I've trusted a friend....he betrayed me.....

Definitely! You should not let it pass. You should confront him with what he did as he indeed betrayed your trust and your friendship. If he were indeed your friend he would not have made up a story just to get money from you. Why didn't he just say outright why he needed the money instead of making a fool of you. So go ahead and confront him with his lie.

"Never loan what you can't afford to lose" - words to live by! I fell into the same trap as you did. My next door neighbor came to me with a sad story - trouble with the roommates, bills piling up, traffic ticket he had to pay, blah, blah, blah - he asked if I could loan him $50 until Friday (it was Tuesday) - he was active in the Navy, stationed very nearby, and lived next door. So, I took the chance - guess what!? I never saw him again! His roommates told me he got arrested the next day for drunken-disorderly conduct and got confined to his ship. Soon after that, the roommates moved out and the landlord hadn't heard from him either! Boy, I should have known better! Guess he used my $50 to get drunk and get himself arrested! I guess he got his! But, I never got mine! Oh well...you live and learn.

You're such a kind person to have trusted him easily, money-matter. You know, I believe that money is really a temptation and many people can make up stories just to deceive others for their own money-making schemes. I'm so sorry for you and I hope you can confront this person at once. He did one worst thing to a friend!

don't jump into conclusions yet.. the best thing you can do is to talk to your friend, ask him nicely about your concerns and then that's the only time you do your next step.. if you found out that he betrayed you or something, then confront him..

Just a thought.If you really trust him and you really consider him as your friend,why should you ask him first before accusing him of betrayal.Your brother may be the person who told you about your friend lying to you to get money,im not questioning his integrity,but if you really consider your friends as your friend,hear his side of the story.from there,you can now decide whethet he betrayed you or not.You dont want to be accused a traitor by a friend who did not hear your side of the story right? Do unto other what you want others do unto you.. Have a nice day.

Have you asked your friend about it? How do you know your brother isn't lying? I just saying I wouldn't jump to calling your friend a lier if you have not confronted him about it. Talk to him see what he says about it. See if you can tell if he is telling you the truth or not. Then I ask myself what kind of meds cost 50 unless its a regular perscription. It's a tough one, but I would definitely talk to him first about it.

it is there all the way. when we help our friends in hour of need, they betray us most.it was with me as well.my so called best friend took all advantages from me and then cheated me big time

I had the same situation like yours. Am generous and kin and a friend of mine abused that. Right now, I don't trust her and even the friendship is on the rocks. I want her to give and return all the money she borrowed, then forgets her. My trust was lost. I could forgive what she has done, but my trust to her can't be restored. She fooled me not only twice and she took advantage of my silence because I don't want the friendship to break. However, enough is enough. I can be good and nice to those who are nice to me, but may become bad if necessary. Confront him, it is your right.

Hello Dong, It is good to be friendly but be wise too. If a friend needs something, we want to help but we all need to start asking questions or we will be sorry later. Life has many lessons and we need to keep our eyes and ears open to what is going on arround us. So be careful and be friendly but with caustion.

dong1970, I am sure you have your prerogative and conscience when you lent the money to your friend, so you should just take it that you have done him a favor. Besides, you never know if his reasons were true or not. Just having what your brother has told you does not mean that he is lying although you may want to believe that blood is thicker than water. Sometimes, we need to learn to give the benefit of doubt to the other party. If you can afford and comfortable to help then by all means render a helping hand. If you cannot then I am sure the other party will understand and will seek someone else for help. However, since you have already decided and lent him the money, then just await for his return. Friends needs to give and take as well. So you have given and helped and I am sure if he is a true friend, I am sure he will return the favor in kind in due time. Cheers and take care.

Go and tell him direct to his face so he'd know he can't get away with his wrong deed. Imagine even making up stories about his son. It's very dangerous because at anytime God could give sickness to his family just to teach him good lesson. Better tell him that you know already that he fooled you.

some people are like, they dont think it is a form of betrayal, maybe he is just desperate for some money and shy to tell you the true reason why he needs money. i used to have a friend at work. we were so close but one time, she just started avoiding me and not talking to me. i thought maybe just needed time on her own but then some of our officemates noticed the gap between us. i tried talking to her but she doesn't want to. so i said okay i made the first move and tried to talk to her but she wouldn't. its up to her to make the second move. then i found out someone told her that i did something that hurt her, which was not even true. i felt betrayed that she did not even confront me with the issue and ask me if i really did that, she believed the other person immediately and did not give me the chance to explain or give my side of the story. so i said, she's not worthy of my friendship. true friends will confront each other and ask for her side of the story before believing other people who maybe telling them lies.