is it easy for you to forgive someone?

well cathy its not that you are bad becos of that. in my case...i hold a grudge-its not something im proud of.... maybe complete forgiveness is impossible in some cases. I remember Tyler Perry quote..:WHEN YOU HAVEN'T FORGIVEN THOSE WHO'VE HURT YOU, YOU TURN YOUR BACK AGAINST YOUR FUTURE..WHEN YOU DO FORGIVE, YOU START WALKING FORWARD. I cant get over his last statement... anyway...time heals all wounds as uve said.... Welcome to mylot...

No, I don't think it's bad. It's a natural thing to feel pain and anger then later on forgive. You can forgive, but it's really difficult to forget. You will never forget those people who caused you so much pain. It's good to forgive but hard to forget.

Is it easy for me to forgive? Well that would depend on what was done, who did it and whether or not they are truly sorry for what theyve done...There are ppl in my life that I most likely will NEVER forgive because they continue to do me wrong in major ways, they have no remorse and I dont feel they deserve my forgiving them not to mention the fact that they are in such a state of denial they dont want or even believe i need to forgive them for anything.. i do believe in the saying "time heals all wounds" Generally speaking yes time does heal..PROVIDED the wounded person works at the healing...BUT to me personally, time and work healing the wound and forgiving the wrong-doer are two completely seperate things...

it is not easy for me either. if the damamge doen by the other party is too much, how can I forgive so easily? the person whoi chaeted me bigtime will ever be hated by nme

It depends on what and whom. There are somethings that I have an easier time forgiving than others. Though I mist admit that I encounter a bit of difficulty forgiving most, if not all, the time.

During the first time that my heart was broken, it was hard for me to forgive also. No, you're not bad. It's just that you are not ready yet. Yes, time could heal but we just don't know when. It depends to the pain that we feel or the way that we cope to the situation. I know you will forgive too, just don't push it because it will come.

feeling bad about other person who hurt you is natural. what the bad thing is when you are mad at other person who doesn't hurt you at all. it is not easy to forgive when someone offended you but let the time pass and you will eventually forget the hurt until you completely accepted that someone made a mistake on you, then, move on.

You're just like me. I had problems with my grown daughter and just received a hateful email...It hurt like crazy and right now I am not anxious to open another one of her emails. I had had her and her family stay with me for nine months...there were a LOT of problems caused, but I wasn't about to cause them any problems because of what went on because they had enough problems with needing to live with me and other situations that weren't caused at my home. When they moved out the hurt from the stay was so deep that I really needed the time to be alone and deal with the pain. She didn't understand how my feelings run and that I needed the time to be alone and not be in contact after all the problems. She felt that I didn't want her when I gave birth to her and demanded to know why I didn't have her aborted when I found out that I was pregnant with her. She didn't understand that I needed the time to heal so I could forgive what happened. I can't forgive EVERYTHING instantly. The deeper hurts take more time to heal. You aren't bad when you allow time to pass for the pain to heal, we all heal and forgive at different rates. Besides the point that different depths of hurt take different amounts of time to heal. Don't believe that you aren't a good person because you can't always forgive instantly, you're just being human.

That is one thing I really have to work on. I do not forgive people easily, even though I want to. I do not think you are bad. I figure that everybody deals with forgiveness differently and not everyone can forgive easily.

hehehe! its funny to know that i am not alone in this world having the same experience and feelings about what you are talking about cathya. i feel also that kind of feeling, the feeling of anger, even if the person did not do anything harm against me. i just feel, i don't like him/her. and it makes me mad and paranoid whenever i see him/her, because the pain or the madness strikes back again. and i do believe also that time heals. and so, in order for the pain go away, i need to stay away that person and keep him/her out of sight for a long time, because if i am able to see her/him again, there goes the madness again. but, i was able to read a passage in a book that, God allows that kind of person to enter into our lives for a purpose. and that purpose is for you to find out. one purpose i would like to share with you is that, in order for ourselves to be mature, in such a way that we are able to accept the indifferences of other people. i was able to reflect that purpose, and its true, it measures how mature you are, how are you able to accept things in your life that might not go in your own way, or just don't like things to be change. this measures our maturity of being the person we should be, because this is important, in order to have a family, without any worries at all. well, its normal to be mad at a person you don't like and it is not also make you a bad person if you feel that way. but, just as i have said, we need them, in order for us to be mature, and be stronger, to face more challenges to come into our lives. ;)

I think so . Anyway , forgive is not a easy job , once the pain will not be easy to forget , we can not help but always think of the wounds . But , however , in my opinion , pain will always pass , and we have to face the future . Try to make new friends and release your wounds by telling it to your new firends , don't miss the one who hurt you , he is out of your world , so just forget him and start your new life ! Best wishes !

As for my case, no. I've never forgiven a person my whole life no matter how much I try to tell myself that I should forget about it. There's always this primal hunger within me to let them feel the pain they have given, and a hunger to let them feel it ten times more than what they gave me.

i too dont forgive any one for their mistakes, i wont speak to them even if they apologize but evrything depends on the circumstances and if we find it was not intentionally done then we must forgive that and move on in life but if it is intentional then we must not forgive. Even though time passes and bad memories go past us we should not forgive those we dont like . Thanks for raising the query and allowing me to respond my opinion

forgiving others dpends on the relationship between that person and u. Ur thoery of "time heals all wounds" is good and i can say that im also simmilar type of attitude hence i cant judge it Good or Bad.

I think that forgiving makes us better persons.

it depends of how deep the pain he/shecause to me. If it is too painful, i guess i could not easily forgive him/her. It is easier said and done, when you are in the situation it is a different story, forgiving is the hardest thing to do. I rather say time heals all wounds.

i do forgive easy.... some say that i shouldn't, But why not it is not going to get me anywhere with a grudg on about the person. Some say that they are just going to do it again. If they do and when they do that is when i learn. I fell that you should always give another shot at anything.

Depends on the situation and what wrongs was done. If it's just small little stuffs, I will just let it go. But for certain personal issues, to forgive and forget is hard to do. I would normally try to avoid that person if I could. Well, it's easy said than done but no matter what, life must go on. Cheers

no not at all..as u have said u just let time pass but its all depends on the situation..for me i easily forgive even though it really hurts but that's only when i really love that person so much..hmmm i just want to share u may story,my girlfriend and i been together for two years and with that she did lots of things that could hurt my feelings like cheating on me but i forgive her,i know that is stupid but i love her so much so i forgive her.. so my opinion to your situation is that don't force yourself if u can't really forgive that person.let your feelings grow i mean in a good way of course.

Forgiveness is very much under rated and deserves lots of discussion. I believe that every time you truly forgive, you grow as a better person. Sounds cheezy, right? Maybe a little cheese is much needed...especially in the time we're in right now. Forgiveness is hard to do, especially if the offense was really horrible. But even with the most cruel of offenses, forgiveness is still needed. I know that when I've been really hurt, I may hold a grudge for a little while, but I come to my senses and realize that I will heal faster the sooner I forgive that person. It brings me a sense of peace and helps me to handle difficult situations better.