If you don't have the same views as me don't post here....

Some people don't want to hear your opinion, they only want to push theirs.

The nasty & hurtful comments i've seen on occasion are the reasons i stay away from discussions that are just asking for conflict. I think that if all someone has to say is something mean and hurtful they should keep it to themselves. People are welcome to differing opinions...its what makes us unique if we all thought alike the world would be a pretty boring world.

While I do have certain "set" views on some things and would never change my mind, I do respect the fact that other people might have a different opinion. If I were to argue with an opinion then I would do my best to back it up but would not call someone names just for disagreeing. I don't think this has happened to me too often. I also tend to steer clear of religious debate for similar reasons. It is one area where people tend to be more opinionated than others. Of course people have their beliefs, religious or otherwise but I don't see why people come here defending their opinion without a thought for other people's. If someone states opinion as if it is fact (as is often the case in religious discussion) then I might be inclined to point this out and if people's opinions are based on factually incorrect information then I would feel it ok to tell them so. However, if a person's opinion is different from mine, it does not automatically make them wrong. I have had discussions with people whose opinions differ from mine and any reasonable person should be able to do that. Unfortunately there are some people who are incapable of such a task and will just argue and insult either because they can not justify their opinion or because they realise they are factually wrong but would rather be rude than admit it.

It does happen all the time here and it's annoying. It never used to be like this, but as time went on, more and more stupid people started showing up and now we have all the 'superior' people posting the same discussions, from biased sources and they NEVER can come up with a better argument. I just laugh. Sometimes I post, sometimes I don't but I have no problems admitting I make fun of how stupid those people really are.

Only one word.....Amen!

It is always funny to me that here, like other social networking sites, people really do want only to hear that they are correct in their opinions. That is not a discussion at all, that is just a bunch of "yes men" and not any fun. People should disagree, that is a discussion

You had me stumped for a moment! I seriously thought you were advocating yourself in such an inane way… Yes, I have seen many people being openly critical of my views in a rather mean way just coz I was not seeing the world in similar colours. There are even some who would say that don’t respond if you don’t know what I’m talking about (meaning the same again)…initially I used to go ahead and respond and swallow the insults. My thought was that this is an international forum and we are here to discuss and debate so if you (not ‘you’ personally) post something which most are not aware of, then don’t post it here, that’s all. And also, in many cases the situation may not be the same, but the consequences are similar in every corner of this global village. So nobody can refrain me from answering a discussion if I am not exactly at that same spot. However I do avoid discussion on children with special needs coz this is a very sensitive issue and I don’t have any experience on this so I would not really like to hurt a mother with my insensible comment. Religion remains one of my favourites and believe me, if you just go ahead and stick out for yourself, you’ll get to learn a lot about various religions I dislike politics, anyway

It does often amaze me that some people simply do not like it if there is a response to their discussion and the respondent does not agree with them. In fact in some instances it seems they not only want agreement but total capitulation, if there is a shadow of doubt initially. We are adults here, even if some of the members are teenagers, so we should be able to have sensible discussions where people can out their point of view. With regard to the teenagers, they too can have an opinion and should be able to voice it in the same way as anyone else can. For quite a while I did not post anything at all and even though I did not come here often because of other (work) committments, there were a couple of times when I logged on only to find some not so nice discussions and responses .... about the level of primary school students with their petty arguements. "You are not nice" "I don;'t like you" kind of attitude but the words were not so polite. Thanks for a funny and amusing discussion. Unfortunately I suspec "the children" will not read it or if they do, they will think it does not apply to them.

Oh I agree with you. I go into those discussions anyway and knowing how out of control they can get. I'll just back off if they start to get too mean. They can be really interesting and passionate discussions if everyone remains respectful and quite often they do. I used to get real worked up on those discussions. Now if someone gets really rude, I just leave...if they get abusive, I report. I don't mind if they get defensive or argue their case as I'll argue mine right back and on occassion I've even been convinced to change my stance on certain issues or at least find an understanding of the other side. For that reason...I won't stay clear of those topics. How are we going to learn and make peace with the opposition if we can't even talk?

wow - thanx! i sure get tired of starters and responders just repeating that they think someone else's opinion or belief is WRONG i truly think that having any kind of discussion where all the views are similar would be quite boring. for that i guess i could just open an encyclopedia... i have found myself so engrossed in some discussions that when i finally get to the last post, i completely forget to respond myself - and then i will have spent about half an hour eavesdropping - haha

I was just reading a discussion either last night or this morning that your discussion reminded me of. There was one person that the person having the discussion didn't want there on 'their dicussion'. And, like the person talking, I thought, now this is a public place. I have yet to see anything that says we aren't to post to all the discussions if we want to. I don't think it's right to harrass someone, but it's also not right for someone to forbid another mylotter to post to their discussion. You said, are we not all adults here? I think we are supposed to be, aren't we? I guess anyone can lie about their age. I know they do on MySpace and Facebook, so why not here, too? Anyway, I know we should all act like adults, not that everyone does! And I agree with you - if you don't want a particular person to try and add to a discussion, just don't start the discussion! I'm on another forum where this one person is always playing the 'devil's advocate'. I think she uses that to tell us exactly what she thinks! But we aren't supposed to get offended or upset. But,I'm the honest one and say what I think. And, guess what? SHE gets offended easily and has told me off several times! Recently, we were discussing something and a few of us said some things she didn't agree with, so instead of being an adult, she said some mean things,and then un-subbed! And this woman is an educator!

i agree with you fully. A discussion is not a discussion of we all agree to what is beign discussed. There have to be a cross section of views only then can we learn something. if we all agree to the same thing then what is the point of the discussion. There will be varying opinions and that will only help in reaching an understanding. However, somethings are better not discussed as people have very strong opinions and get hyper if people disagree with them - Religion and politics. These two raise a person's hackles and people get hyper. It is better to leave these out.

I agree... some people assert that they have the right to post their opinions but then complain when people post contradicting opinions... Sheesh... :s

*claps* Bravo!

Hi erilyn, I do agree with your statement that people should be able to express what they feel and act like adults. We should all be able to express our difference of opinions and still act in a civilized manner and be respectful of each others opinions. We don't always have to agree on every single point or comment. That is what makes us individuals. We as people aren't meant to always agree on everything but we are expected to behave in a manner that is fitting and should not take it as a personal attack and therefore act accordingly. Unfortunately I have seen many of these discussions backfire and get completely out of hand. Name calling is for children and we are adults and should behave as such.

This isn't the only forum that happens on. I find it rather amusing. We might all have adult bodies here but we don't all have adult minds.

why you welcome one sound only.... sound is beautiful cuz it's multiple, inclu noises... have a nice day