it's ok to hate your boyfriend's ex?

if you really love your boyfriend i guess you have to trust him, for sure he did not court you for nothing... be optimistic... probably your boyfriend and his ex' are just mature enough to accept and understand that they are not meant to be grow up girl, be proud you are now part of his present and future and she's just part of the past... cheers!!

sweetaryna, Perhaps we should always look back upon the reason why Love blossomed in the first place. Surely when the relationship was formed, your Love was pristine. Real love stands adamantly like a rock, for those that sway are but pebbles. When our relationship fails, instead of allocating blame in our external environment, perhaps we must always introspect and look at ourselves first. We are not perfect either. And we are but imperfect being trying to perfect our relationship. I can see this rage and jealousy eating you up slowly and it is beginning to have a negative flow setting into the both of you. You may say that it is just a spur of the moment but I just hope that you will start by being honest with yourself. Do you ever think that the both of them could be possible again? Or is your misjudgment and irrationality overtaken your sense of logic here? Still not convinced? Then, may I suggest that you probably need to first trash out all the unspoken thoughts and feelings you have when you were assailed with thoughts of abandonment by him at the presumption of yours. For the trashing session to be effectively, you would need to release everything completely - so drop all motes of rationality, regardless of how unreasonable you think you would be; just open floodgate and release. Then after laying down everything, clarify what you need to and mend your relationship by forging new cause and direction. Sometimes in Love, appeasing the mind is not enough - your heart might need some comfort and assuring. P.S: Latent effect can be destructive. You might just end up losing your man if you continue in this manner; might as well learn to create a new path by transgressing status quo and advance forward. Just hoping that my $0.02 worth, would be of help here. Take care.

hate is one of the things you really can't control. this only means that you so love your boyfriend that is why you hate his ex. however, i hope you'll learn to accept that an ex is an ex.