my daughter is being a brat

Hi, cnkpeters. Sitting her down and talking to her will let her see that you are utterly serious about her attitude. You should let her know that calling you stupid is very unacceptable. You are her mother and she is your daughter. She is just too young to be saying negative words like this around you. Nip the problem in the bud before it gets worse. Tell her that calling someone stupid is very mean to do.

Try what we do when kids in school use abusive words. Tell her before she does it that there is a new rule in the house. Abusive words will not be heard and you will walk away and will NOT respond when she says such things. In order for you TO respond she must apologize and take a "time out" to think about what she said. A great deal of the time, that makes a child think and the act of using abusive words is not fun at all when they do not have an audience to listen or to argue with.

Ahhhhhhhh.. the 1st grade! This is a word that she has picked up from her classmates. I'll bet that she really has no concept of what the word means, but because she hears it at school (probably directed at her or her friends). She's repeating it as part of conversation with you. If you explain what the word means in terms tat she can understand and explain how hurtful it is (ask her how it makes her feel to hear her classmates call her or her friends "stupid") Chances are, she will stop, if not, don't take offense to the word, and ignore it.

Well i had a similar experience with my cousins 4 year old... he would always call me names in Arabic. Why is the language important here? Well a single word has many different ways to say it... so i would simply at times (if i was feeling patient enough) do you really think i am that?? Why would you say that? Do this with your daughter i believe it will be more effective since she is older and will understand this sort of logic approach. Ask her why she has a need to say that to you... would she like it if someone kept calling her stupid?? She probably just doesn't know how to respond to you or to what you two are talking about and finds that ends it effectively... don't let the word "stupid" be the way out word.