Who are you?

Everyone can change, although the older we get the harder it is to change. But, once you get to my age, you start to wonder why bother changing?

Hi Sheepie, We change as we get older as we learn more of life and and live the way we want to by doing that we will know ourselves. Tamara

We are what we learn from reading, what we see on television. We learn a lot from social interaction. I do believe that we can change our ideas our behaviour by exchanging views and socialising with others. © ronaldinu 2008

What an excellent discussion, Sheepie. I do not believe that I am going to do it any justice with my answer. But the topic interests me quite a lot. I disagree that we are born knowing absolutely nothing (although I know the point you are making - we are a clean slate, a tabula rosa). I believe that our personalities begin to form even in utero and that the preg. mother's health and surroundings affect personality greatly. It seems apparent to me that a mother's choices can have lasting effects on a childs temperments. What are we, really? Can we be changed? While I believe there is a core personality or temperment that will always prevail in each of us, I tend to believe that we can change the forces of brainwashing or other influences. The mind, body, spirit is a powerful thing and when used together can do and achieve amazing things.

Yes we can be brain wash with all kinds of things are parents told us all about the good and bad things so we could make up our mind our selfs if it right or wrong. cd

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I believe we are born with a certain temperament that can't be changed but can be enhanced through nurturing by our parents, friends, etc. Look at all the kids that are treated like crap yet grow up to be wonderful parents. Other kids get the same treatment and pass it on to their own kids. Some grow up in respectable hard working households yet turn into criminals and others are raised in squalor and crime and become upstanding citizens. That's temperament. Personality is what we develop as our social defense/offense, what people get to know as they associate with us. Personalities can change, of course, depending on what a person experiences.

I think we can certainly be influenced by the tribe we hang with. No matter how we've been brought up, it's easy to conform to a different group if we start work in a new office, attend a school or university where behaviour differs from what we are used to. I remember taking up smoking when I started my first job because I was in a huge room where everyone had an ashtray on their desk and they all smoked. I also had another job where there was a great deal of foul language used. At first it shocked me - but it was even more horrifying to hear myself using the same language after a while, and barely noticing. We have to be careful of how we're allowing others to see us, so it's important to retain our integrity.

Who am I? ME, and yes, we are influenced by where we were born and where we were raised and other people along the way, in the end we take what we like and discard what we don't. We can change, it is a matter of wanting to change.

We are what we are tought as children. BUT when growing up we see the world with our own two eyes, using our own brain and therefor should be able to see the world our way. Unfortunally not many people do that and live their lifes as they were tought. one example: I have a cousin who is a medical doctor, she is over 40y old now. When she was growing up her parents didnt have enough time for her so she always resented that. I understand that she missed them or whatever, but she is a grown up now and educated too so one would assume she would use her own head to change this and try to make things work with her parents, afterall thats what they are, but no she is still acting just like she did when she was growing up. Meaning she acts at this age exactly as she was tought before. Even though she could change this. So just like she many people always stay the same and either dont want to change or dont know how to change or just dot see the wider picture. And those people will never know who they are as they will always live in a cage that was made for them while growing up.