What is the youngest person you would ever date ?

@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 11, 2008 7:17am CST
I am a twenty nine year old gentleman who is presently persuing an eighteen year old young lady.Its not that I am perverted or anything but I find this young lady to be mature and intelligent ,qualities I never thought I would find in women at this age.In fact up until now I had considered this age group to be the exact opposite so you could imagine my surprise when I found her and I guess that is why I fell so hard. I am so into this girl I am thinking of making this long term .Mind you I know the risks involved with dating a younger woman, so I am a little cautious and taking it slowly but I like the way things are progressing so far .We are really taking it slowly and getting to know each other.I am encouraging her to go to college and all so she can get as many experiences as possible before we take our relationship to the next level. What are your views on the older men/ youger women debate ?.Do you think there should be an emphasis on age or it is dependent on personality .Do you think these relationships can last ?
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I never dated anyone younger than myself as I never really dated. LOL However my husband is 8+ years my senior. We got together when he was 24 and I was 16. We certainly never planned it out this way, but almost 17 years later we are still together (married almost 14 years). So as you can see, age shouldn't be a factor in a relationship (as long as the two in the relationship are of consenting age).
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• United States
11 Nov 08
I'm a 30-year-old woman, and I dated a 19-year-old for a short while after [ex] Husband filed for divorce. We actually had a lot in common, we got along great, and we had fun. That's all that mattered. We only ended it because he was going away to college. My mother was with a man 30 years her senior for nearly 15 years, the longest relationship of her life.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
11 Nov 08
When I was in the dating game the youngest girl that I dated was fifteen going on sixteen and I was eighteen. Age gap is not that important when people are mature. However problems will crop up when the couple grows up. I had an aunt who passed away recently who married a gentleman 20 years older and they lived so happily together.
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@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
11 Nov 08
I don't think age effects most relationships. I think in most cases- it's because the younger of the two people generally hasn't experienced a lot of things- and therefore want to experience them. - Thus possibly leading them into trouble. I would know because i have felt this way before. My boyfriend (who is older then i)- well, we've been together since i was 15- and he was- my first and ONLY proper boyfriend/relationship I've had. He was my first kiss- etc. And therefore i feel i have missed out a lot on the life most girls that are single live. Though as i've grown- Its not come to bother me so much anymore. I am happy with my boyfriend, and i'm happy with the way our relationship is going.- He is old enough and mature enough to know that sooner or later we will take the next step- But until then, i'm not bothered. I'm happy that i have the life i have- i mean, either way you could end up regretting your choice- so mine stays definite. (I'm not a good decision maker- i always end up regretting making choices). So yeah- as long as you're not just after one thing from such a younger women- then why the hell not? If you love her.. go for it!
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@abyin007 (426)
• India
11 Nov 08
i would like to date with only those girls which are maximum 5 yrs younger than me. I dont like the age differance more than that... happy lotting
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• Philippines
11 Nov 08
i dont think there are limits to love, however since she's much younger, she's more vulnerable...it's good that you're both taking your time and all that, it's evengreat that you're influencing her to finish college too...but even if she seems mature and all that right now, she's still a child so there will be times that realization will hit you, and i just hope you will be ready for that...always be on guard...
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@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
[i]Hello ronnyb, Age doesn't matter in love, so it's just ok. Just be careful because age gap relationship have some other motive aside from love. I think, she might just be interested in your wealth and wisdom and once she got what she need, she will left you behind with a younger and able man. No, I am only kidding. If you enjoy each other company it's ok, that's what's is love all about. I know some people with great age differences, have great relationship, so I think you are in good hand. Good luck. Regards.[/i]
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Hi there ronnyb!I have almost always been in a relationship where my partner is older than I am. There was I think one instance where the guy was younger than I am by a year. It was one relationship that did not really last long. In most of the relationships I have been in, the guy is at least two years older than I am. The oldest person I have dated is someone who was 10 years my senior. I honestly do not think that there is a proper age gap between two people so that their relationship would last. I think that what matters most is how well they love each other and how both of them would take care of their relationship.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
11 Nov 08
If, I was not married and single.. I would date a person at least 18 years of age. That would be the youngest for me. I am 30 now..
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@Ina926 (172)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I think it depends on the people involved, I have been married to my husband for eleven years. He was 21 when I met him and I was 15. When we got married, he was 23 and I was 17. My dad is seven years older than my mom and they have been married for 30 years. So you see, it can happen. I hope your relationship goes well. Happy Mylotting!
@caskins (689)
• United States
25 Nov 08
hello ronnyb, in my opinion it won't. personally i would never date that anyone that young. i am thirty-three years old and i will never date anyone under twenty-eight years old. i have a niece that is eighteen. that is way too young. good luck on persuing her. i wish you the best.
@calyxus (825)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Have you heard about the saying " age doesn't matter"? LOL I think this goes out to you and your girl friend. I also believe that age doesn't really matter as long as both of you know how to handle the relationship, and as long as you could communicate with each other well despite the age gap. Its not the years of existence on earth that counts anyway; but the love that you have for each other.
@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
I don't think age is an issue as long as the lady knows how to carry a relationship. The youngest I've ever dated was someone who was seven years younger than me. I'm 24, she's 17. However, it didn't end quite well as some people who didn't like it and practically ripped us apart. As for your question, whether it will last or not depends on the individuals. 18-year-old is already mature enough to know how to carry on a relationship and to understand the responsibilities behind it. Good luck on your relationship and take good care of each other. Cheers~
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
31 Dec 09
Hi ronny, I honestly thought that you were a woman for some reason before I read this so glad that you put this one up. I find that men generally, once they reach a more mature age than you are at present, tend to show a preference for women within their same age group. I know many who would not date a much younger woman as they would expect her to find a younger man in time.
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
12 Nov 08
The youngest person I ever dated when I was 21 and he was 18, he was more mature than most guys my age. We thought that we were just friends but we were talking all of the time online and the on phone. We got married not very long after we started seeing each other. We've been married for 4 years now. The answer to your question is; No, I don't think age matters its only a number and yes it does depend on the personality its good that you guys are taking it slow and yes I do think these types of relationships can last.
@gemini_rose (16264)
12 Nov 08
I am 35, my hubby is just coming up to 30 our age difference has never been an issue between us or to anyone else as I look younger than him anyway so people just assume we are the same age! I have to say that personally if I was not with hubby and on the lookout for love then I would not go for anyone who was more than five years younger than me just because I think that for me five years younger is enough. But everyone is different and yes I do think age gap relationships can last if both of the people are mature enough.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
12 Nov 08
as long as both people are concenting adults.. i see no reason to worry over numbers. "age" is just a way for society to categorize the populice.. and holds no bearing on wisdom, experience, compatability or any other validity whatsoever. my husband is 11 years younger than i am. when we met, i was 31 and him just turning 20. weve been together now nearing our tenth anniversary, have an 8 year old daughter together.. and i couldnt imagine loving anyone as thoroughly as i do him. if id gone by societal standards.. idve missed out on everything that is good and pure in my life. if the two of you are happy together.. that is ALL that matters. ignore the numbers.. theyre worthless. *nod*
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
12 Nov 08
The youngest person I have ever date was 2 years younger than I was. I haven't had that many relationships with younger women though as I always found that they were not very mature. I usually dated older women. My wife is actually a few years older than I, and we have been married for 8+ years. The oldest women I have ever been involved with was 30 years old and I was 18 though. That was many many many years ago. I don't think much about those days anymore, and I was a different person then on a different path in life. I am on a better path in life now and only hope to make it better.
@DEVONECO (144)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Hey man. Rule no.1 - "Age" is only a number and "Old" is only an attitude. Rule no.2 - "Age" is no barrier in a relationship! Get it ??????????? What's important in a relationship is Love, respect, compatibility and compromise - amongst many other factors. You already mentioned that this girl, although young in "age", is very mature and intelligent. So, you've already identified that she's compatible with you - right????? There are many older people who behave like kids - and sometimes petty. As time passes by, you will both get to know each other and then can decide if you should "tie the knot" some day. Any relationship will last if it has the most important ingredients - Love, understanding, respect, caring, compatibility, compromise, security, etc. etc. - the list is long - but its all in a relationship. Good luck!!!!!
• United States
13 Nov 08
i guess it would have to be my husband. he's five years younger then i am. it was rough at first.because he thought i was trying to out do him. i wasn't, it's just that i had already done the things he was just doing. but there was a lot of thing he had done that, while i was raising my children from my first marriage i couldn't do. the one thing i just told my son. his girl friend is almost 21 he is almost 31. she is the sweetest girl.and i realy do like her. is give her just a little time. you were here a little longer then she has been and there's a gap between your age. but it can work out.always be sure to let her know you love her a lot, and don't let it sound phoney. let it come from your heart. and if you realy feel the same about each outher. gard your relationship. never forget what made you fall in love. and how lonely you were before she came along. don't have a child the first year.give you and her a chance to get to know each other first. go places even if it's just a drive. or a walk. or a hot cup of chocolate. and the symple things to get aquainted.good luck