i cant get help!
By deedeehall
@deedeehall (1144)
United States
November 4, 2008 4:12pm CST
hi every one i have triplet boys i went to school for nursing and changed my carrieer when my children were born so that i could work around my husbands hours they were born two months earley and really needed me with them.however my husband did not make enough money that i could stay home so i started my own cleaning service which has been a very good money maker.i have worked very hard to please my customers and love them dearley.i do alot of comercial buildings that require me to go in like two and three in the morning.which is what works better for my husbands schedule and allows me to be with my children with out day care.now my boys are six years old with no medical problems and i thought i would change my schedule when they went to school but i have learned very quicley that kids are out of school alot and need to be droped off and picked up.and then there is summer . ilove them dearley and do not mind doing this for them.but i can not get my husband to help any at all.i have needed my speaker wires connected for over a year my boys and i listen to a small radio that we plug in to in the kitchen.he wanted to live on afarm but our fences are falling down.i can not get him to pick his clothes up off of the floor or help with the kids and when he does take the kids he brings them back in an hour and tells me every thing bad they have done.we get in a big fight .he cares for the cattle and walks in the house with cow droppings on his shoes he gets mad if i ask him to help with any thing.i have been working this schedule for six years careing for the kids and fighting for help.do you think i am being takeing for granted?what should i do?i would come home after cleaning buildings earley in the morning and my husband would be coming out of the barn he said he was takeing care of the cattle.my children would be inside sleeping i ask him what if there was afire and you were not there to get them out.and this defetes my purpose of working these hours if he is not going to watch them. my boys later found play boy books in the barn loft which explained why he was up there in the first place. i am sending my boys to a christen school and this hurt me when i found this out.please help me what do you think?
2 responses
@tamarrairs (54)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Since you are their mother, its natural that you want to be the one that's there for them all the time. Your husband may have taken that for granted and believes that you still have that attitude. Have you tried talking to him about it? If not, that would be a crucial first step.
If you've tried talking and that didn't help, try letting him see what it's like to be in your shoes. This can be done several different ways; however, every way may not be right for you. Think of something and don't be afraid to think outside the box.
We women have lots of power over men. Believe me, we have them on a string! We're the one's who decide on how much slack we give them...