Do you believe in the seven year old marriage itch phenomenon. Kindly share.
By swatilohani
@swatilohani (745)
India
November 13, 2008 3:52am CST
Most young couples are increasingly reporting to their marriages succumbing after crossing the famous five year hurdle somehow. However, by the seventh yera, the accomodation power is much lesser, slanging matches much greater. Kindly enlighten the fellow lotters by your valuable contributions.
2 responses
@swatilohani (745)
• India
14 Nov 08
I think it is really true that true and real love makes you accept a person as he or she is without tring to change the person. It is a fact that some marriages need to be worked upon mutually as some issues may arise.
For example, the emotional bonding may be suffering with one partner being felt let down by the other. The long distance jobs of either partner may slowly lead to a feeling of neglect. In some couples, the husbands may feel neglected after the arrival of the children,what do you feel.
@slash23 (102)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Hey, my husband and I have been together for 11 years now (7years married). It's just a matter of keeping the passion/love alive. ;) We treat each other as if we're still boyfriend/girlfriend. We still go out on dates, tell each other jokes, talk about the kids, etc.
One factor that helps, i guess, is that we treat each other as friends. ;) And you know how friends are, they always communicate. We're never tired of saying the same old stories over and over again. :D Much like the same way when you meet your old friend from high school. Friends are honest to each other too. I try to be open about my feelings to my husband and vice versa. This way, we're not holding grudges or any ill feelings towards each other. These suppressed feelings could be dangerous you know, might be a reason for you to be tempted to have an affair. Better be honest now so you can resolve issues head on before they get worse.
Luckily, for us... no itching! ;) I pray to God that we stay this way until the end. :)
@swatilohani (745)
• India
13 Nov 08
It is so refreshing to find couples like you, who are not only incessantly working on their marriage but also being the best buddies in the world is what is their top priorty to make their relationship fresh as a flower. I think that you have raised a very right point, which other couples must really emulate, that it is not at all wise to hold grudges against one another. The situation becomes just like a simmering dormant volcano, which is sure to erupt as a slanging match one day or the other.
