Meeting people

@nannacroc (4049)
November 8, 2008 6:57am CST
I have always considered myself a sort of loner and have met very few friends in life but since I started using the internet I have started to meet people from all over the world who have common interests and a similar sense of humour to my own. I have come to care about these people, even though I haven't met any of them, sometimes more than I care for people I have met in my life. Have you found good friends on the internet?
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• Philippines
8 Nov 08
I do have a circle of friend from school and in the office but sometimes I also feel of wanting to be alone for quite a while then back to normal life again. I don't really have a big group mostly just a small circle of friends. But I do have a lot of cyber friends.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 Nov 08
Oh yes. A few very good and close friends who I have told everything and more about myself. More than even my family know about me. Now I don't want to become maudlin, but I have a very small number of real friends online who I trust implicitly and to whom I run when times are hard. One is in the Midlands of England. She always talks sense to me, isn't afraid to be blunt and these days even hugs me. She also slaps me when I deserve it Well actually, whether I deserve it or not! I have always felt comfortable with and she seems to work on my wavelength too. I have known many people in my life, but that person I rate most highly. She's a terrible mother though, so I've had to keep an eye on her children. Left to her, they'd be disowned. She says that she's only looked after them because no one knows who their real mothers are. They don't hold this against her though. In fact they are quite soppy about her too. Even the one that says she's not!
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@nannacroc (4049)
8 Nov 08
I'd like to meet her but maybe I wouldn't like her much especially in her stroppy moments. I'm glad the children have someone to look out for them. Do you know who their real mothers are?
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 Nov 08
I think that you would like her. She's quite lovely, just like you, cuddly too. I have a suspicion about who the girls' mother is. But the woman concerned is in denial, so we'll keep an eye on them for her until she sees the light!
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
17 Jan 09
Thank you for yet another BR Nanna.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
10 Nov 08
Sounds like me! I have so many online friends, and to be honest hardly any offline friends, I don't socialize, I am loner too, I am wary of strangers, I am shy and believe it or not I am totally the opposite online than I am offline! I have met some wonderful wonderful people online, friends that I actually consider sisters! I don't have any brothers or sisters so for me adopting sisters is wonderful and I feel so close to people online, I know if I am upset, need advice, support, need a smile, need a laugh my good online friends will be very very supportive, I don't know what I would have done without my friends especially on Mylot. I am a very fortunate person indeed and I count myself extremely lucky to have friends.
@nannacroc (4049)
10 Nov 08
I do believe it and, as pumpkin jam says, you already know the interests of people you befriend on MyLot so you know immediately that you will have something in common with them.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Nov 08
Yes I have and like you I care more for them then the ones I have met in Life we all share on here and we talk things you could probably never tell someone in real Life cause you would be worried in case they tell someone, I trust my online Friends more then ofline, I have met a couple and they are wonderful People Hugs to you
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@taripres (1499)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I understand what ur trying to say n that's nice! We meet people all over, sometime we can't help but become sort of attached to them in some way! It's an healthy relationship, it may even lead to something! I reacquainted with an old schoolmate on the internet, and now we're working on a potential lasting close relationship! So, u can never know, then u might not want to take it that far, remember I did know this person!! But casual communication outside of normal day to day people u see is a good thing, I believe! Taripre$
• Malaysia
8 Nov 08
Yeah found lots of good friends online. I met some of them as well, they are good people. =) I find chatting with people online are much more easier than talking to my real life friends. I have a fun time chatting with people on the net, yeah maybe it's because we share similar interest. The circle of friends i have online is much more bigger than real life as well. It's true that sometimes we care more for "unknown" people. Anyways, happy myloting!
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@JUNGLE (1157)
• South Africa
9 Nov 08
Like you I am also a loner,It is not that I have not had friends.I am a good conversationalist,but sometimes I can be very quiet.I have found lots of friends on MyLot and I feel good about it because they are from different parts of the world.!!!!LOL!!!!
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I have met many on here whom I consider my good friends. And not just 'friends list' friends either, a true meeting of the mind and spirit (and sense of humor too.) Like you, and a few others, it's a feeling like I've known you/them for a long time. Besides here, I have a few good friends I met on a medical support group site too. I count each and every friend I meet as a true blessing in my life. Hope you're having a good weekend! Joy
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 09
Hi nannacroc, other than the friends in the real life I’m so happy that I have met so many online friends from different parts of the world. Here we could have our mutual interaction frequently and so conveniently on certain common topics. Nowadays I spend most of the time during the leisure chatting with friends here. It already becomes one of my favorable habits to login mylot daily I would meet my friends around only before and during the vacation usually at the end of the year. I feel really sad that some of my very good friends that I have met here during those earlier days are no longer active anymore for more than a year or so. I don’t know what happen to them actually for they have left here without starting a discussion to tell us the reason why they leave here as well as to say good bye to us. And even none of them pm me before they leaving. It's nice that I still could find many new friends here so I don't feel lonely when online. Happy posting and have a nice day.
@nannacroc (4049)
18 Jan 09
A lot the friends I met when I first joined have disappeared without trace, no explanation. I keep them on my friends list just in case they return. I have made many friends here and become quite close to some even though we have never met. Take care.
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@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
9 Nov 08
I guess! For example, I do chat with some Japanese by skpye though I don't meet them in my real life. It doesn't really matter! I have to do some research and read lots of papers. However, some of the papers are hard to get in my university. Thus, I have to ask for help from some academic forum. After a little while, someone will send the paper that I need to my email box. As a result, someone and me may become online friends later. Also, it is not easy to take care of all the problems on my own. On the other hand, people around me may not know them either. At the time, I resort the question to an academic forum. As you know, yahoo answers are just like that. The difference is that most yahoo answers are not about academic things. Later, the kind and knowledgable person who solves my problem may become my skype or ym friends.
• India
9 Nov 08
To be frank, i am having lot of friends in my personal and business life. But on the net, i have very few and i want to increase the number of my friends in future. That is the main reason for joining something like mylot.
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• Indonesia
9 Nov 08
ive talked bout this many times lol..yes, ive found a great friends through the internet, almost 7 people are the closest ones for me. we talked not just on the net, but also sms n sometime call on the cell phone. when one of us is sad or having a problem, we're all will looking for them n just be there 4 them when they need us. it works both way. so yeah, we're all a great mates n it feels real.
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@Takashy (496)
• Latvia
9 Nov 08
Yeah I have had a few friends on the internet but I always end up loosing sight of them. Sometimes they simply disappear from the internet and sometimes the its the place that disappears(the place where we usually meet). Like I still remember this one site where I had a friend. The site simply disappeared from one day to the other and since we hadn't traded our emails I never met the person again. :/
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• United States
9 Nov 08
I was homeschooled through middle school and high school and have not met any of my current friends - ever. I now live in the same city as two of them and hope to change that soon (and also make more friends), but it seems to me it is much easier not to communicate face-to-face at first. I think the internet is probably more simple for me because I'm often speaking to people who have at least something in common with me (such as on fan sites, etc.). I've often wondered why it's so much easier for me to talk to someone face to face, but meet them online.
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@pumpkinjam (8768)
• United Kingdom
9 Nov 08
I have found some interesting people on the internet. In real life, our first impressions of people are their physical attributes whereas online we have to take more care and the first impressions are of opinions or interests so you are getting to know about the person first.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
11 Nov 08
One of the first people I met on-line was a fellow Australian. We were about the same age and even though we had lived different lives we became firm friends. The group we belonged to disbanded and she went one way and I went the other. We lost touch pretty well straight away. I continued to send messages of friendship when she was active and eventually she was inactive and emails went unanswered. I was really disappointed. Other friends in the same group also disappeared but I'm still in touch with two Americans...it's been 7 years. We are friends but don't know each other intimately.. Most of the people I've met on the net and made 'friends' with have faded into the woodwork. I really don't know why they bother to make a big deal about friendship when they just don't keep in touch. I don't think we need lots and lots of friends...one or two special people is enough. Yes, I have made some good friends maybe we need to meet many people to realise those who are true friends.
@nannacroc (4049)
11 Nov 08
You're right, I have one or two offline friends who I know and trust. You're right about how easy it is to lose contact with online friends sometimes but some remain constant.