She is pregnant but her boyfriend declared not responsible to it!

I have gone through this and the only thing she can do is make him get a dna test done when the baby is born. I dated my daughters father for 3 month and when I found out I was pregnant he denied she was his. I took himto court for child support and he requested dna testing and it proved he was the father and now I have full custody since he has never seen my girl in person and she s 2 and a half yrs old.

why don't u sue him to court which will force him for reqd tests............... hence u can take the possible steps

I dont know about your country, but in the USA there is services she could get as well as child support. Her boy friend doesnt deserve her or the child. Pray that she has the strength to have and take care of the baby. I had a child also that the dad did that to me. I prayed and prayed. The baby girl came out looking just exactly like her father. So upon seeing her after the birth it was very hard for him to deny. Eventually we separated and i moved from that state. He recently came to visit our daughter where we are now. She is 26 now and has children. So he also got to met his grandchildren. Pray for your friend and the baby she is carrying. They will make a way even if dad is in denial. He is not worth it.

The unfotunate lady only can go to the court and sue against that traitor boyfried. Doctors will prove that her boyfriend is responsible for herpregnancy.This type of man should not be spared.

Hello islandrose,If the father is denying his involvement in the pregnancy, and has someone else, I wonder 'why would she want him?'...Why would she subject herself to such humiliation?...The mind boggles as to why the relationship had caused the loss of employment...Reguardless of the relationship going sour, your friend needs to think about herself and what she is prepared to do about the pregnancy...She will not be able to persuade this man to see her way, especially if he is in another relationship...She needs to think about her future and accept the fact that this man is nothing but a lost cause!...Tell her to stop relying on her friend to help her with the Dad...Thats not fair on the people/friends because respectfully...There is no one else to blame...Two people made this baby...Unfortunately one, is too immature to accept responsibility, so it is her job to sort it out...My sister is today going through something similar...This happened 7yrs ago and the outcome was, she moved to Australia to start a new life with my nephew...There she met and is now married to a good man who adores Nico ( my nephew )...He is such a good man, that now he wants to legally adopt my nephew...The actions of our choices, when younger, soon come back to bite us in the butt...My sister is having a hard time with the law and its protocol...My brother in law has to await permission from the Nico's father, as my sister named Nico's Dad on his birth certificate... Nico knows no other Dad...Just the man who married his Mama...But he will be legally adopted, cos' he deserves the good Dad he knows and loves...Tell your friend to move on!...Decide if she is going to have the baby, then prepare for it...Bringing children up on your own is hard, but can be done...It's scary, but she will overcome the hurdles that are ahead...Everything that happens, happens for a reason...Help her believe, that what is happening to her now...Is best for her cos' the man in question, is nothing but a big headache and hes the other womans HEADACHE now!...Good luck to your friend...My thoughts are with her!

Hi there islandrose! I happen to know a case like that. You know, teenage pregnancy, unwanted pregnancy is quite rampant in our place. A lot of girls become pregnant without the boyfriend supporting them. This is a very alarming situation. Sometimes the parents don't have knowledge about the pregnancy for they would opt to keep it a secret. Some would even resort to abortion! And that's another story. Now, how old is your friend? Does she happen to live with her parents still? If so, you better tell them about the problem. However, for the boyfriend, I can't see him going back to the girl to take responsibilities. You might as well expect nothing from him. I'm afraid no laws are set to convict guys who get their girlfriends pregnant and leave them.

First off and most importantly, someone needs to sit down with mother to be and get honest. Is she absolutely positive he is the father or is he the one she wants to be the dad? There are ways to find out without being regarded as promiscuous.If you are to help her she must be straight with you. I had a friend in the same boat. SHe lied about the man being the dad. We all looked like idiots. I dont want anyone to go thru that. If you are to help she has to be truthful. If the man is the father all she has to do is contact child support enforcement at the court house. If your city doesnt have this, they can direct her to what she needs. Its not as bad as on television. It will work out okay. As long as she is honest. SHI_ happens. She needs to look at the miracle that was created by her and her partner. Hope this helps. dl

If the guy won't accept it, then if I were your friend, I will not force myself on him. It only shows how irresponsible he is. I'd rather raise the baby all by myself than depending on him. May be time would come that he will be regretful on denying his own baby. We can't tell how KARMA works.

where there is a will there is a way. she doesn't need that sorry piece of crap in her lihe anyway but i would make him help pay for this baby. that's awful for a man to act like that. you play, you pay.

Can you get DNA done where you live? and will the courts uphold the findings? Here we can do that, It works both ways, he either is or isn't the Father, if he is he can be charge for child support.

I'm not sure about what country rules and regulations you are under. But if the young lady is in the USA, she could seek child support in the court of law. They would probably ensure a DNA test was done to ensure the baby belongs to the person that the young lady claims it is. After that then as long as the young man is working, then he would be required to pay a certain amount of money per month in child support. If he didn't have a job, I think he would be given an opportunity to obtain employment before he would have to pay or else they would put in jail.

oh,i'm sorry to hear that.i think the best way is by law.and i think her boyfriend is so heartless,and not love her sincerely.just want to dump her.so we have no need to think more about it.just by law to charge him.i believe he will be punished.wish her happy .

That situation should be pretty easy to solve. When the baby is born she just needs to go get a DNA paternity test to prove that he is the father. Once that is established she can go after him through the courts for child support and there will be nothing that he can do about it unless he is actually not the father.

so if wanna making luv with ur partner, make sure u r wearing a protection stuff lol..haha

Can't really do much... she will have to get a DNA test done & then she can go after him for support. That's about all I know she can do... I been there & done that... I also realized it's not worth wasting your time on men who don't want nothing to do with their child... move on... that's my advice & if you need financial help, seek DNA testing.

Your friend that is pregnant sounds like she will become a single mother. It is a shame that her ex-boyfriend and the father of her yet be born child says he isn't responsible. In my home country a lady could demand a paternity test after the baby is born and then the father must pay child maintenance. Your friend could write to her ex-boyfriend with photos of their baby. He might warm to the idea of becoming a dad. If he still isn't responsible she should let him see their child. He might feel some fatherly love then. Once born your friend could visit a solicitor or advice bureau. Her ex-boyfriend might show interest if he had to pay child maintenance. Good luck to your pregnant friend.

What a jerk this guy is. He really gonna get away easy. This happens everywhere,boy meet girl, fell in love , girl got pregnant,boy disappear. The father should be responsible and he is not taking any action on this I'd agree with the dna test and go to the court. But is that is to much commotion its better to let the jerk go as he will not gonna responsible and don't waste her tome hoping for that. If the family knew this and accepted I think its okay considering theres still a shoulder to cry on. If this to didn't workout, stays with her friends till the baby's born. I once had this similar experience one of my friend got abandoned by the boyfriends and family, so what we do is the girl stays in one my friend while we gave her support and such so that she wouldn't do something stupid until she had her baby born. Now she is a fine single mother with a good 4 year old son.

i havent been through it but have known people that have.firstly if there is a chance it could be another man baby she needs to see who the dad is when the baby is born.i think if its the mans that you are talking about she is going to have to face life as a single mum(which isnt any problem i did it for 5 years).who ever that dad is she needs to get them to support her baby in what ever way she sees fit(thats the difficult part getting the money from them i waited 9 years).all i can say is shes going to need all the family and friends round her that she can from now on

You should help your friend to find that father out and to responsible the baby no matter what. Couldn't get abortion okay! Baby is innocent party. As mentioned, maybe go for DNA Test too. So that he cant deny it. Carry a baby is very hard so you should stay with your friend this period.

Too bad. Similar situation has happen to people around me but was has happen has happen. She just has to forge ahead with her life and plan for her baby because some greatness can be born out from her womb who knows. I will not encourage her to force her ex into accepting responsibilities because it will equate to nothing as no pure love will be born out from what he will do concerning the issues. "As long there is life, life is hope"