Do you agree with the legal age???

I have married for two years,the law of China,you can't get married less than 22(male)or 20(female),and I agree that the legal age of marriage is necessary.It's a challenge that you get married too early,love and marriage are quite other concept,love is a romantic story,but marriage need more responsibility,mental maturity is important before you decide to get married with somebody,in a sense,the later the better.After all,the rate of divorce on the rise isn't good for our society,especially for the next generations.

Back in the 60's when I got married the state we lived in you had to have a parent's concent to get married younger than 21. I lied and got married any way. They didn't ask for any Proof. It is a proven fact the the frontal lobe of the brain isn't fully developed until about age 25. until the frontal lobe is fully mature a person is not very good at seeing future consequences resulting from current actions. We change our ideas and desires a lot between the age of 18 and 25. Now I'm not saying that every one waite until 25 to get marriied but it is worth looking at. Some people do have very good marriages when married younger than that. But maybe there would be a lot less devorices and split families if people would waite.

I have to say I never really thought of this but now that I have, I think with the way things are going that waiting could be a good thing. People dont seem to be growing up as in maturing as they used to. Although I have to say for me and my husband it worked out. He was 16 and I was 18 when we married and we are now 41 and 43. So 24 years later it has worked for us and we are still very much in love. We meet when he was 14 and I was 16. It is hard to say thou as many get divorces even when they get married when older too.

Early marriages can save us from many evils and satanic temptations.I got married at the age of 27 and now I am an old man,getting pension,with no son earning. All are studying.This is all due to our late marriage.I am a Muslim and my religion motivates early marriages,which is a realistic approach......But we have been effected by so-called modernism.There should be no age restriction on marriages and all young people should be encouraged for early marriages for good morality.

I married at 18 and have been married to the same man for 36 years. Just depends on the person and the relationship I guess!

You make a lot of extremely valid points. When we are 18 or 20, we think we know who we are and what we want in life. While that my be true at that moment in time, like you said, we change as we grow. I was also married at 20 years old. I am now 38 and in the final stages of a long strung out separation and divorce. I realized pretty early on that I was too young to have gotten married. But by then I already had 2 children and stayed in the marriage "for the kids". I have thought about this topic so many times over the years and I am not sure I will ever be able to pinpoint an age that is the "right age" to get married. I've always found it ironic that it is easier to get married then it is to get a driver's license. I understand the need for testing and training to drive a motor vehicle. Shouldn't we have something similar for getting married? It is, after all, a life changing decision. One that often effects more than just couple getting married. I completely agree with you that 18 is just not old enough for most people to truly be ready for the lifetime committment of marriage. For some, it may very well be the right age. Perhaps the answer is more than just a legal age alone. If we treated it like the driver's licensing process, there would be a minimum age,(18 being the typical adult age) and some sort of counseling or interview process first. Whatever the solution, saving those of us who have gone through the painful process of divorce, would be well worth jumping through the hoops in the first place.

I think that 21 should be the legal age to get married. Teenagers haven't got much life experience to draw on. In my home country the legal age to get married is 18 or 16 with parental approval. I got married at 22 years old and divorced at 28 years old. Yes, priorities change as a person gets older. It is best to study and have a career before getting married. Living together is popular in my home country and then marriage is not needed. After I got divorced a few years later I lived with my next boyfriend but things didn't work out. I think the best age to have children is 25 to 30. Sometimes life events happen in a different order and my friend was married, then got divorced, got married, had two children and is now separated and hoping to get divorced. So her marriage in her twenties failed and so did her marriage in her thirties. I don't think I want to get married a second time. When in my early twenties I was hopeful and confident my marriage would be for life. Now I am 36 I know that even a relationship that feels perfect can't last forever.

In my opinion, there definitely should be an age requirement for getting married. I don't know if raising the age limit would lower the divorce rate, but something does need to change. They make it SOO easy to get married, so many add more requirements to go through to reach that destination. My husband and I got married a month before I turned 24 years old. We've been dating for almost 5 years so we felt we were ready to take it to that next level. Together, we have two beautiful children and we've been married for 8 months.

Well its true..18 years old is still in the stage of changing the adolescent stage..I knew some people who got that age that is really not yet ready for marriage..I believe that the best age for marriage is about 25 to 27 then that will be fix for you guys..God bless and have a nice day..:-0

Honestly, I am trying to comprehend how someone would feel ready to get married at such a young age. I'll be 22 years old next month, and I feel like i am just learning how to take care of myself, I cant possibly be taking care of someone else and have more responsibilities. I am just seeing what life is about and just facing difficulties of my own, so i dont think a marriage at such a young age would last. And also I learned that when people married at such a young age, priorities will change as they are growing up, and at least one person, it's usually the guy, will start feeling like they missed out on some experiences, and they want to go taste the waters. So I thinka legal age it's definetely necessary but at the same time, I would recommend people to wait at least 4 years past the legal age of 18 to get married.

hi nikkilee, theres no such thing as legal age to marry a person. as long as your matured enough to know what situation are you getting in, age is not the basis. there are people who marry at the young age and yet they are matured enough to know the responsibilities that they have to do.there are people who marry at the age of 26 up and yet still irresponsible when pertains to responsibility per se.. so enjoy your life to the fullest... God Bless!

Yes at 18yrs old, we are all still very young. I think maybe 21yrs would be more suitable. I myself met my partner (now hubby) when I was just 15yrs old. I fell pregnant at 17yrs and got engaged, but I refused to marry. Everyone went on at me but I said NO! I got married at 23yrs old to my husband. We have now been together for 23yrs and married for 15 yrs and have four daughters. I am glad our relationship has lasted so long. I am sorry about yours as you are still very young. Yes we get wiser as we age and 18yrs old getting married is too young in my opinion.

the age should be after 20 you can be married.you dont have a clear understanding of marry.so you are a try and the earlier you get married,the diborce will appear.so you have a good mind to do it.what is you discussion.it will be a good idea.you should teach your childrens do some responsible to the society and himself.i think the childrens should take the load to make himself to be useful man...not only the schools fault but also the family fault.the both should join together to teach your children go into a good road,and live a happy life.

I am kind of going through the same thing as you. I got engaged at 18 and i'm still engaged! i'm a little bored with the relationship now! i don't know if i really want to get married or not. I am having a very hard time right now. I feel so depressed and confused all the time! Crying has become a new hobbie for me!

i think the legal age is okay... well at least for now but maybe in time it can be increased cause people now adays are more immature. hahah :D

In my country, 18 is the legal age but one could get married as young as 16 with parental consent and with existing diversity in cultures within the archipelago, some get married as early as 12 for an arranged marriage. Age is not a determinant of maturity but the state has set its standards based from facts that are supported by research. However, there are dynamics in the society that is fast evolving, family roles change and continuously shifting; agencies of socialization fail in certain areas and re-script itself anew. A person could be young at 18 but act as a 35 year old and a 25 year old could be legally mature but has an age of an 18 year old. I guess you are trapped of the dilemma that your life review is based on an early marriage and immature decision but that's a normal defense mechanism called "rationalization" because of that divorce my friend. I hope you could get through with that developmental stage of your life and be happier. I think the legal age of marriage should be reviewed in my country basing on the need to address family issues but there are legal loopholes that are faced by the judicial system in my country, we don't have divorce and for that reason, with a slow justice system in civil courts, we are even doubtful on where to base the need for a new rule. On the other hand, there are seminars imposed by the state before acquiring a marriage license but there are times that these are not being strictly imposed which is another issue. You are right that as one ages, priorities change and both parties should be ready to accept these inevitable change. The question is, how long could one of you take hold of that situation or just walk away with divorce simply because it is a lot easier. However, I have my personal reservation as to keeping the marriage in tact because it is more that protecting the basic unit of a society, it is a moral obligation... I still believe in our legal age in my country but to supplement the absence of legal remedies, existing laws should be well-imposed or repealed.