Part of Me Wants To Let and the Other Part of Me Wants to Stay
@gorgeousdreamer (1034)
Philippines
November 5, 2008 10:30am CST
You know, I love my boyfriend but I have to admit that we have a lot of differences. Right now, there's a part of me that's saying I want to let him go and the other part of me is still telling me to hold on. Just right now, he called me telling me that he needed to borrow a money from me. But I don't really have a money because I'm processing my application for my NCLEX and other jobs, I have debts from my neighbor and from the pawnshop and he knows. And then he texted me that I was so selfish that I don't even give him gifts and other stuffs? I didn't really expect about having a relationship that goes like this. I have a lot of reasons why I wanted to break him up. Like he is not serious with his studies (I'm already working and he is still studying), he's a womanizer (I don't know if he already stopped meeting other girls), he yells at his mother, he is very lazy, what more should I say? But I didn't mind those behavior of him since I know in my heart that I love him but He never changed his attitude even if I tell him a lot of times. So what's the reason for staying with this relationship if it doesn't want to work out anymore?
5 responses
@kingfan (30)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
Gorgeousdreamer, it sounds like you are looking for someone to tell you to leave. If the relationship is not working for you, the longer you stay the more miserable you will feel. I speak from experience. I was married to my ex husband for 17 years, hoping that he would change. He will only change when he wants to, and as long as you stay you are giving him the message that it's okay to treat you this badly. Think of yourself. You are worth much more and deserve to be in a loving and respectful relationship. Judging from your situation, this is not that kind of relationship.
I wish you the best.
@Thorn679 (111)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I have had a very similar problem with my last girlfriend. I ended up bearkingup with her about 3 months ago. I woulf have to say that it was one of the best disscions that I have made in my life. I'm remeber back when we use to go out that near the end of the relationship she started to say how bored she was of me and that she dose not know if she would like to try anymore. Then I found out that she was talking to other guys and so I asked her about it and she told me the same thing only this time she said that she wanted to be able to talk to any guy that flirted with her without feeling bad for me, also that she wanted to stay with me because she didnt want to lose and thats why she never tried anything with another guy. I broke up with her soon after because I didnt like the idea of sharing her , and now I'm so happy with out her. Recentlly her cousin came up to me and told me that she cheated on me twice while we were going out and she provided pictures with date and times on them, thats how i kwon that she was not lying. But now I'm very happy without her and I'm talking to new girls =]
@Lexus656 (672)
• United States
5 Nov 08
maybe you should just take some time apart to figure out what you are feeling and what you need to do for yourself. There's alot of people that we love but are you in love with him? if you arent then you need to make a move and get away from him. I know that it's hard I struggled for 2 years on wether or not to leave my ex after 5 yrs of being with him and having a son with him. You have to do what makes you happy. maybe sit down and talk to him lay everything out on the table and see what he says about it.
@cathya (704)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
YES you're right! what's your reason for staying in that kind of relationship??
know what girl, you are still lucky because as early as now you are able to see his true colors. its up to you to decide now.
Gorgeousdreamer, you have a choice! i presume you are still young, and as looked at your picture (is it you? just kidding) you are pretty, if you'll gonna let him go, its his lost not yours, you deserve a better guy than him, believe me. all you need to do this time is to be good to yourself by letting him go.
now if you think you really love him and you can't leave without this guy ( i hope not ) then starting today LEARN TO ACCEPT HIS NEGATIVE ATTITUDES and accept his whole being!anyway thats what true love is, right?? but if you think you are not yet ready to called "MARTYR" then let him go...
i hope at least i helped you enlighten your mind,
