Will it be rude if i ask my guy friend if he was gay???
By loxion
@loxion (1553)
India
November 11, 2008 12:26am CST
I have this friend of mine and we do not really spend much time together and i do not really know him very well but everyone thinks he is gay, i kind like disagree with them at times but when i look at his behaviour and his other friends i turn to believe what other friends say.
I personally do not have problem with gay people, but i really want to know him better
Will it be rude for me to ask him??
6 responses
@Rainsborough (24)
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24 Nov 08
Just ask him. If he is secure in his sexuality, either gay or straight, it shouldn't phase him. At worst it may be a little awkward but if you make clear that it doesn't bother you either way everything should be fine.
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
11 Nov 08
I wonder, in reading your replies to others, exactly what behavior you are talking about. I've known a number of very effeminant straight men and a hell of a lot of masculine gay men.
You shouldn't ask him. You are not a friend, from what I've seen. YOu are an acquaintance. If he is closeted, your question will scare the crap out of him. If you want to get to know him better, get to know him. Go out with him. Talk with him. Become friends. Then, he might tell you on his own. Don't push.
@deepika_mona (1338)
• India
11 Nov 08
No it wont be rude but don't ask him directly as he may not able to understand u or like he may u also don't trust him etc i think u should go out with him alone n spend good time with him so u came easily come to know he was guy or not i hope u understand what i mean to say
@loxion (1553)
• India
11 Nov 08
Most people around here aren't comfortable with gay guys and going out with him will make people think that we are in love and they will be uncomfortable with my presence too
For me is not a problem if we hang out with gay guys but i mean spending time the two of us will somehow make me feel uncomfortable too
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
When I was still working, my officemates and I think that one of our officemates is gay but we didn't have the courage to ask him straight about it. Some of us just kid around him about the issue. He doesn't entertain those things and just laughs with us. 
I think it is rude to ask someone if he is gay unless you are really close to him or you know him very well. But, come to think of it, if you know him that well, you will definitely know if he's gay or not. Anyway, I think some guys have feminine manners. Some speak softly and are really close to women that they tend to imitate women acts.
I think it is rude to ask someone if he is gay unless you are really close to him or you know him very well. But, come to think of it, if you know him that well, you will definitely know if he's gay or not. Anyway, I think some guys have feminine manners. Some speak softly and are really close to women that they tend to imitate women acts.
@hildas (3031)
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24 Nov 08
I think it would be rude to ask him directly. I would maybe drop it into a conversation, but do not come right out with it. He might not thank you for it.
I am sure it would not matter anyway really if you knew or not. I am sure you will find out soon enough.
