What is the best approach
By jmp_72
@jmp_72 (246)
Seychelles
November 13, 2008 1:46pm CST
I found that recently that my 17 year old niece has started dating. She is going out with a 22 year old guy and her parents doesn't know that she has a boyfriend. I want to talk to her to find out how far they are in the relationship, to educate her about risks and protection she must take if she decides to start being intimate with the guy. I know she is a good girl and would probably want to wait longer, but the guy is way older and his needs are not the same as a 17 year old. i don't know how to approach her to have that conversation. I also want to convince her that she should let her parents know she has a boyfriend. Any expert here who can advice? Thanks in advance
1 response
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I am by no means an expert, but I think your niece's parents should be aware of what is going on. Even though you feel that you should have a talk with her I think her mother and father should be the ones to speak to their daughter about this young man. Honestly, I think 17 is too young to think about being intimate, but I do not know what the age of consent is where you live.
How did you find out about the dating?
Well, I think you should let your niece know that you are aware of her dating, and that she should let her parents know.
I think you should step back, because when the parents find out, they may feel bad that you talked to their daughter about something that should be discussed with her parents.
Best of luck to you
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@jmp_72 (246)
• Seychelles
14 Nov 08
I found out by seeing them together recently and i asked if the guy is her b/f and she said yes. You are completely right, it will be bad on me if the parents found out i knew such thing and kept it from them. I will encourage her to talk to her parents, provide her with support if she need but she should be the one to do it. Thank you very much Sadulants
