Is it okay to be needy?

I was in a relationship one time where I became VERY needy, and I couldn't get out of it. He was very selfish and I gave and gave, but after about a year, I was running out of "give" and needed a little return. He didn't return anything and when I couldn't give anymore, rather than giving to me, he went to his friends and gave, which increased my need, which made me needy. A solution that has worked for me is not to give anymore. Being selfish is GREAT!!!!! :-D

Some people are mixing up being needy and being parasite. The difference between the two is this. Being a parasite is something like depending so much on someone without giving that someone a benefit. Although the dependent has the capability to be in one's own, still, that one is fully sucking the resources of the so-called host. Biologically it is really different because parasites needs to be dependent on their host. However, these parasites are considered to be as pest because of one thing, that is being dependent. On the other hand, there are people who are not dependent. Instead they need each other through that mutual relationship or in biology it is symbiotic relationship. When people have symbiotic relationship, they tend to need each other as they benefit from each other's company. But, when the relationship is just like being a parasite, I guess the term needy is something to be put out there!

I think being needy is a decision. People often decide to be needy because they think that this is a good way to keep their partners. What they do not realize is that their neediness may instead be one of the main reasons their partner would eventually want out.

I think there is a difference between need and needy. To need but be okay with not having and having to have or you can't go on. Needing is nature, being needy is not.

Once you allow someone to keep depending on you then it shows the person it's ok to be needy. I guess you just have to really distance yourself a bit if you sense that he or she is being needy again.