Is online relationship a form of cheating??
By kissie34
@kissie34 (2294)
Philippines
November 12, 2008 3:34am CST
Last night, I had watched TV-5 here in the Philippines and the main topic of 3R show is about having online relationship... Then there's a question being raised by the host if having an online relationship is a form of cheating.. Well, let us say that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend who is beside you but then you meet someone through online.. That person can makes you happy and can cheer you up especially if your boyfriend/girlfriend is busy... You develop something to that person then you agree both to have an online relationship.. So, do you think it is a form of cheating?? Or it is not a form of cheating since there is no physical intimacy??
Well, most of the people being interviewed they said that it is a form of cheating since you still having a relationship with other people.. It seems that you were having to boyfriend/girlfriend at the same time but the difference you can't have an intimacy to your online partner.. If you ask me this questions, I believe that it is a form of cheating since you are having another affair and most of all you are lying and fooling your partner.. I know that it just an online relationship, you can see him face to face (except through online webcam), you can't touch him but you can express your feelings to him/her through message or voice.. So, it is still just like he/she is there beside you..
What about you guys?? Do you think that having an online affair is a form of cheating?? For those who had experienced or who is in the situation like this, what can you say about this discussion?? I hope you will share your experienced to me.. Thanks fro dropping by.. Have a nice day!
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43 responses
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Hello 
To most people it would be cheating in some form . If you are lying to the one you are with it is cheating and if you are hiding that you are talking to someone .
You can grow close to people online and it could turn to more , but what will you do if you are not single . If you start speaking of feeling and then act i would say it is cheating . If you plan on being together cheating i would say .
It is ok to flirt i think to a point online , but sometimes even that may turn to more .
To most people it would be cheating in some form . If you are lying to the one you are with it is cheating and if you are hiding that you are talking to someone .
You can grow close to people online and it could turn to more , but what will you do if you are not single . If you start speaking of feeling and then act i would say it is cheating . If you plan on being together cheating i would say .
It is ok to flirt i think to a point online , but sometimes even that may turn to more . 3 people like this
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
Yes, I agree with you.. Unexpected things will always going to happen to matter you ask for it or not.. So, when you engaged yourself of doing some flirt online then expect something worst because once a person had done something and he/she likes it, the more if she/he enjoys it then its already impossible to stop going beyond the boundary.. 
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for sharing!1 person likes this
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Online relationship is a clear sign of cheating,
that is my honest opinion about this topic. You should
not involved yourself romantically with anybody other than
your girlfriend or boyfriend in any form.
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
12 Nov 08
yes most people consider this cheating you interacting with someone else by responding to them in a chat.yes webcam alsorts of things be happeing on webcam people taking there clothes off and doing other things too but all people don,t use webcam in this way .having a online affair is cheating on your mate but alot people do it and don,t think anything wrong with it
@jayyerex (224)
• Canada
12 Nov 08
Unless you specifically can say that you are just friends then I think yes it is cheating. You are creating an intimate relationship with someone else that is supposed to be reserved for your significant other. I have no problems with being friends with someone on line but if things begin to get heated or you start to take strides to be with that online person to the exclusion of your partner then you are cheating. It's a breach of trust and that will ultimately end your relationship.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Well, I agree that there are some people are using webcam for other purpose as like what you've mentioned above 
.. We can't deny that we sometimes search people from other country through chatting and other social sites like friendster.. We love to mingle and meet new people and learn something new from them especially in their cultures and socialization.. Well, because of this some people can't help their self to develop something to that person.. I don't know if what kind of feeling it develop since I've never tried it and never experienced like this.. But I know some of friends who have an online affair and for them it is just for fun.. And besides they were confident that their partner would not know about having an online affair since it is "online" they were far from each other.. So, it is really easy to keep it as a secret.. Well, I really don't know why they were doing it but for me I consider them as cheating since they were having an affair with another person.. 
.. We can't deny that we sometimes search people from other country through chatting and other social sites like friendster.. We love to mingle and meet new people and learn something new from them especially in their cultures and socialization.. Well, because of this some people can't help their self to develop something to that person.. I don't know if what kind of feeling it develop since I've never tried it and never experienced like this.. But I know some of friends who have an online affair and for them it is just for fun.. And besides they were confident that their partner would not know about having an online affair since it is "online" they were far from each other.. So, it is really easy to keep it as a secret.. Well, I really don't know why they were doing it but for me I consider them as cheating since they were having an affair with another person.. 1 person likes this
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
12 Nov 08
Yes i think this online dating and relationship is CHEATING!!!
Common, i WILL feel uneasy if my boyfriend speaks intimately to any other girl, let alone online...
My boyfriend is even possessive than me.. He often check my handphone to see whether there are other guys who message me.. Then he would ask me lots of questions about them.. Even on MSN messenger, he ask if anyone else messages me.. So i have to say my boyfriend will AGREE TOTALLY that online relationship, chatting, anything way out is CHEATING!!!
Haha.. Just a note, I actually felt important when he asks, as he is concerned and he would be jealous.. Although it is slightly over the limit with my privacy, but i think i will be worried if he is not that possessive.. I might even wonder if he has somebody else outside!
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
13 Nov 08
OH MY GOD!!! I have never thought of this..
I guess i have to be extra careful then.. hmm.. maybe i should start to check on him too.. Just to make myself secure in thinking?
Hmm.. But he did mentioned that he has a previous relationship where his ex was cheating on him, was pregnant in the process.. According to him, it was really a bad experience for him.. i am better than his ex he say..
I did check with his friends about the story and they confirms it.. They were saying how bad tempered he was when he is still with his ex... Now that he has me, he has tone down a lot.. which is a positive change.. and i am really glad.. i am appreciated..
So to a certain extend, i do not mind him checking on me so that he can be assured.. Now i guess it's my turn.. just to be sure..
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
12 Nov 08
I know it can be flattering that someone is jealous of you.....but only to a point.
But it can also be a symptom of him cheating, too.
I had a boyfriend that contstantly accused me of cheating whenI wasn't. Was very suspicious and always took things the wrong way whenever I interacted in any way with another male person.
You see, human nature makes us believe that everyone will react or respond the same way we do. So, when a man, well, a person, is overly jealous, it often means that he is assuming you will be like him and cheating. So Beware!
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Yes, I agree that it really flattered when we know that our boyfriend/partner cares so much to us and especially if he is jealous. It only shows that he don't want us to lose in his life
.. But of course too much jealous and not in proper place make us irritated.. Well, I guess not all boys AnnieOakley1 is the same with your boyfriend.. But at least try to be careful ksherrie with your boyfriend.. I think you can just able to know if your boyfriend has another affair if he don't want you to check his the messages in his phone and in his email and especially if he is being defensive.. Sometimes, when they were doing something wrong you can recognize already whether they were guilty or not in a way that they become defensive and having so many secrets.. There's nothing wrong if you check his phone since he is your girlfriend and he is doing it also, right??
Thanks for the responds.. Have a nice day for the both of you!
.. But of course too much jealous and not in proper place make us irritated.. Well, I guess not all boys AnnieOakley1 is the same with your boyfriend.. But at least try to be careful ksherrie with your boyfriend.. I think you can just able to know if your boyfriend has another affair if he don't want you to check his the messages in his phone and in his email and especially if he is being defensive.. Sometimes, when they were doing something wrong you can recognize already whether they were guilty or not in a way that they become defensive and having so many secrets.. There's nothing wrong if you check his phone since he is your girlfriend and he is doing it also, right??
Thanks for the responds.. Have a nice day for the both of you!1 person likes this
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
13 Nov 08
It can be a form of cheating for the following reasons:
1. your bf/gf doesn't know about this person you have met online
2. you start to develop emotional feelings for the person online
3. you and the person online discuss things that only you and your bf/gf should discuss
4. you desire to see this person online in person and eventually act out upon seeing them in person one day
As the old saying goes, if you play with fire, you'll liable to get burned. So needless to say, don't do it. However, if you and your bf/gf have an understanding, and you both AGREE that the online relationship is okay, then by all means. But just be very careful what you discuss with the other person online especially don't complain or go into detail about dislikes that you may be experiencing with your bf/gf.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
I definitely agree with all the things you've said.. 
Some people is not aware of what they are doing when they engaged their self in this online relationship. They thought that having a good relationship through online doesn't affect anything in their life especially in the relationship that they have with their partner. I guess its all the matter of awareness in own deeds..
Thanks for sharing!
Some people is not aware of what they are doing when they engaged their self in this online relationship. They thought that having a good relationship through online doesn't affect anything in their life especially in the relationship that they have with their partner. I guess its all the matter of awareness in own deeds..
Thanks for sharing!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Nov 08
If you have to hide the online relationship. Or you prefer to be online instead of being with your boyfriend/girlfriend, then it is cheating. But if you are just friends , then I don't see as cheating. I have a online friend and he is married but we only talk hockey and some football. I usually tell to say hello to his wife for me. I assume that he has told her about me. I am not interested in a romantic relationship and neither is he.We are just friends. And if his wife wanted, she could read Everything I have written him. she may not like it because her husband and I root for another football team than she but there isn't any secret love letters.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
There's nothing wrong to be friends in online chatting for us long as you were just friends and not going to the boundary.. I usually chat people also but I am not take it seriously.. I just greet them "hi" or "hello" but more than that no more.. I am not fun of chatting other people who I don't know.. I just want to chat my boyfriend and my friends that I knew than to strangers.. Anyway, thanks for sharing!
Anyway, thanks for sharing!1 person likes this
@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
15 Nov 08
Nothing is real. Every thing has its end. You can also be cheated in your real life. So you should never be worried if you are being cheated on line. We need special care in our physical life as far as our virtual life. We should justify first and after then we should develop the online and offline relationships.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
I believe, that merely loving somebody else aside from your partner although you are not really seeing each other personally, is already a form of cheating. That is why, when I find someone admirable, I just stop from there. I no longer nurture my admiration so the love will not grow.
@littleowl (7157)
•
12 Nov 08
Hi kissie..yes I do beleive it is a form of cheating as the excitment of having that online relationship and intimate things you probably say to each other really are the things you should be saying to your real partner, I think if my partner was doing that online and I found out then I would go mad with them..littleowl
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Me too.. If I found out that my boyfriend is having an online affair I will really get mad to him
.. Well, I know that the girl is living far or she is just somebody in the internet still there will be a chance that they can meet, right?? There's nothing impossible in this world right now.. And it is already a cheating for me since he can tell all the sweet words to that girl.. Well, I know that my boyfriend don't have an online affair since I know his email add, his YM account, and his social network site.. He gave me all the info to access those site even though I didn't ask for it.. Actually, same thing he also know everything.. Thanks for sharing..
.. Well, I know that the girl is living far or she is just somebody in the internet still there will be a chance that they can meet, right?? There's nothing impossible in this world right now.. And it is already a cheating for me since he can tell all the sweet words to that girl.. Well, I know that my boyfriend don't have an online affair since I know his email add, his YM account, and his social network site.. He gave me all the info to access those site even though I didn't ask for it.. Actually, same thing he also know everything.. Thanks for sharing..1 person likes this
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
19 Mar 09
In my opinion if you agree that you have a online relationship with someone then yea I think it is cheating. Just because you cannot touch them there is still an aspect of cheating that is there.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Well, honestly I don't believe that "Actions SPEAKS louder than WORDS" because not all actions that people were trying to show is the same meaning or interpretations that you were thinking in mind.. I like more on words and actions together because there is surely and better communications than actions itself..
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
For me I consider an online romantic relationship with another man or woman cheating as well. In the first place you have violated your commitment with your partner by having one with another person and for me violating that commitment is really cheating. Feelings could transcend through non physical means and not having any physical contact doesn't mean you don't cheat because commitments and relationships are found on feelings as well.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
I agree with you.. Cheating is not only about having physical contract (whether through online or real life) but also the feelings.. If a person have a mutual understanding to other person then he/she is already cheating his/her partner because her/his attention and love is already divided..
thanks for sharing!
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 08
well, if you are having a boyfriend/girlfriend, then you still have another online relationship, then it is cheating....
well, actually i know my dear through online also, and that time, we not yet confirm our status yet and then have another guy saying that he like me, i rejected him... because although we not yet confirm our status, but i feel like I can't cheat my dear.... well, that time, it really a hard time for me, because with my dear, our status not confirm and the other guy always make me happy and cheer me up.... I really don't know how to handle it because i really love my dear but he seen like not confirm, so i really sad and the guy trying his best to make me happy... I feel like i so bad cause i like cheating the guy which i don't like him.... and at last, after my dear confirm our status, i totally stop chatting with that guy, i don't want to cheat him and let him have hope and i don't wish to cheat my dear also.... i told my dear all his thing, and I feel sorry to my dear because i feel i cheated my dear.... my dear forgive me and said i not cheated him because that time we haven't confirm status.... but, i still feel very sorry to my dear... 
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Don't worry since your dear had told that you didn't cheat him then just think the same way! And besides as what you've said, your relationship wasn't clear yet during that time.. don't feel bad about it anymore since you're dear doesn't think that you cheated him and you've made the right decision of not having communication with that man.. What is more important is the present situation and the thoughts of being honest and sincere to him..
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for sharing! @katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
21 Nov 08
any kind of realtionship outside your "genuine" realtionship is cheating. be it online, texting or whatever .
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Nov 08
I think that online relationship or affair or whatever you call it is another form of cheating if you are already committed with another person. Having friends is one thing but an affair is another thing. I still think one is being unfaithful to his or her partner. © ronaldinu 2008
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@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
[i]Hello kissie34,
Yes, I agree that it is another form of cheating. But if the relationship is serious you can break with your current relationship and pursue you online partner. As long as you have other relationship whether online or not, you are still cheating on both your partner. You will tend to tell lies, just to cover up what you are doing. The best thing to do is just stay on one relationship at a time. Have a great day!
Regards.[/i] 
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
I agree with you.. Everyone should stay in one relationship because having another affair or love is already a form of cheating.. If a person doen't love his/her partner anymore then he/she must end up the relationship so that he/she won't hurt really bad..
Anyway, thanks for the response!
Anyway, thanks for the response!
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
15 Nov 08
I have no idea.
Here many girls find their partners through the net, and now they lead a happy life. But we also can see that there are many people be cheated by the netfriends.
I think no matter what kind of relationship is built on honest, so that it can last for a long time. If someone want to get illegal benefits from net, at first, it can not be belonged to a relationship.
@Crocket (315)
• Canada
13 Nov 08
Of course this is a form of cheating.
Who do you think that you are fooling other than yourself.
Sooner or later you end up meeting the same sort of person out in the public and then the relationship expands into something you never imagined could happen.
If you are a drifter in life then you will always be looking for just the right sort of relationship as you really don't have the perfect relationship at the time.
That's how I feel anyway.
Crockte.
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@venz_punk44 (113)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
yeah i agree to you..having online relationship is a very very big cheating, I've experience relationship through online at same time with other, and it was just a game for me on that time.
