After the break up do you immediately get someone else as your bf/gf?
By n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
November 8, 2008 9:10pm CST
For me it takes months or years. Cause it's not easy to fall in love for me it takes time to forget! How about you guys? Have a nice day!
8 responses
@iamcdy (1119)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Based on my experience, it was not easy to be in another relationship immediately after one had just ended. I had to heal my broken heart and make sure that it is whole again if ever someone comes by. It was hard for me to just jump in to another relationship and I know it will be unfair to the new person who will come to my life if ever I came from being broken. It took me almost a year to have a new relationship after my previous one. And at that time, I knew I was ready and a whole person again. 
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
I think it is hard to forget and heal the wounds when you really love that person. And it's unfair to go and jump to a new relationship when the wounds is not healed. It took me eight months to love again. I think anyone should be ready and take the consequences when they fall in love again. The pains from the past heps us to be a better person. Good morning! God bless!
@zemlene (354)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
No its not good. you are not fair to your new bf and to yourself as well for entering another relationship right after your break up. It takes time to heal wounds and time to reflect the turn outs of your recent relationship. You have to let the time pass enough to regain your self esteem and to trust someone again.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Yes it's really hard to go on a new relationship thatyou never heal your hurts and pains from your ex. The feeling really is unfair. It takes time to forget and heal the wounds. But life has to go on. It's not easily to trust someone when pain is ther still. Have a nice day! God bless!
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Personally, i am not that easy to move on. I could say that it would take me time before letting myself enter into a new relationship after a painful break up because when i enter a relationship it is serious and true. I give all my love, thats why when it hurts when breaking up and its not easy to move on. Well of course every painful break up thought me a lot which make me a better person right now and much more i know what i want now and who i wanted to be with the rest of my life.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
That is very true that we learn from this pains and hurts and we became a better person from this mistakes. After my break up with my ex it took me time to forget and heal the wounds it took me time also to think what I really want for myself and adjust being alone. God bless! Have a nice day to you!
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
9 Nov 08
its kind of hard to say for me... i seem to want to find someone else somewhat kind of fast to help me forget the person before them... but it takes time thats for sure to heal and get over it if you need too... and it takes time to build something new with a new person.. but it depends
@krayzietam (832)
• United States
9 Nov 08
If I break up with someone, I can't just immediately jump right into another relationship. In my eyes, that would look bad on my part, which may show that I didn't really care about the previous person I was just with. Overall, I just like to take my time with relationships. I don't see the point of rushing into them because then it may not work out because of that.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
You are right! The world would look bad at you or your ex might think that you don't love him if you jump easily to another relationship. It took me eight long months before I fell in love again and now it's been 2 years with my new relationship. But it helps time to heal the pains and the hurts. Have a nice morning to you! God bless!
@Vivian_Studio (275)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Hi n30wing,
It is really hard for me to get someone as my bf immediately after break up, I guess I need time to recover from the past and get ready for the next relationship.
Happy mylotting~
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
I don't know why some other people easily get someone new. Maybe they just don't love their partner or they just fall out of love that is why it's very easy for them to enter a new relationship. I just believe that wounds should be healed first. Have a nice morning! God bless!
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
I am deffinately NOT one of those people that immediately find a rebound to make them feel better. NOT AT ALL. After my first breakup with my first love, it took me a good like 7 or 8 months to be able to fully be comfortable with the idea. Immediately after we broke up I had guys that were interested but when I was around them and knew that they were I felt incredibly awkward. It just didnt feel right. I eventually got over that and met new people and started new relatinships but I dont immediately need a guy. After breaking up with my first love and figuring out that life goes on and can get better, I find theres a shorter waitinig period in between new love interests, but I dont just jump from guy to guy I wait a bit and just chill out when it happens.
@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
As much as possible i do not do that.For me jumping immediately from one relationship after another is not health in terms of relationship.You end up using the person as an outlet of all the feelings you still have for you ex,or maybe a coy for all the hurting you are still going thru.After break-ups I usually alot a time for me to heal,move on and get track back on my life.Then if come someone who offers love,i can say to myself that if ever i will have feelings for the guy,the feelings are pure and genuine.
