What would you do???

@icyorchid (2564)
United States
November 12, 2008 7:05pm CST
I belong to a Yahoogroup that is for parents of 40 or so give or take a few yrs. This group the only requirement is that you post a recipe every month...ok nothing hard about that. This group is also a swap group. Choc/Coffee, Kitchen Towels. For holidays they do a holiday swap. Every swap goes out on the 15th of the month, but for some reason they changed the date for the fall swap to the 10th of this month. Meaning it had to be out by the 10th of November. Now I got my stuff over the weekend and planned to get it out on the 10th of November, but my toilet decided to BREAK on the evening of the 9th (while I was taking a bath) so that left me waiting for a plumber on the 10th and I couldn't get to the PO in time. I sent an email to the group letting them know I could not send it and NOT one of the owners responded to me! The PO was closed on the 11th so it went out today. I just got an email telling me that because I sent that swap out late, I can't participate in the Secret Santa swap and I already got my box set up to send out for that swap too! I'm a bit aggravated over this situation. I feel like they don't want me in the group also. It just doesn't seem to be the same group as it was when I first joined. What would you do? Would you stay and just not respond to emails and do the swaps you enjoy getting or would you quit the group, send an email telling everyone why you are leaving or what? I don't want to make enemies, but I think that this was WRONG of them to do.
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nadooa247
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Groups are supposed to be for fun, and for getting to know people. Since you always did what they requested and you SENT an email they should at least make an exception. Did you try contacting them and ask them why they did that when you clearly told them you had a situation? Geez, things happen these groups shouldnt be so set in stone. Especially if someone with all politeness gave prior notice. If you like the group stay, but DO post in it that this is what happened and this is what the administrators did... put it like a warning so others wont have the same aggravating thing happen. Don't let uptight you-know-whats ruin your mood lol... they aren't worth it! Just go ahead about your day and ignore their clear rudeness ;) Send your email, post your post and that will be that. Don't give them the pleasure of ruining your holiday mood because honestly, i don't think they care. You'll be in a bad mood, and they won't be losing any sleep! So try not to stress on it so much...
icyorchid
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
13 Nov 08
I'm leaving the group today. They put a 3 month ban on me from participating in any swaps, so I'm not staying. This is after I wrote to 1 of the owners about it. I'm not a 10 yr old child! I wouldn't even treat a child like that! This was a nice group of women and was fun, but now it's more of a chore and I don't like it. I'll find someone else to send what I got. It's not a wasted gift. I've learned my lesson though I can tell you that!
nadooa247
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
14 Nov 08
sorry that's just plain childish on their part... is that how they intend to encourage their group to grow? seriously... you're better off... all this because you couldn't do their set in stone submission... well it's your fault for having a life i guess lol... they are the losers in my view =P
maddysmommy
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Gosh, that is a bit harsh. What happened to just giving you another chance? - these kind of groups are suppose to be fun are they not? Hmm don't think I would want to be part of a group that are so set in their ways and won't allow just a little bit of leaniency (sp?).
icyorchid
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
13 Nov 08
LOL I know! Well, in my opinion if the swap is made, and received before the end of the month, or the holiday it's meant for, then all is fine. I know each group has rules, but these are rediculous rules and the rules change repeatedly on this group. There are several ladies late in sending out any swaps. Theres another lady late in sending out her fall/thanksgiving swap too. Are they treating her the same way as me???????? Not to mention I don't like the insinuation that I'm a lier (got that email this morning). Because I didn't send the DC# Ok I didn't because I got upset last night and didn't think to do it, not to mention it was suppose to be a surprise! I hate liers and I DON'T lie. That would be stupid to lie about sending out a gift! Also they want to start up with paying $2 dues and I think that's against yahoogroups TOS, I need to look into that.
Stephannie
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
13 Nov 08
I'm not a member of any Yahoo groups. I think they are being way too picky. They should have still let you in with them. If I was you, I would quietly leave. I would not want problems either.
icyorchid
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Thanks Steph, I am leaving today! Not quietly though hehehe I will be sending an email in to let the ladies I like know how to keep in touch with me if they want to. They took something that was suppose to be fun and turned it into more of a job! lol That's stupid if you ask me. They said that I'm banned from swaps for 3 months and that is my punishment. Am I 10 yrs old??????? So I sent an email to 1 of the owners and told her that I was done with swaps for good! Their rules are stupid!