What if your boyfriends's ex said said she's pregnant with your bf?
By risca613
@risca613 (16)
Philippines
November 5, 2008 1:36am CST
My bf and I were already 3 months together when his ex told him that she's pregnant with my bf's baby. My bf said it's impossible that the baby is his cause they broke up for several months before we became exclusive. Now the girl, and her parents are texting me and going to my bf's house to ask my bf to at least visit their daughter once a week even if they know that we are together. They said to understand their daughter at least for now because of her situation. My bf told them that he's not answerable to that baby and to their daughter because "it's not his."
3 responses
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
how sure are you that it's really not your boyfriend's baby that her ex is carrying? i think its every guys immediate reaction to deny things and will continue to do it for their own benefit. sometimes they are just to selfish.
it's really up to you who to believe but just don't make yourself believe to much to everything that your boyfriend is saying. or maybe you can can start thinking twice as early as now. remember that if he really did that to that girl, he can also do that to you. just be careful and think a million times before you commit something or before you commit yourself to him
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
wow!! threatening you is another story. they should not involved you in whatever problem they have with your boyfriend. i think what they're trying to do is to win your boyfriend back by threatening you but what they didn't think of is that, it will only make things worst. and will only erase the going-back-to-their issue. that's a very lame move and too immature. i admire your courage to stand by your boyfriend and for giving him all the best support that you could during his ordeal. happy mylotting.
@risca613 (16)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
Thank you despompa!:) I really appreciate all your advice and support. I was right to have started a discussion regarding my situation right now. Actually, there threats and desperate moves has gotten worse when they learned that my bf proposed marriage to me. which is both funny and irritating. what case can they file against us or my bf? I told them that i'm the one who has the right to file a lawsuit because of their threats and scandalous attempts. And my bf already told them to prove to him that he's thefather of the child through DNA test and he won't abandon the child. But I think their aim is to get their daughter and my bf together again, which is next to impossible. That girl is so desperate.
@risca613 (16)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
Hi! thanks for your concern. I know that he's denying because he's afraid to lose me. So our issue is really how to get rid of the girl's parents going to my bf's house and asking him to visit their daughter once a week even if they know he already has a gf. My bf already told him that the baby is not his. I think they want my bf to marry their daughter. I understand the situation of the girl. But after my bf had told her and her parents that the baby is not his, I believe they have to stop pestering us and sending threats to me.
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 08
The only solution to this problem is to take a DNA test. I don't know how the doctor does this but it is possible to identify whose baby is in your boyfriend's ex womb. By doing this, everything can be put into the clear light and we can know who is cheating and who is not. As for you, I suggest that you better be careful with your boyfriend. I am not telling he is the father to the baby, but my advice is never trust a man completely. Leave some for yourself because you'll need it if something happens in the future. I hope the baby is not his, or else you would have to make a major decision in your life.
@kambing92 (53)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 08
DNA i think need the baby is born only can check?
And I agree with what you say that careful with each and every guy.
They can be describe as BEAST.
However I think ur bf have to care for the girl so that she won't done something bad?
And try to ask her is the baby really his?
or ask her to let go the baby?
@risca613 (16)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
Thanks for your advice. I already asked him that what if the baby is really his. He told me "I may give support to the child but I will never get back together with my ex" Our problem right now is, the parents of his ex are forcing him to see their daughter once a week which is a big NO for me. I think they are forcing my bf to arry their daughter.
@Rachelce (19)
• Australia
7 Nov 08
OH Sweety I feel your pain! If it was me I'd do what they say but just dont spend any money on her yet! When the baby is born demand a DNA test to make sure the baby is really his. If it isn't then you never have to speak to them again but make sure they know hw much trouble theyve put u guys through. And if it is then I spose you'll just either have to support your bf and his ex in this life changin event, or just leave...Buti would constantly be jealous (and I know that a bad thinig)of the bond that they'll both have for life.
@risca613 (16)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
Hey thanks for replying. That's actually what my bf told them to perform a DNA test to make sure that the baby is his. No we are definitely not spending money on that girl and the unborn child. Unless she proves that the baby is really my bf's. My bf despises that girl so I don't think jealousy is an issue. He doesn't like the baby either because they have broken up like 2 or 3 mos ago before the girl told him that she's pregnant.
