Who's responsible for your child's education?

Do you believe the schools and teachers are completely responsible for a child's education? No....not at all..education IMO should begin in the home LONG before a child enters the school system...Once they are in the system I think the MAIN teaching is the responsiblity of the school/teachers BUT we as parents/caregivers also are responsible at home AND workign WITH the school/teachers. If your child isn't doing well in school, do you think it's the school's fault, and they should be the ones to step in and offer the extra help? It would depend really..I mean if the teacher/teachers arent doign their job or doing it right then the fault does lay mainly on them IMO BUT its also the fault of the parent/caregiver for not being on the ball ya know... What would you think of a parent who stood back while their child was almost failing, and did nothing to help them succeed, and placed all their hopes on the school to stop the child from falling behind? I would think that parent/caregiver needs a good slap upside the head to be perfectly honest with you...As much as yes the school has a job to do the bottomline IMO is this..WE as the parents/caregviers are SOLELY responsible of making sure the school is doing their job..and doign it right..

although the local board of education believe they are the ones that are responsible, i believe it is a partnership in the sense that the parents are responsible for the discipline and reinforcing the learning, the teachers are responsible for introducing the children to new ideas. HOWEVER, the parents need to be on top of the teachers and the school system as what you mentioned about the child, it is not the first time i have heard of this happening.

I think it is a partnership between the school and the parents to make sure that children succeed academically. If your child is failing in school then you have a parent-teacher meeting. It's both of their responsibilities. If my daughter is ever having trouble or failing I am personally requesting one of those meetings so that we can develop a plan to help her. I want nothing more for her than to go as far as she can go in life and having a good education makes up about %70 of her success rate. I did okay in school but I never really excelled in anything so I would want her to do that. She doesn't have to get straight A's and be on honor roll everytime but I would want her to enjoy learning and try to give a little extra effort.

I believe that the responsibly to educate a child is the parent’s responsibility and the school’s responsibility. It is not one or the other in my opinion, they need to work together. I stayed at home with my daughter since she was 9 months. At 2 years of age, she started learning the letters and the sounds they make. She is 4 now and can write and sound out most 3 and 4 letter words. She just entered pre-k and is relearning most of the stuff, but I like to feel that I did a good deed by getting her a jump start. But, I was surprised how many people frowned on me teaching her at home. I heard everything from “she is going to be a geek with no friends,” “why bother she is just going to learn it in school,” and so forth.

The parents are equally responsible for a child's education as school. Child only spends 7-8 hours in school and the rest of 16 hours at home. So he spends more time with parents than school. And its the responsibility of parents to teach their child everything they can.

The parents are the primary teachers of their children. Whether they realize it or not they control how much their child wants to learn and even what they enjoy learning. If they find that their child is failing and does not care, they need to evaluate how much they emphasize learning in their house. The schools are supposed to help the parents teach students with specific information on subjects that the parents may not know well, but they are NOT the primary teachers of children. Parents are.

it is not only school. But i guess the education starts from Home. but school plays a great role in education a sit is primarily meant for it only. so I think all these are needed

Parents cannot fully depend on the school and teachers alone for the success or failure of child's education, they should also take equal part in their child's studies, what is the use of ignoring their duties first and later blaming the school, it will not help their child to improve, school teachers have to take care of several students in school, its not fair to expect them to give individual attention to each and every student, that thing parents can do at home.. happy posting

This is complicated to answer because it depends what you view as 'education'. I believe schools are responsible for the state standards of education - what they test your children on periodically during the year that in turn decides whether they will promote to the next grade level or not. I believe the teachers and schools have a responsibility to teach these concepts and allow enough practice time AT school to meet minimum requirements for all the students in a particular class. OUTSIDE of class, parents are responsible for educational concepts that do NOT take place in a classroom, such as proper behavior with family and friends, in public, how to deal with strangers, how to handle disagreements, becoming responsible for yourself - cleaning up, taking care of your possessions, and life skills. I do not think that parents should be responsible for doing HOURS of SCHOOL WORK that should be done at school. Kids need this time away from school to exercise, to play, to spend time with friends, and to pursue hobbies and fun. When you have a child who is not doing well at school, you need to look at several causes. Some kids do not have the attention span to actually LEARN a concept in complete, so when they are asked to show that they have learned a concept, they can't because they didn't. Some kids are BORED because they pick up the concept immediately and after that do not want to do 5 pages of repetitive busywork for no reason. They are smart enough to know it's a waste of everybody's time and they don't want to do it. I think if kids can prove they know something, there is no need for repetitive busywork. Some kids truly have trouble learning and work slow - only the kids in the LAST group should be worried about considerably. I would think this would be aided best by a joint effort from both teacher and parent to help them get caught up. I do not think it is ALL the school's responsibility, neither do I think it is ALL the parent's. Parents' main job is to care for kids and teach them life skills, not english, math, and science. Schools teach subjects, certainly, and they also teach social skills and kids learn how to interact and be part of a community at school. Another issue with older kids considerably is that they are not motivated and they do not want to do work so they don't. With THIS issue, I think that a parent has to begin staying in regular touch with teachers and the teachers with the parent, and the kid should KNOW that mom and teacher are talking daily and know what is due each day and what is coming up, so they cannot lie or put off things. I have dealt with this - I expect my CHILD to start being responsible, and I do what I need to to stay in touch with the school and then he can't lie and has no excuse when something is not completed.

There are many angles to view this situation..First of all, the school promisies competetive education and attracts students..They have to comply their promises..Students spend most of their day in the school and that is where majority of chanhges should happen.It is the school,which should create the interest among the students to study, achieve.. But as parents, we should not lose our lives in office and forget the child.We have to monitor the improvement of our kid and take appropriate action whenever necessary to bring back the kid in track if he goes out of it.We should spend quality time with our kids and should give them comfort and confidence whenever they fall below the expectatation..It should be the combined effort of the school and the parents which could make a bright carrer for a kid. Those who ignore their kid and stand back in their duties towards their kid is not eligible to a parent at all

the child's foundation starts in the family. In my case, i do always read to my kids, then i teach them the colors, we sing the alphabet song, i teach them how to count. Learning should be fun so we do it when we are playing, well, there are a lot of ways to make learning fun. And when my kids started schooling, they didnt have hard time. School is just one factor. There are a lot of terror teachers, or those who teaches with no heart. So as a parent, i think if our kids dont feel at ease in school, we should also find time to ask our kids and listen to them. If our kids are intelligent but they dont really do their best in school, there must be something wrong... it happened to me, so i did my best to talk to my kid as a mom and friend, and i have done everything but it seemed it didnt work out, now, i transferred my kid to other school and he's now doing great and enjoys in his school. To those parents who dont do anything, maybe, they're not really aware that they lack support to their kids. or they also dont know what to do to help their kids...

I Take it "what would you think if a parent stood back while there child was almost failing" is getting at me. You started that discussion. No one is stepping completely back. You read it all wrong just like the last time I wrote on one of your discussions, that was an argument too far also, you always snap at answers you do not like or twist them. You might have sent me this by privite mail, So since you posted this up it is not nice, I am shaking here writing this thanks to me answering your discussion, so I am doing it back posting it up. You are the only one that does this every time here on mylot. Discussions are peoples opinions and help. I will answer this anyway. Education is the main thing in the life of the human being. It helps to differentiate humans from animals. So, it is very necessary to teach the children properly. 'Teachers' and 'parents' are the main person who gives shape to the future of the child and if they are not skillful enough to teach their child, then the child can not achieve the goal for which he has come to this world. It is very important that they should not be partial among the students as they are hampering the future of the child. It is also important that a child should not be treated like a dumb animal who gets scolding all the time from its master. Nevertheless it's very important to understand the feelings of a child because if failed to do so then the consequences will be very unpredictable. The child could either be a next Einstein, the underworld don or the next mental hospital patient. But, generally the last two options are more feasible as it's a very rare case to find an Einstein in this world. I really feel that no child is a born criminal; it is his parents and teachers who force him to become what he is. Today, mostly all parents and teachers wants the child to be genius in just few conventional fields like engineering, medical, commerce, etc. while totally ignoring the interest of the kid. This results in the development of tension, rudeness, depression, uneasiness, inferiority complex and aggression in the child which further hampers him. So, I strictly feel that if child is not successful then it is the 'parents' and 'teachers' who are responsible rather than the kid as they were not skillful enough to identify the talent of the child and mould it into a power which the whole world can reckon because every child in this world has some talent which requires a guide for its recognition and enhancement. I did not tell you to stand back and let your son fail. I do everything to help my kids two are at univercity today because of me, but you cannot make a child learn something it does not want to at that time.

i think teachers and parents are all responsible for children's education! they must work hard together for children's education! it's not enough if just only one hand!

Boy, do you want a nice response or an honest one? I'll be half way nice with how I think of the school system. It is horrid! Education today is just a joke, a place to stick kids so the parents don't have to worry about them. Sorry, but I see too many kids graduating who don't even know how to do basic math or ever picked up a book. I have seen teachers running out of the classrooms as fast as the kids nowadays, it is just a paycheck to them. That is why I couldn't stand the public school system for my son, instead I enrolled him to an online school, and he is doing great! First quarter is over, and he made honor roll. When he was at a public school, all they did was wonder what to wear and sometimes n class the teacher wasn't even there but on the cellphone. No homework half the time and blah blah blah (you get the ideal) Is it the parents? yes and no. We are paying taxes for educational purposes though, paying someone else to take care of that part of our child's growing up. Yes, we can complain and blah blah blah...but that don't get anywhere half the time. But do you know who I think is really responsible for a child's education? The child himself/herself. She/he can choose to want to learn or just to hang out with friends in a big brick building. That is who I hold responsible. When my son did drop out at 17, I let him be for awhile about it and asked him questions, that is when he decided he wanted to return to school, but the online school where he did research on that he could actually get an education. He loves it, and recommends it. There is no stress about what to wear, sometimes he does his classes at midnight in pjs. (they are given assignments that must be completed before end of week, and tests at least three times a week) and guess what...he reads constantly for enjoyment and for learning...so there, he is held responsible for his own education. and boy, did I keep on going....lol

No, I do not believe that the schools and teachers are completely responsible for a child's education. I believe that the parents play a big role in it. The school and teachers can't do it all...the parents have to step in and help too. When the teachers send home papers and report cards with bad grades then the parents should say ok what can we do to make this better. The parents should try to help the child as much as they can and even get tutoring if needed.

I think that it is down to parents mainly and teachers to help a child reach their full potential. I am not the best teacher when it comes to helping my kids with their school work, I failed most things at school due to thinking everything else was more important so I do find it hard to help them sometimes and I am sure that I am not the only one. I do my best though to support the teachers work and help my children do the best that they can. I see so many parents at my school leave it all to the teachers and blame them when their children are turning up at the bottom of the class and they do not realise that they are the most important people in their childrens futures.

It is the responsibility of the parents to see if his/her child is getting a good education. Far too long parents has been leaving it up to the teachers to tell them what is happening to their child. A good parents will looks inside the child books, scrutinized the child to see if he/she is reading properly. Sometimes children tends to put the books nearer to his/her face or a distance from the face. This means that something is wrong with the child eyes. There are also times when the child does not know the difference between q and p. D and B. We need to stop relying on the teachers and pay more attention to our children. These teachers nowadays are not the ones who used to pay attention to children. They are only teaching and who want to be successful it up to the individual.

At least they should do the job if the taxes we are paying partially goes to the school, but I don't think that schools and teachers are completely responsible for child's education. That being said, I don't think the teachers should be held responsible for if there are some kids who are falling behind. Maybe there are some kids who actually do pay attention to the teachers and try their best by working their butts off, but they just can't get the material to sink in their brains, but I think that is completely okay, as long as they are giving their best shot. I wouldn't say that teachers are responsible for those kinds of kids who are giving their best shot that they are falling behind, but I think that teachers can at least try harder and courage them to try harder and not to get discouraged just because of their poor progress. The hard workers shouldn't really be discouraged. I will say this though; there are load of kids who are just bunch of slackers, and I think the teachers and schools should NOT be responsible for those kinds of kids, but the parents should be. My Java teacher and my A.P US History teacher used to say that education is a PRIVILEGE, not a RIGHT, and I do agree with that. There are many wonderful things that you can do in the long run, when you are educated properly. If the kids are not taking the advantage of the free education they are being given at a young age, then let them fall behind!! Let the parents deal with those kinds of kids!! Why should the government do the extra work and pay extra money for the kids who are not willing to get a proper education and they are just leaving themselves behind? I don't think our country need those kind of idiots to get a bachelor's degree or something of that sort from college; they simply don't deserve it, because they don't work for it! Let them be discouraged for being lazy and such! My point is this: yes, there are some children who aren't doing well in school, but they shouldn't be discouraged if they are working their butts off, at least give them an A for their efforts. But there are some children who aren't doing well in school, because they are SLACKING OFF... don't let the schools and the teachers deal with those kinds of kids, let their own parents deal with them. For the parents who stood back while their child was almost failing, and did nothing to help them succeed, and they just let the schools deal with their children, then I will say that those kinds of parents don't deserve even having their own child. It's their laziness and their lazy child who are doing a slight harm to the world, and that harm does grow in the long run. That's what I think... you can counter against it or whatever.. whatever opinion counts. Happy mylotting..

Do you believe the schools and teachers are completely responsible for a child's education? No I don't. First of all one teacher is responsible for teaching somewhere in the vicinity of 30-50 children at one time. Sometimes the teacher is lucky enough to have an aide but it is not possible to pay individual attention to each child. No more than a parent could parent that many kids with no help. If your child isn't doing well in school, do you think it's the school's fault, and they should be the ones to step in and offer the extra help? No again. The only help they can offer is what is available. Our school does have a tutoring program after school but all don't have this option. Plus if the parent is not involved enough to know that the child is having problems do you think a child is going to stay after for tutoring? Yeah right! What would you think of a parent who stood back while their child was almost failing, and did nothing to help them succeed, and placed all their hopes on the school to stop the child from falling behind? First of all I would think that this is a lazy parent that doesn't care enough to be involved with the child. Second of all I think the parent is in for a big shock if they are truly depending on the school system to do the parent's job. There are a lot of responsibilities to being a parent and those responsibilities do not disappear just because the child is not at home. Parents need to get involved and work as a team with the school BTW....I worked as a teacher's aide for several years and I have seen the type of parents that you are speaking of. Normally you will see that they do this in every aspect of the child's life. Always looking for a person or system to blame for their lack of parenting! Ok I'm off of my soap box now! LOL Have a good day!

it will be a good idea.you should teach your childrens do some responsible to the society and himself.i think the childrens should take the load to make himself to be useful man...not only the schools fault but also the family fault.the both should join together to teach your childrens to go into a good road,and live a happy life.