When someone's opinion or viewpoint here offends you....

Hehe.. I like the theory behind agreeing to disagree and I wish it could be taught with a test at the end of the course and people who consistently fail the test are not allowed to infiltrate society LMAO! We would have an entirely peaceful nation and maybe even WORLD if people could do this effectively!! BTW, this is probably why we get along so well, even though we have different beliefs and live on opposite coasts

i think you are right. we don't always agree on a topic but we don't take each other's view point personally. and that's what it's really all about anyway. because we don't agree doesn't mean either of us are bad people but people with a difference in the way we see and experince things

I'm still really glad you invited me here to mylot, even if I dropped off the face of Yuwie. This place is excellent, I really appreciate it even if I haven't said so in awhile!

Ah. This is EXACTLY why I think I was called a name. I disagreed with a viewpoint, and I was the first disagree-er in the thread. I also explained that letting sleeping dogs lie - more or less saying you go your way, I go mine - is indeed a win-win situation with the topic we were discussing. This person decided no, I was WRONG, and everybody should base laws on their views, even people who disagree with their views. LOL! Does that make ME hateful?

Not at all. I think they are just narrow minded.

Yep if they don't want opinions why do they ask? And if they disagree, why can't they say "thanks but I disagree" or some such thing...

I just find it funny when someone specifically ASKS 'what would you do' in x situation or 'how do you feel' about x situation so then you tell them what you would do and how you feel and then they go and call you a name because your stance is opposite theirs. I do tell people only what *I* would do, I don't indicate that they should do the same! If you don't want me to answer your question, why did you ask it? Sometimes I think people aren't realizing that ANYBODY can find and answer a post, it's not like you're directing it only to a group of people who subscribe to your point of view, that's the beauty of mylot. Also, clearly if you are not open to ALL situations and only open to one, that would make you closed minded, right? In any case, I always feel it is better to be more liberal and tolerant rather than less liberal and tolerant.

I'm pretty happy with my own views and my own life, I don't really feel that I need any change. I do like to hear other views just because they are interesting, especially the motivations behind some of them. I just don't like how some folks 'move in for the kill' when they think they've convinced me of something. Wanting to hear about something does not necessarily mean anything else.

This is true, my friend I may be interested enough to learn more about something but it does not mean I am changing my mind

I didn't even see anything offensive about my post to get the person all up in arms. *I* was accused of being closed minded but I wasnt the one saying I wanted to remove rights from anybody or that there is only ONE way to believe lol.

IT is against mylot guidelines to put links in your posts and I know very few people who like accepting a friendship request, only to be bombarded with links to "business opportunities."

I think it is fine to promote something in a personal fashion after someone has indicated an interest. I think it is against guidelines to just post promotion links unless somebody has asked for information. There ARE interest groups that are related to making money and I do see links sometimes in those discussions but I would allow people to come to me after stating that I had information, I wouldn't just post something. I think there are excellent opportunities around, but let people ask you, then you know they are really interested first. Either way, it isn't nice for people to call names or to stalk others just because there are differences of opinion, so if you are getting attacked and you're not doing anything wrong, do report it.

I don't really enjoy conflict either but if someone attacks me in a post after I answered a question they asked, it kind of seems low to let them get away with that behavior.

I think it's impossibly ignorant to believe that any opinion is solely the right one, and each person needs to realize that 'right' for each person is their own decision. I have said before and will continue to say that 'right' for me may clearly be 'wrong' for someone else, but I think both can exist harmoniously. For instance, someone may not CARE if their 10 year old daughter is wearing makeup, but I do. Someone else may put their five year old on a school bus.... again, I won't. I'm not interfering with their right to allow their daughter to wear makeup or get on a school bus, they can still do it with full blessing from me. That doesn't mean I'm going to do the same thing because I don't want to. The problem only crops up when someone on the other side somehow tries to force ME to do the same because it's right for them. I think I am very tolerant of what someone else wants to do but I'm not going to let them force me into doing it too. Again, I will NEVER interfere with THEIR right to do those things!! I would never infringe on their rights to do as they wish. However, they'd better not infringe on MY rights to NOT do what they do.

I usually ignore troll type posts too. Some people I think don't seem to be able to be respectful in their own threads when someone gives the input they ASKED for. If they only want responses that agree with them, they should be more clear when posting in the first place lol.

Hehehe. Well I can understand 'going off' on somebody if they've already opened the floodgates of hell, but I don't understand it if you haven't done anything but disagree. Disagreeing doesn't necessarily include anything negative, but the way some people harangue others here, you'd think that was a joke and both were listed with the same definition.

Even when I try to defend myself, some people are so closed minded that they can't believe another view EXISTS and I surely must be convinced my view is so heinous that either I have to change my view or I should get off the planet lol. I realize that sounds a little dramatic but if you saw some of these discussions it would make sense. I see you're fairly new to mylot, enjoying?

There was actually a direct reason I posted this, and it has to do with someone who asked a question and then had a problem with my viewpoint that people should be tolerant rather than make a bunch of rules for people to follow. Apparently it is much better (in their opinion) to be intolerant and petty and force people to follow rules only THEY believe in, and I deserve to be called a name because of it. Perhaps it's because at the time I posted, I was the only person who responded who wasn't applauding their viewpoint. I am fairly sure I have posted with this individual before in other areas of interest without this side of them coming out.

Sometimes I will give my view in a discussion where my opinion may NOT be what the majority of the posters there want to hear. The thing is, this site is open and anybody can answer any post they like. This doesn't mean that common decency and respect should go out the door though, and it doesn't mean that it's okay to bully and mob the person who has a different view. They don't even have to like the view, but it would be nice to just have it accepted as just as valid as theirs, since it is to ME. I don't tell them their view is invalid - it is completely valid to them and I understand that. It's valid to me as a view as well, it just doesn't APPLY to my life in most cases.

This site as far as countless others has proven that it takes a bigger person to accept a differing opinion without having a breakdown. I think that many people bring too many issues to the table when they post an opinion, and any perceived 'dislike' or 'disagreement' from another member gets their hackles up, sometimes enough to make insults fly. This is not mature nor decent, but as is well known, everybody has issues, everybody has baggage. What people need to do is not allow that to control them or their actions towards others, as much as they'd like to. I don't enjoy when someone else's opinion is blunt and rude and calls other people names, but they ARE entitled to the opinion, I just wish they could express it without being so rude.

No IMO it does not make you a bigot but the type of American our country needs.

I think I know what thread that was, that went downhill fast. There are some folks who think anybody who didn't vote for Obama is racist, so I'm not sure what I can say about the whole thing. I got called a bigot for wanting equality and for prop 8 to fail. LOL! Wanting rights for everybody regardless of what group they belong to makes me a bigot?

Thank you. I am always surprised when I get called a name, especially when I have seen the person who did so act decently in other discussions. Sometimes I think there are people here who may be bipolar and don't know it - nothing bad meant, just that they seem stable and all of a sudden go nuts in response to a completely innocent posting.

I pretty much stand my ground too, and I really don't like to see arguments from people who think everybody else needs to bow down to their view. I ask people to tolerate, not condone which more or less means they just have to let something be, they don't have to be 'part' of it.

Exactly. I believe that too. Where I draw the line though is someone trying to force their viewpoint on me. We are free to have different views and opinions, what is not right is for another person to say since theirs is 'right', they should get to make or enlist help to make a law that violates MY right, because mine is opposite of theirs and theirs is right so mine is 'wrong'. Ha ha ha... that really gets under my skin because I'm tired of pushy groups of people who do things like this. I embrace their right to choose what THEY want, but not to make anybody else choose or act the same.

There are definitely some people here at mylot who think their opinion is better than anybody else's and therefore THEY should get to decide how the standards everybody else has to live by are set. Most of these people think that those who disagree with them are wrong and that the only way they could possibly be 'right' is to change their opinion so it matches. The only person mine is better to is ME, and I constantly say that! I don't tell people mine is right, only right for me. Nobody else can tell me my decisions are not right for me, shame on them lol. When they've lived MY life for 34 years, then they can talk

ryanbeasy123 This shall be my final comment/response having any connection to your friend Kyeedah1. Perhaps I should say number one friend as she is the first of your profile list of friends. I would like to say that I have never ever made an insulting racial slur to anyone neither here nor in my everyday life. I think my friends came to my defense because they were surprised at the vicious attack I was subject to. However you seem to disapprove of that action yet you are doing exactly the same thing. In your short time here on myLot you have responded to 6 discussions and 4 of them being from Kyeedah1. I will say that you, while defending her, seem to have a better grasp of the English language and communication skills than your friend. Although is still seems me to be a case of "the pot calling the kettle black" please to not take this to be a racial slur as it would not sound right if I had said green, purple or some other color! I shall end this fiasco by letting you know I shall be praying that my Lord God will remove the hatred and bigotry, she obviously feels for her fellow man, from her soul.

There are some guidelines here at mylot that people are supposed to follow. Of course 'being respectful' does not always mean the same degree to everybody which is unfortunate. To ME, being respectful to other members here includes being clear and concise when you are discussing, not namecalling, not telling someone else they are WRONG, just that you may disagree with them, not harrassing or threatening or stalking people, etc. I guess the problem is that some people cannot read the 'tone' of posts, and some people are not good at getting sarcasm across via type. I have seen some horrific arguments erupt here in response to a post which was as sarcastic as a frozen turtle - but it was totally lost on the people who got angry. Anyway, the golden rule should apply here. If you do not want to be called racist, inflexible, prejudiced, discriminating, a bigot, among other things, then it is best not to call other people those things or TREAT others that way. Nobody is saying that someone has to CHANGE their view if they disagree, at least someone who is accepting of others here. I am just saying that if you don't agree, by all means don't, but that doesn't give you the right to stomp all over me. The way I see it, I do not naturally go about provoking people, but if someone provokes me, ON PURPOSE? I'm not just going to sit there and take it. I want someone to realize they made a bad decision in doing that. Bottom line, if (in your example) avatar 1 says something and avatar 2 does not agree, it doesn't mean it's ok for avatar 2 to go shooting off their mouth at avatar 1. Now if avatar 1 is the one to put up a nasty comment FIRST, then I agree, avatar 1 is out of line and avatar 2 could be responsible and civil and ignore it, responsible and civil and report it, or irresponsible and uncivil and rip avatar 1 a new one, followed by x number of other commentors who enter the fray in support of each.

Now mommyb I feel you on your comments but like you said to already, if you want to go there then people shall go there with you and the side line avatars get stuck in a middle of a name calling war! Of course this makes no sense and could be resolved better but if the next man or this case woman don't step back then this is what happens! Like I seem to always say, this is straight crazy and reporting people back in forth is so childish! So the wake is coming my way and I definitely can defend myself, no problem! Hence that's why I have the easy button as my avatar for you to see! I make everything easy and rebuttal should be my middle name because please ladies if I have to I can go there!