Falling In Love

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How many of you believe in love at first site? Do you believe in lust is needed first? Personally, I think that you need to know the person, (like friends first,) before you can have love. Or, if you just met the person, (like at a bar,) then, lust is needed first. If you don't have physical attraction, then a relationship would not be able to be formed. I met my boyfriend in high school. I didn't even really know him before I started dating him. I had heard about his reputation, which wasn't exactly the best in the world. I think that it was the best decision i ever made in my life. I thought about saying no and avoiding him because I had heard he was into drugs and was just a "player," but when I started talking to him and really started to get to know him, I realized he had grown up and truly was over his drug phase and had successfully given up anything like that. When he met me, he quit drinking and doing all those drugs. I never asked him to, but I did come straight out and tell him that people who do drugs will never get anywhere near where they could in life because they are wasting their time and money on drugs. He quit all that shortly after we started dating. When we first started dating, I didn't have a clue where it was going, and really didn't care. He was the first boyfriend that I could honestly say that I wouldn't have been completely broken-hearted if we broke up after the first couple of weeks. Before, I was the kind of girl who cried for a week for a guy I had just met and been dating for a couple of days. I felt like I had grown up. It was like, "Life could go on," if we didn't make it to marriage...and here we are. I am married to him and couldn't imagine life without him. I think he made me grow up and put a real life perspective out there for me. He wasn't a, "player,' like everyone said. He was sweet and considerate and just hadn't found a lot of potentially serious relationships. He had dated several people, but just because he didn't stay with someone he didn't want to stay with. It made sense. I had always just stayed with someone until they drove me nuts or they did something to really hurt me, (like cheat,) and he knew he had so many other options and being single wasn't the worst thing in the world. I think what helped us out a lot was the fact that we were so open with what we wanted and what we didn't want. I told him I didn't want someone who is on drugs or someone who thinks he can cheat and get away with it. I was very straight forward and wasn't afraid of what he would think, and he was the same way. I told him that if he ever cheated on me, I would castrate him and he told me that he would beat whoever the guy was and never have anything more to do with me. We were very honest and that was the basis for our relationship. There was definitely lust in our relationship, and there still is, but after we had been dating a while, we realized that there was love there. It wasn't puppy love because it had to develop like any adult love does. I am happily married and want to spend as much time with him as much as I can.