pls help me, i'm confuse..
8 responses
@seeiloveu (100)
• India
12 Nov 08
You do not have to worry ... If you love him with all your heart, then go ahead and continue with this relationship.
As Islam, his religion, accepts Christians within its fold, you can surely get married to him.
But be careful: He may ask you to change your religion; which you do not have to do ... Tell him that the Holy Book, Qu'ran, clearly mentions that Muslims can get married to Jews and Christians as they are People-of-the-Book.
However, if you were minis or short skirts or hot pants, then you will have to give them up and simply cover your whole body without doning the Veil ... Also, you will have to stop eating Pork or pig's meat (the Christians are also forbidden to do so; but they do not and that is another matter altogether) if you keep on filling your mouth with such depravity
I do not see any harm in your getting married to your Muslim BF fro, Dubai ... Go ahead; do it; you will enjoy it!
@urbandekay (18278)
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12 Nov 08
"...the Christians are also forbidden to do so; but they do not and that is another matter altogether"
No, that is not right, Christians are not forbidden from eating Pork.
all the best urban
@seeiloveu (100)
• India
13 Nov 08
Prophet Jesus Christ (MPUH), after whom the faith/religion, Christanity, is named was born of Virgin Mary, who herself was a Jew.
Thus, not only did the Prophet underwent circumsion (a Jewish/Muslim practice), but also told his followers not to eat pig's meat. (Both, Jews and Muslims do not eat the pig's meat!)
The reason for this is simple: As pigs thrive on all the dirt in the world, they actually help us to keep the world free of dirt. Pigs were created by the Almighty for this purpose only; not for us to eat.
You have to read the true- and right-Bible carefully to notice this fact.
@urbandekay (18278)
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13 Nov 08
Clearly you are unfamiliar with scripture, the prohibition on Pork was lifted, you need to read Acts.
Also you are clearly unfamiliar with pigs which are in fact remarkably clean and intelligent creatures in their natural habitat. Prohibiting eating of Pork makes sense if you are a Jewish tribe wandering about the desert. Pigs carry the eggs of the human tapeworm and can transit this when incorrectly cooked. In settled communities with proper hygiene standards there is no danger. This like many parts of scripture is a practical rule intended only for the time.
The same might be said of the barbaric practice of circumcision, this makes sense if you are a wandering tribe but it child abuse in modern society
all the best urban
@headhunter525 (3548)
• India
14 Dec 08
If you want to be a faithful Christian, then you cannot marry a Muslim. That's very clear.
@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
13 Nov 08
I have a Catholic friend who married a muslim while in the middle east. They both are fantastic people who love each other and their two lovely daughters.
However his family, particularly the mother made life impossible for them. And since Ameen was their only son, matters became quite intolerable. My friend was miserable for years, till they as a couple decided that enough was enough and migrated to Canada.
There, away from the influences of the family, they have found strength in their relationships and have established a high quality life.
In your case since you hail from Malaysia which is a muslim country as well, you are aware of the difficulties that cross-religious marriages impose. Of particular focus would be the law that children are automatically considered moslem if the father is muslim.
1, Are you prepared to live with that?
2. Under muslim law, both in Dubai and in Malaysia, your lover is entitled to take on more than one wife. Is that acceptable to you?
While Dubai is not so bad as Saudi Arabia, you would still - as the wife of a muslim be expected to follow the Islamic code of behaviour. Do you want that?
Even in relatively moderate Egypt there are horror stories - see this one: http://www.christianpost.com/article/20081006/mother-fights-to-keep-twins-from-muslim-father.htm
If after looking at all the aspects, you still feel that your love is greater than your fears - all I can say is Cheers! Here is to a good life!
@urbandekay (18278)
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12 Nov 08
I think you should be very, very wary. Whilst no as oppressive as Saudi, Christians are still persecuted in Dubai and not afforded the freedom to practice their religion except behind closed doors. People have been arrested there for carrying the Bible. If you marry a Muslim you will almost certainly have to convert.
all the best urban
@kheealam (95)
• Pakistan
13 Dec 08
Be a MUSLIM and dont afraid of its consequences ALLAH will do better for you.If wanna be a MUSLIM then you must marry a MUSLIM.Marring to a MUSLIM would affect your life you you do wear vulgar clothes like shorts skirts.In ISLAM it is not allowed.Because if you do that then you are attracting others.
@Harley009 (1416)
• India
4 Nov 08
A Muslim is supposed to marry a Muslim. However a Muslim can marry a Christian or Jewish who believe in ONE GOD in certain conditions. If lady don't have clear faith in One God, many scholars object in getting marred with her, some agree though. If he is a good and tolerant one there not going to have any problem. Both of you need to adjust and respect each other and with beliefs as well.
Wish you all the best.
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
3 Nov 08
There are a lot of things...
1) What branch of Islam is he a part of... Sunni, Shaii, what??
2) How religious is his family?
This is important because his family will cause the both of you problems since it isnt overly common for a non-muslim to marry a muslim.
3) Are you considering converting to Islam??
4) Learn about islam... you could message me about any specific question you may have just add me as a friend...
This is important because you need to understand his faith and he clearly needs to understand yours... only fair right?
5) How is your family taking the news of your relationship? What about his?
There are a lot of things you need to consider and take into consideration... these are just a few that come to mind..
