Cheating - forgivable or not?

Well to say this time i'll let it go is saying there is an expectation of there being a next time as well. So i wouldn't say that at all. IF and i mean a BIG IF.. if i forgave him it would take a lot for me to regain trust in him and not doubt him. What is to ensure me %100 that he isnt with the person he cheated on me with?? I always say that if my husband ever cheated on me (i believe there are two forms physical and emotional forms of cheating) in a physical way he'd be on the curb in no time. The only reason i could come up with is i have kids... even if he is a cheating scum bag once children are in the picture it is a different story because whether we like to admit it or not the role of "dad" can't really be replaced, but the role of "positive role model" can be filled in by someone who is just that. I don't know if the situation were to arise if i could totally forgive and live my life all honkey dory with the man who broke my trust. People do strange things for the sake of family and love.

Depends on the situation. The last guy that cheated on me was also cheating on two other women (his wife and his mistress) while we were going out. When I found out about the other women, there was no reason to forgive him, I just stopped being his girlfriend and moved on. If someone is married and actually has a history, they should probably work through the infidelity if both parties are willing.

Was this a serious relationship? Was there a committment? I think if the answer to both these questions is yes then cheating is not an option and is not forgiveable.

Honestly i could forgive my significant other if it was for a decent reason. If my boyfriend ever cheated on me and his reason was because he wanted the experience that would be fine with me. I honestly would say "i forgive you" because say he was a virgin when you dated him and he just wanted the experience before he got into a long relationship. I would definitely understand even though i have never cheated before but i know what it feels like.

Once a cheater always a cheater! A leopard doesnt change its spots. Thats what I go by. I couldnt forgive if my partner cheated on me. My ex fiance cheated on me and I never forgave him, he said I was the cheater and usually that's what the cheater will do is blame the other half. I can honestly say Im glad he cheated on me or I wouldve never found my husband and had my 2 beautiful children.

those who cheat with other they r not human being. they r just animal. and they dont know that they r doing it. they have no human feelings. if they have than they cant do this to their partner

i think when someone cheated, he should know that it is not really something i can forget. well, i can forgive but never forget about that thing he did and will always be played in my mind... maybe if that happens... and someone cheated on me... i will break it off because that would mean i am giving that person another chance to cheat on me...

For me it is easy to forgive but to forget I don't think so it will take her to say 1000 sorry or more. But I rather let it go. I only love you once, and I already given everything just for the relationship to work out. Still cheating is not reasonable. It's the nerve! That is not an excused and still tell me I love you. I think anyone knows what is right and wrong when your in a relationship. He or she should know what he or she likes to do with life. I rather let go. Then continuing a relationship that I will always have doubts and pains in my heart. Have a nice day!

yeah i did forgive my former partners in life.they all have cheated me many times but its ok with me as long as they are happy doing it well then go i dont wanna be blame for being so bitter i also have my time...

Before the event many of us say that we would never forgive someone for cheating. I too was a person who declared strongly that if my hubby ever cheated on me he would be out of the door, kids or not. However when it actually happens to you it is a totally different story, emotions of the time change everything, and the words you said before suddenly become meaningless. When I found out my hubby was cheating I was devastated, I had not long had our fourth child and I was already at an emotional low, and that totally affected the way I viewed things. I had to make a decision, a decision not just for me, but for our kids and this newborn little baby. I also had to take a lot of other things into consideration and so I chose to get over it. Until it actually happens to a person there is no way of knowing how it will affect them.

I don't think so - it would be so difficult to forget that he had betrayed me. And I'd always be so suspicious about him and his whereabouts, it would be a torture. I've a colleague whose husband had cheated on her once, and it's like she had to check on him almost every hour. She couldn't go out of town with a peace of mind. I don't think I can forgive and forget; most probably I would want him out of my life.

When cheating occurs, it is always good to let go someone who has been cheating on you. I think there is a moral risk if you will still go with that someone. Consider it as something which will always occur in the future. Since, you forgive one's past doing, that one will still be thinking that it is alright to cheat the next time around since you just forgive. i honestly say that some differences can be mend, but when cheating is the case, it is already a betrayal of trust. A breach of confidence. an intentional breakup. Do not invest too much on someone who cheats on you.

Yeah there's a lot of situations that my ex bf had cheated on me and I kept forgiving him coz I loved him so much until one day I got fed up and finally broke u with him. There's really no explanation on how you handle with cheating partners. It's up to you on how long can you tolerate or handle the situation.

To me cheating is unforgivable. I build all my relashinships on trust. Once you get rid of it its gone or you have to spend years trying too get it back

I don't have a dude, but if I did, he would have some explaining to do! I think that if he did it more than once, I would kick him to the curb. Even if he did it once, he would have to be crying, begging on his knees for forgiveness.

so far it does not happen to me yet but if in case it will, i guess its not forgivable. for me if a person agreed to enter in a relationship he/she should commit his/her whole being to that relationship, he should be loyal to his partner and honest by all means. so there's no reason to cheat , if a person really loves his/her partner i guess he/she will not do anything to hurt his/her partner. its really unforgivable.

For me it's forgivable but the emotional scar won't fade coz that kind of thing really set in really deep. It can't possibly be erased by a simple "I'm sorry". Forgivable but not forgettable...