say no to early marriage

I am sorry that you got fired (that is what I understood). I am also sorry that you felt pressured to have a child at a young age, and especially when you were not ready for it ( I can't say either way, but it appears your saying you were not). Have you thought of a live in nanny, someone who you could feed as means for a paycheck.. a bartering sort of deal? Maybe take in a niece who is fresh out of high school or college?

Poor you. Your parents seem to be quite selfish, I think. To me they should leave the decision of getting married to you, and not forcing you. However I really respect you because you are such an obedient son. Now there is nothing you can do about it because everything is already done. You cannot turn back the clock. You are now already married and have a son. Is your wife working? If she is working I think for the time being you can look after your son while she goes out to work. Now if possible don't think about your parents because if you think, you will become more worried. You can't take care of everybody. Let them take care of themselves for now because you have to concentrate on your family first. In the mean time you can do part time jobs in which you can involve your son. I know this situation is difficult for you but it is still an option which will help you. You can offer your neighbor to take care of their babies while they go out to work. You can get money in this way. After you have managed to collect enough money, you can hire a maid for several months while you go out to seek for a new job. When you get a job already, and your wife is also working I think you are able to hire a maid at that time. So everything would turn out alright at that time. For now, please be patient.

I'm so sorry that you got fired from work and you felt the pressure of having a family at a very young age. I don't know what to say. If I am in your situation, I will never really listen to my family and them forcing me to get married at a young age. Sorry to tell you this but I personally parents like that are too selfish. They don't think of the outcome it will bring to their child.

well, that's true man. early marriage is a no-no. marriage is a very serious thing because not only it involve with the promise between the both of you to God, but also, it involves the life of your partner and your children as well. it must be well-planned and well-prepared between the two of you. though some of us have only done that because of peer pressure, family pressure or unwanted pregnancies, but we are givena choice right? well, past is past my friend, the only thing we can do about it right now is to be responsible for the decisions we have made and treat it as a learning experience that you can share to your sons and daughters.