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Oh yeah, I would definitely reinforce it at home. My son is in first grade and so far he only had a couple of minor instances which were last year and probably because he has not been a in school environment to know what was right or wrong..Like the beginning of last year, my son and this other boy was "sword fighting" with pencils. It is dangerous and wrong, but I know why my son did it, he loves to play Zelda. Zelda is a game where Link has a sword and uses it to cut down grass for ruppies, (sp?)..Ruppies is money for Link..So since it was a first offense and I knew the reason why, he got a yellow card at school, (warning card), and we did sit him down and explained it to him..If he had continued this behavior after that, then he would get into bigger trouble at home..

I do not believe it is the responcibility of the school to "train up a child in the way he should go" Our rules is: if you get in trouble at school you get twice as much at home. If they loose recess priviledges at school they loose them for 2 days at home, in other words no going out playing. You come home, do you homework and help with chores, eat and go to bed or read (if it is not bed time yet.)

It's a stretch for me to remember how things went, when my daughter was younger. I can recall one incident, in first grade I believe, when she was asking to go to the washroom at the same time as her friend. The two of them would be out of the classroom for far too long. As it turned out, her friend was taking a very long time. She told my daughter she wouldn't be her friend anymore, if she didn't wait for her. Their teacher found out, and I received notice about this. It was more a case of bullying, but I did talk with her about it. They weren't allowed to go to the washroom at the same time anymore. I definitely think it's important to follow through with discipline at home, when there's been a problem at school. This said, it's also crucial to make sure the child really is misbehaving, and that they're not being accused of something they didn't do. This can happen when other children are involved, as I'm sure you know. An incident has just come to mind, where a playmate of my daughter's accused her of stealing an item. The girl later admitted that she lied. You're doing a great job with your son, and he's come so far. I applaud you for this, as you have even more to think about, and to be concerned with, in your situation. Hugs.

Unless my kids do something really bad then the school does not notify parents, they will give punishments out like time off playtimes or they have to stand against the naughty wall. My son hates losing time from his playtime so he is very rarely in trouble he will do his best to keep out of it. If it happened that the school phoned me with a report of bad behaviour from any of them then for definate they would be punished at home because it has to be reinforced that bad behaviour is not tolerated.

i dont think my kids have misbehaved in school, they are one of those who are having hard time going out of their shell... :) but just in case, they would misbehave and given punishment by the school, i would ask my kid about what happened coz there might be reasons why the kid did that. if it was intentional or not. i would like to know the details before i do anything...

I think it has to be reinforced at home as well since that is what my brother did when he started getting physical with students at school. He was acting out and was doing pretty much as you said shoving other kids and what not. Sometimes i talk to him about it and ask why he did such a thing sometimes he simply has no excuse other times he does... like kids teasing him or calling him bad words.. but i make clear that it is no excuse because what did he gain from getting punished for it?? Sometimes you need to talk to the kid to understand what is the root of the problem. We got to understand that kids were messing with him after school and the school would do nothing, one kid punched him and broke his glasses which in turn cut his eye lid and nose... he bled and what did the school do nothing... he got punished instead because he shoved the kid the next day when the kid was teasing him. We contacted the school but they said they can't take action for things that happen after school meaning the moment the bell rings all gloves are off. The kids hit him in the school building which made him hate school even more... He started to understand that yes things are unfair but it doesnt make you any better to shove other people but rather makes you no different. Make sure your child is not being bullied by these kids. Perhaps the teacher was around when he was bullied and he vented on the teacher for taking no action... you never know till you ask.

My kids along with the school knows that if my kids get in trouble and Im notified they will also be punished at home. They hardly ever get in trouble and I think it is because I do this. They know not only will they get punished at school that I will get them at home. Depending on what they have done, they can be grounded up to a week.

discipline is a key component to a child's behavior. as a parent, don't hesitate to give rewards and punishments. your child will do no better if you'll heed from teaching him the principles of wrongdoings and punishments

If my daughter misbehaves at school I will take away her computer time and then again it all depends on what she has done. I sit down and tell her what she did was wrong and that it is not to be done again. If she has done something extremely bad at school she will get a spanking and punishment. She is in the 3rd grade now and she has begun to get things together by not misbehaving.

I absolutely believe the teachers and faculty need parents to get involved and help out when they can. I don't believe in any physical consequences, but definitely taking away priviledges and simply talking to your child about the issues are good. Kids are pretty bright and learn right from wrong from their parents. Talking about the problems and reasons for consequences are very important.

I always believe that the most educated person always learned his/her education at home. Our children will always follow our footsteps no matter how we bend it. We will always be the example to their eyes. Anyone who knows or sees what your kid does will always reflect you as a parent. Do you think school can always produce spoiled brats? Not to beat around the bush, education starts with the parents. Just my 2c worth.