How do you feel when you meet your fist lover in the street?
@garfield_zhou (530)
China
November 13, 2008 9:54am CST
I havn't contacted with my fist lover for several years. And I am a going-married man. Yet sometims I still think of her. I even got shocked when I mistaken someone for her in the street. Is it normal for a going-married man? And how do you feel at the similar situation?
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@licisheng508 (221)
• China
17 Nov 08
A task question.i don't know my felling if i meet her now,she is a perfect girl,for some reason ,we broke up one year ago,from then we din't met each other anymore.but we communicate on the internet constantly.one of my friend tell me that she make a boyfriend now,anyway,my best wishes to her.
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@iamcdy (1119)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
It has been more that 7 years since I broke up with my first love and it has been 2 years since I last saw him. I think the first thing that I will do is say "hi" or "hello" or "how are you". I must be ready for that day, . I am actually super over it and I have moved on. We have our own lives and relationships already and I think there's no need for me to turn back when I see him in the street. I your case, I guess it is normal. It happened to me as well. At the moment that I saw a guy whom I thought was him, I felt really nervous but after knowing it wasn't my ex, I was relieved.
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@sheenarobins (547)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Hi garfield!
I guess, it would depend on how you guys broke up. But for me, my first love is still a very special man. I know that he was once a part of my life, very important that is. I know that I loved him but I am no longer "in love" with him. If I met him on the street, then I'll talk to him, I would be glad to see him. If he is with someone I'm comfortable with it. No worries.
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@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
We don't always forget our firsts: first kiss, first love, first hurt. Maybe there's part of our brain that stores first memories. So maybe that's the reason you still think about her. But it's normal, you know, for someone who has been a special part of our lives to cross our minds once in a while. But it doesn't always mean that we still love them.
I bumped into my first love once in the church. And I felt a little excited about the meeting. We talked awhile over coffee and still felt the same level of comfort we had for each other. But the romantic feeling was no longer there.
So if you are about to be married and if you truly love your bride to be, then maybe it will do you good to focus on her and not on your ex.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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13 Nov 08
They say that you never forget your first love. I think we all have a special little place in our heart for the first person we fell in love with - I know that I do. I have even met her since (about 10 years on) and we got along fine: time changes us all and it was nice to see how she had grown, found a good man, was getting married and expecting a baby. Good for her!
The important thing is to know that you are going to get married to the person you WILL love for the rest of your life. Past feelings are unimportant - they will always be there, but the person you're marrying must be the person you want to wake up next to every morning. :)
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