Domestic Violence-- I know that it exists but is the woman always the victim?

United States
November 8, 2008 5:38pm CST
I know this is a sensitive subject and mean no disrespect... But it seems as though men are always getting blamed for domestic violence and some cases are legitimate. Aren't there abusive women too? Seems that we don't hear much about that... The victim should never blame themselves or be blamed. But aren't there cases when one should take responsibility such as get out of the relationship?
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@bigtom1 (1573)
8 Nov 08
Most oftenly, the woman falls victim to Man the predator but i have heard several cases of the case being the other way round Sometimes men get false accusation but statistically its alway men who are the culprits since they consider themselves to be superior in most cases! Most of the cases are tricky especially when there are kids involved! Its easy to say they can always get over it after a divorce but it does affect most kids somehow!
• United States
9 Nov 08
You are correct about the statistics BUT how accurate are they? After-all, how many men actually report? So I believe the stats are skewed.
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@bigtom1 (1573)
9 Nov 08
If you are a man in that position you would think you are being a softie to report but i believe it depends mostly on the economic situations. It would be very rare if the victim is the bread supplier of the house!
• United States
9 Nov 08
I'm not sure that it matters. I've known women to be very aggressive and even abusive with the man who was the bread winner. It is psychological whenever they wear the person down and make them think that no one else would have them.
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
I think that there are many men who do not report this type of abuse. They have too much pride. My brother was repeatedly abused by his exgirlfriend. He was only 16 at the time and did not want to admit it. He was always taught not to hit women. So the only thing he could do was to try to restrain her from hurting him too much. She finally stoped when she had tried beating on him in front of me. I then had explained to her that he was taught not to hit a woman but because I was a woman it would be a fair fight. So I went afet her. She never touched him again. Sometimes people are too afraid to leave. I wish that they would be brave enough to leave.
• United States
9 Nov 08
You're right and I think they fear the unknown. The person normally doesn't think they could get anyone else. Then there are others who tend to minimize the abuse.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
yes it works both ways and men can be the victims, there are many abusive women out there and there are husband beaters too.
@zhaychel (610)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Nov 08
I have read a news once that a wife cut her husband's private parts because she was very jealous of her husband's secretary. The husband said during the interview that he did nothing to her and that fling issue was just her imagination. The husband was taken to the hospital but it was already too late. The wife was brought to the police station for investigation and the look in her face was very furious and with no regret with was she has done. Sad! Weird! ^^,