How important is high grades (or that of your Child) to you?

I think that it is not so much the grades parents should focus on it is the interest of the child in the subjects they are learning. Parents should concentrate on how to nourish the "need to know" or "desire to learn" in their children. In grade school, playing games and making learning a game is great and pretty easy. However, once they hit middle school and high school, the games in classrooms are reduced and they expect the students to become more of an independent learner and organizer. This is a good thing, but I believe parents should have a game plan on how to prepare their child for these later years when things start to change. Anyway, I don't believe who is at the top of the class is so important. That is overall knowledge. Maybe the child is especially great in a particular subject matter that would be significant enough as an accomplishment. These are just opinions and every parent is different. I would just hope the parent understands how impactful they are in their childs life, and their opinion of them is a big deal! In fact, it is life forming and changing!

During studies,grades are important for students as well as for the parents of course because it makes them proud that their child get high scores or even one of the top in their class. Not only your family would say that you are smart and genius,but some other people would recognize and respect you for having that talent. But in some cases ,it doesnt mean that having high grades in school while you are still studying gives you a successfull and better life. The future of the person is the product of his deeds himself. Even if a person himself is very smart,talented,have many skills to show to everyone that he is good in this and that but if he will not make use of his potentials and mind wisely then he would fail in the end. It is a good gift from God that a person possess the talents,skills and capabilites that others cannot do or others doesnt have. But as some people would say that life is just a matter of luck...that even if you did all your best and your efforts to succeed but you still get negative results and you just give up because you think you would still fail in the end.So that's why we cannot conclude by then that a person can be more successful or have a better life when he have high grades coz it depends to him alone how to make use of it. But the big percentage of possibilities are there to have a better future if he is good in class but not in all circumstances.And its not good also for parents to pressure their kids into something that is beyond their capability. Parents can guide them and encourage them to it but not pressure them instead coz some kids might think at the back of their minds not follow them at all.

grades matter but my child doing his best matter more.as long as my child do his best i don,t presser him about grades and when he get below averge grades i just encourage him to better next time the last thing our child need is presser from the parents.

[i]HI Chyzv, I have known a lot of my batch mates from High School who were getting higher grades but less successful that those who are only average of less average before, So, high grades isn't the sole basis for the achievements in life, it depends on the person, his determination and support from parents emotionally and morally! I wasn't pressured also when I was a student and If ever I will have a kids, I will motivate them, encourage them but not to force them of the areas which I know they cannot tackle![/i]

For me, I can't really say for sure what my stand will be because I am not a parent now (I'm not even married! ), and my stand now might be much different from my stand a couple of years down the road. But currently, my stand would be that high grades are "reasonably" important for my future child. In this era, good grades almost guarantees a good place in tertiary institutions and even in the workforce; so I definitely will try to get my child to get the best grades that he or she can. But unlike most parents do, I wouldn't be putting too much pressure on my child to perform well; I will just tell my child to do the best that he or she can, and leave the results to God. I myself am only an average student throughout my student life, so I understand really well what it feels like to be pressured to do my best, and I can tell you it's not a very good feeling all in all! But of course, I will have to make sure that my child isn't procrastinating or doing useless stuff instead of studying, because this is a responsibility that I have as a parent. So in summary, I will leave the studying to my child and I will leave the results to be what it has to be, and I will be satisfied just as long as I know my child has studied and done his or her best. But as I mentioned earlier, all these perceptions might just change in a few years time....

Well, I'm going to share something of my own experience. Ever since I was in kindergarten up to grade school, my mom always pressured me to get not only good, but high grades. She always checked on me everyday. I guess I don't have any free-spaced childhood because of that. My mother was always strict about the number of mistakes in an exam. However, I am also glad that she trained me that way. I actually got high grades because of her discipline and even though I sort of felt like terrible of those days, when I think about it now, I am very thankful. In that way, I was molded into a responsible person I suppose. When I was in high school, I was left alone already to do my studies. And I stood up maybe because I was already sort of trained beforehand. Maybe that's the purpose. And she was proud that I entered in the national university, maye that's why she didn't become so strict. I continued college in the same university (until now) and she doesn't mind if my grades are below 2.0. She already understands that college is not elementary and she is still proud of me at this stage even though I don't get very high grades in college (since it is hard to have high grades). So it really pays off if your parents (or you as a parent) will have strict discipline when it comes to your studies. It won't pay off right at the moment but it will on the future. The positive impact will happen on you (or your child).

hi dear In my opinion the grades in the school is not the most important thing,when we study and be the first too we cannot make up a good life without practical knowledgee,the world out there from the school is entirely different and a person who wants to apply the studied things in life will feel a little bit difficult by the lack of experience which will be absent when we are highly involved in study stuffs.

i was an average student and so was my hubby. we know our kids are smart; our oldest daughter is sorta lazy but our youngest daughter is smart and loves school! to that end we are happy if they just try their hardest and do the absolute best that they can do and we are happy with that. some people are not meant to learn the way school dictates they do.

getting higher grades for me are very much important because as soon as you can finish studying and will soon find a job, many will hire you because of your ratings. also, you will be promoted to a higher rank or be hired directly in a high ranking if you have high grades. those are the explanations of my instructor to motivate us- their students to aim for a higher grade specially that we are soon to be teachers and aiming to teach abroad.

High gardes in life does not necessarily mean a better life after college. But it give somebody a chance to become better among the best. With high you cut yourself a high nich in the competing society, which as a person will be of more rewarding when comes to your career. About parents being mad at their children when they drop even one grade to me it is not bad at all, sometimes a student must have drop because of not studying seriously, playing and missing classes. The parent has to come in to correct this behaviour.