A dream that keeps on coming back...
By cream97
@cream97 (29086)
United States
November 7, 2008 8:40am CST
I have had this dream about an Ex lover that I used to go with. We went together when I was in high school. He was in the 10th grade and I was in the 12th grade. I have been out of high school for 11 years as of now. I have dreams about him. In the dream, he is trying to find me and he wants to tell me how he feels. I believe that he still loves me, or has feelings for me. It is very odd because we have not seen each other since 2003 and 2004. He is now married from what I have been told. I don't know what girl he married. We spent one year together in our past relationship. I always have dreams about him. It is not everyday, but they come often. I don't have to be thinking about him and I will dream about him. We went to my prom together. If I keep on dreaming about him, does that have to mean something? When I go to sleep at night, he is not on my mind. What does this mean? Do you think that he wants me back? There has to be a meaning of this.. I can feel it, but I don't know quite what it is. There is a reason for why I continue to have dreams about him. I really feel that he wants to talk to me and that he still is in love with me. I also have been having dreams about another Ex boyfriend of mines. I will only dream about these two men. I have had many other boyfriends in my past. But, I only will dream about these two. Why is that so? Do you think that these two guys want to be back with me. It really is odd.
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15 responses
@shelly0427 (19)
• United States
7 Nov 08
Glad to know it's not just me. I have dreams of my "first love". We were together for 5 years and I think a First love is one you will never forget. He comes into my dreams less and less as the years go by. I find it humorous that our "dream relationship" is completely platonic. We were both adament about our beliefs on marriage and swore we would never divorce (whoever we married). I think that's why no lines are ever crossed in my dreams. We were really young and it's been 20 years since we've had any contact, but I'll always think of him fondly and enjoy seeing him, even if it's only in my dreams.
@shelly0427 (19)
• United States
7 Nov 08
I'm not sure that is a wise choice. I know I will always have feelings for him and am sure he feels the same. We are both married and have children and regardless of what we feel (or feelings we remember) we are both comitted to our familes and there is no reason to stir anything up. I always joke that he will be my 2nd husband after his wife and my husband pass away. Like when we are 90! But it's just that, a joke. I like keeping my fond memories and the "what if" feelings. That might get spoiled if I actually saw or talked to him.
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@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
7 Nov 08
Hmmmmmmm.. Bit interesting!! Yes sometimes,ur dreams will imply certain things. Which we'll realise only later after few days,months or years. But I personally feel that dreams just reflect our sub-conscious mind. Maybe ur sub conscious mind thinks of them atleast u feel or get reminded of them for some reason or the other!! I'd suggest u to have a personal conversation with them for u to arrive at a conclusion. If u hear from them they are fine with their family maybe u'll stop getting this dream. Gud luck!! 
Cheers 
Cheers 
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
9 Nov 08
My guess is that because you were heavily involved with the boy friend mentally there is always this subconscious feeling within you that he would be thinking of you, that he might have felt that staying on with you would have been better for him.It may be a distant wishful thinking in your subconscious. You may not consciously have any regrets or you may not pine for him but there is the level of involvement that goes within your deep self.
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@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
9 Nov 08
i think meet with these 2 men for coffee and just have a light chat like old friends reminiscing of old times and see where it will lead to.
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@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
10 Nov 08
they dont sound serious...they just want to have fun with their women.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I did once with both of them.. One of them, we almost made love and the other one, he was drinking.. I think that he wanted to spend the night with me. He kept on coming over to my apartment all the time, while his supposedly girlfriend was in Germany..
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
7 Nov 08
Hi cream,
Dreams are not meant to be interpreted literally. I have been reading a book on dreams because I also keep having dreams involving my ex-husband. He was my first love. We married when I was 20 and he was 22. We basically grew up together or at least we tried. As it turned out, we actually grew apart. Our marriage was not a good one. there was too much turmoil and we were 2 different people who wanted two different lives. after 17 years of marriage we finally divorced. The problem was that we still love each other but we need different things. We are good friends today. He has helped me out many times through the years. He is taking care of our son who we adopted at birth. He is 28 but has BiPolar Disorder. So my ex watches over him.
I'm trying to figure out why he keeps showing up in my dreams. I suspect I'm trying to find closure in for the marriage that ended 24 years ago.
There is a reason that you are dreaming of these two men from your past but you may need someone to help you interpret why. Let me know if you figure it out.
leenie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
7 Nov 08
If you can't find someone to help, then you might want to get a couple of books to help you.
In my first marriage, I was very insecure. From the beginning, he told me he still loved the girl he left behind when he joined the Air Force. He was young and very insensitive to my feelings. He never made me feel secure. When we went to parties or just to visit friends, he paid all his attention to the other women.
I think that part of my dream is to let that go. To realize that those feelings don't play into my present marriage. When I figure things out, I'll let you know.
leenie
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@jayyerex (224)
• Canada
13 Nov 08
I would ask if you have any unfinished business with these guys. There is something that is causing your subconcious to reflect on them over and over. I used to have recurring nightmares about my father. The wierd thing was I would have them within the same week every year. I would have them sometime around new years and they would last for four or five days. It happened for about four years running and then just went away. They stopped after my father left. I think that must have had something to do with it. the mind is a mysterious thing and there are certainly no definitive answers. I hope you figure it out and find some peace.
Good luck, Jay
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
8 Nov 08
You are probably having this dream because of the guy that's requesting your information on the site you told us about. Subconsciously, you're wishing it was him and he was free because you had such a nice thing together and your own marriage is less than wonderful. I mean, that's probably it. Especially with your being on your own now, life is a little scary and you're wishing for some safety and security. I think that's why you're having the dreams.
Soon those dreams will go away as you get more confident and learn just how much you can do for yourself. As you get stronger and see how capable you are, you won't be bothered by such things.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Yes, who knows??? it could be that guy that is looking for me that I have been having these dreams about.. But, the age difference does not add up. One of the guys should be 28 or 29 now. And the other one maybe be at least 32 now.. I doubt that he may be 31.. Or , it could be either one of them, and they are just lying about their ages.. Or, it maybe someone totally different..
@ch88ss (2271)
• United States
7 Nov 08
Well if you are happily married and have children, dismiss those dreams. They can be reaching out to you but ignore them because you do not want to ruin your marriage for an old flame.
It could be the same male who been looking at your profile on another post, could he just be looking for an old friend.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Nov 08
I also have the same experience with you. I keep on dreaming my ex boy friend and we are not both married. I am not thinking of him often but I dreamed of him. I don't think that he will want to come back with me because we both have our own family. Ma sure he also dreamed of me.
this is maybe normal when you spend time together for a long time. Well, i mean even if you are not living together before, but the moment you will spend time together like dating or other occasion? that is meaningful and sure it will often come back to memory.
this is maybe normal when you spend time together for a long time. Well, i mean even if you are not living together before, but the moment you will spend time together like dating or other occasion? that is meaningful and sure it will often come back to memory.1 person likes this
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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7 Nov 08
Hi cream97,
Maybe you are looking for something thats is lost but I don't think that they are wanting to contact you, maybe I'm wrong or they maybe thinking of you.
Tamara
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@cathy_human (78)
• China
8 Nov 08
to love someone is happy, even somtime you can't get him. even in the dream or the memory. he is so attractive.
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@tiffrocks33 (71)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I have had dreams about an old friend, we never dated but did hang out together. I usually have these dreams when I am stressed and that is my safe time in my life. If you are unhappy in your mariage then maybe you are looking to that safe/ happy time in your life. I don't know about contacting him that is your choice and only you can make it. Becareful because sometimes people change and aren't the way we remember. I wish you luck in what ever you deceide in your life.
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@chandrashekermogili (14)
• India
8 Nov 08
Everyone dreams in their day to day life but only some people work on it.I hope one or other day your dream comes true.Life itself is odd ,we have to fight against it to succeed in everything.
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
7 Nov 08
You know our unconcious makes alot of choices whether we believe them or not. Maybe you sitll have feelings for him? I dont know but maybe you feel something that he is thinking b/c yall were really tied together. Maybe next time you run into him you should feel him out and see. Be careful b/c maybe you feel it and he doesnt then you will look stupid. LOL!
