Friends with Benefits, will you do welcome that idea or not..why?

I guess it is OK if both people in the relationship understand that this is not a serious relationship, and it does not mean that they are dating or are exclusive and that it can be broken off by either party at either time should one of them meet somebody else. As long as they can do it without developing deaper feelings for each other. But I have known that in these relationships one of the people usually has strong feelings for the other, and they are just going along with the whole friends with benifits thing to be with the one they truly care for. Then they usually end up getting their feelings hurt, because the other person did not feel the same way.

I wouldn't welcome it. It wouldn't do much for my self-esteem, knowing that someone only wanted me for that purpose and nothing more. Besides, I value myself too much to allow myself to be used that way. I also value and respect other people not to do that to them. I'm not against people who do it, though. There are a lot of reasons behind their actions, and if it justifies having friends with benefits, then by all means...

hey there cecel..happy day to ya.I am 35 and i have a friend i have had for as long as i can remember,he has been my best friend and my friend with benefits.and whats odd is that it doesnt even feel straneg to us..it just comes natural..we arent in love with each other..but we do love each other..if that makes any sense to you..we are always there for each other..whatever the circumstances..maybe soem years down teh road..we will test if there is anything there.but for now..we enjoy each others caompany and everything in between..and i see nothing wrong with it.no one is getting hurt..and our friendship has just gotten stronger..

I had one many years ago. I am now married and he went to the Marines. It wasn't a bad set up at all.

Is friends with benifits is acceptable in our society..well Cecelgay, I didn't hear laws stating the friends with benifits is forbidden..But look at the act..what if you will develop something good feelings to the one you share thinking that you are married..it's very difficult thing..even if you are single..what if you fall inlove to a married man or to a friend in return who do not feel the same way as you feel..you will just get hurt.

I would not splash into it. Though I prefer a friend to become my lifetime partner, I will not buy the idea of just playing the field, I want a serious and genuine relationship as much as possible. friends with benefits as what you call it, is very damaging and disconcerting.

Maybe. But I'd probably fall in love with the person...

friendship with benefits is good. With the way things life are going, I think people in this kind of realtionship wouldnt the commitment. Especially those people that are career-driven and dont have time for serious relationship. I guess this is only alright for single people. for married people, I dont think it will be good for both of the couple. Not only it will hurt the children (if they have), but they will be hurting themselves as well.

This is exactly why STI's have spread. And this is also the reason for a lot of babies with parents. Just think what if you were made that way? From two people who were just friends with benefits. I know if i was it would be hard. That activity should only exist for couples wanting to have babies. But that is only my opinion.

I'm presently in that situation right now and I have no problem with it and neither does she. People are too busy nowadays to have to deal with relationships. People such as myself would much rather devote their time to advancing their careers in order to make for an early retirement. All said, friends with benefits are nice to have.

It depends on alot of things like age older people say that is what they want. Older people say they have lived their lives, and they dont want a relationship so they might be willing to the cut friend thing. i think there are alot of people who can not do it because they get to emotional about the other person. But there are people that can do it and they dont mind cause that is all they want. sometimes i do think about it cause relationship are hard you might want a quick fix with out the strings. I dont know maby in a few years i will welcome it

I have tried and enjoyed this thing several time way back my college days. As agreed there is no string attached between me and all of the girls i made out with. Its kind of fun, and i mean so much fun having s*x without worrying about obligations with your s*xmate. But you must choose a right partner or otherwise you'll end up seeking for a doctor to write you prescriptions. Yeah... thats was yesterday. A product of my immaturity! Glad i graduated from this.

The only real reason people do it is so they can sleep with each other and not feel trashy. If you sleep with someone random your trashy, but all of a sudden theres this new trend of "friends with benefits" so it seems like a relationship when really all it is is a one night stand on repeat.

There is no real problem with it if the people both know that it is not about love. It is up to you whether you do it. I never have but I am married.

Before my husband and I got together I had a really good friends with benefits. He was the person I went to for everything. He eventually started dating this girl and it got serious pretty quick. She knew our history and pretty much told him it was our friendship or their relationship. He chose their relationship. Ended up getting married and having a baby. A year later they divorced. He found she had been cheating on him the entire time. Luckily the baby girl is his. Its just kind of ironic how things work out. I guess if you CAN make a relationship like that work and not let feelings get in the way I say why not. It worked for us for about 3 years, we both dated other people, and we still were close friends. Since his divorce he has apologized for the way he treated me back then and we have become friends again. Just not friends with benefits because I am married now.