how will you move on?
By goldybear
@goldybear (34)
Philippines
November 13, 2008 2:03am CST
it's very easy to say "move on!" when you're asked to advise a friend you just came from a failed relationship. But, when you're faced with your own scenario, is moving on that easy by then? I have a share of difficult moments, of bruised feelings. I tried to move on, to keep myself busy, to stop minding about how the days passed just to forget and to move on.. It even came to the point of not entertaining a feeling that would likely lead me to the same failed feeling.. It's quite unhealthy. But, for me, it's a way of coping up. Nevertheless, it can't be avoided that when unexpectedly, in a day, you'll be put on the spot when everything falls back again.. I hate that feeling.. How about you? How do you manage to move on? I know, moving on will not happen overnight.. But, how long? I hope the trying will not last forever..
4 responses
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Just do not linger with the sadness nor do not let sadness eat you up until it leads to depression. Intuitively, you will learn when to stop being SAD. And when you chose to end sadness, that's when you know you have to take care of yourself back.
You will eventually move on, just believe that in the next few days, you will look back and probably could face the past and would thank everything that you have become the person that will be after the turmoil.
It's not easy I have to say. When you feel your heart is breaking by just looking back on what happened, just cry your heart out. 
Hugs.
Hugs.
@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
I never tell anyone to "move on" because I know it's not easy. I'd rather tell them that the pain is normal and it is normal to have difficulties trying to move on from a failed relationship.
As for myself, I am currently in that situation myself. I don't force myself to move on quickly; I just go with the flow. Right now I'm busying myself with my plans, and they seem to be moving smoothly for now. Someday I hope I'll forget the pain of what has happened to me and finally move on.
@goldybear (34)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
crying over spilled milk =( i hope, someday, crying will be for good memeories..;
@celestos (814)
• United States
13 Nov 08
I am sorry to hear that you are in this situation. I don't think it is ever easy to move on when real emotions are involved and it does take time. I had a failed relationship a few years back and thankfully the person and myself remained at least friends.If that is a possibility I think it can be a good thing for some because you can still enjoy the person on a friendship level if possible which kind of mends the hurt a little. There is no easy way to get over a failed relationship but in time everyone can heal hopefully. Best of luck to you.
@goldybear (34)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
it will certainly heal through time.. hopefully =) thank u celestos
