Would You Trade Your Chidren?

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My mother and I never got along when I was in high school. After us both taking care of him when he passed away we became best friends. We talked to each other every day on the phone. Recently she started seeing her old high school boyfriend. I was very happy for her, but things started moving really fast. I stopped hearing from her, and she stopped answering her phone or returning phone calls. My siblings and I had an intervention where we sat her down and expressed our concerns. We told her we wanted her to be happy but we thought she was rushing into things too fast. We told her we missed her and we felt disappointed when she didn't show to the family events (she had agreed to come to). She promised she would slow things down and be more active in the family. Two days later I called my mom to tell her I was having a miscarriage. She responded that she couldn't talk because she was packing her bags for a trip. Again she promised not to worry about her, because she was going to wait at least six months before making any big decisions (they had been dating for almost 3 weeks.) She was married on the trip. When I finally get in touch with her again she explains that it was spontanious and that she didn't plan the marriage or have time to call and tell the children. On Halloween she invited me to bring my son to her husbands home for trick or treating. She said give me two minutes to get the driving instructions and call me back. We loaded into the car... ring, ring, ring. No answer. So we call his phone... ring, ring, ring.... no answer. I text message him saying "Mom said we could come trick or treat but she isn't answering the phone for directions is everything okay?" The next morning he texts back "Who is this?" A few days ago I run into an old friend from high school who tells me "I heard your mom got married to her high school sweet heart." I said oh yeah when did you hear that... "I guess couple weeks ago I heard she was going out of town to get married." Isn't that strange that a spontanious marriage was talked about days before it actually happened? So to make the list. My mom lied to her kids, she stopped communication, she stopped coming to family get togethers, she didn't show up to hear her grandsons speech even after promising that she would, and now she calls to tell us that our inheritance was lost in the stock market, and spent on medical bills. (Interesting timing to drop this bomb)... Oh and she said some pretty mean things to my sister about how our father compares to the new guy. So what do you think? Am I taking things to personally or has my mom traded her children for a man? I love my son soooo much. I could never imagine doing this to him. Would you trade your relationship with your kids for a chance at happiness with a new fella?