how shud a guy react whn a gal(frnd of mine) proposes N ready 2 commit herslf??

India
November 4, 2008 9:59pm CST
A good friend of mine whom i know since 2years,who stood besides me in all the difficulties and joyous moments i faced suddenly expressed her feelings for me and was so love struck that she was ready to commit herself for me for her entire life. But the fact is she is still doing her graduation and 2yrs younger than me.. and the saddest part of this issue is she lost her dad some 5years back and she still feels his absence and wants me to be a backbone for her family. Since she is the only daughter,her mom probably get disappointed if she come to know that her daughter is in love with someone like me. Please help me out to tackle this difficult situation.. Doesn want to hurt my friend also doesn want to commit myself @the age 23. Post ur suggestions mylotters..!!
2 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
Well I guess it is okay if you are just that committed or when you say commitment does that mean you are going into marriage already? Well if I were you establish yourselves first like getting jobs first and establish a good financial standing so that you could please her parents. Just show them that you could support her daughter I guess most parents are just looking forward into making sure that their daughter would be in good hands that is why they would look into your capacity to take care of their daughter.
• India
5 Nov 08
Job is not at all a constraint,i have been working in a good company since an year. Trying to be financially stable before i commit myself. SO the only concern she is pleading me to commit myself, cos of which i need to sacrifice my higher studies plans...
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
That is why I was asking you about what she means of commitment? Does that mean marriage? Maybe you and her can talk about it and meet halfway how you would want to reach some other dreams you have in mind before fully committing yourself with her. But I am pretty sure if you would mention your studies she would not stopp you from doing it since its for the betterment of you and the relationship as well.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
5 Nov 08
I do not know why her mom will be sad, plus do not get the inferiority complex about yourself. You may not marry now. but is there any problem in continuing love? after both of you settle you can marry
• India
5 Nov 08
See,she is still in her 3rd year graduation..So i suggested her to discuss this issue soon after she finishes her graduation thinking that her studies might get affected bcoz of this relnship. But she is in no mood to wait till her graduation gets over,i cant reject her proposal also and at the same time i cant commit myself keeping my higher studies plans aside.