There is no excuse to leave a baby in a van

Suspense, this topic was recently fully thrashed out in MyLot. I STRONGLY URGE you to go see the posts I made there--look them up on my site. I do not condemn people who've done this, for good reason. I think you'll understand why if you read my letters. Maggiepie

I see no reason for it either but has happened here alot too. Even a father forgot his wasnt what he normally did and for got the day care place just went to work and went on in. Not sure if I go along with that one either!

Well sadly I have to disagree with you as I left my son in the car once. It was not hot out and he was only forgottebn for about three minutes. It was my first born and well hed stayed with grandma for about a week and when we went to get our pictures from walgreens grandma thru him in the car last minute and well we just forgot she put him in the car. I felt so bad and still do. Ever since that i put my purse in the back so i have to go back there and well ive never done that since. Everyone makes mistakes not that im saying its ok just saying it can happen but there are ways to prevent it like put your purse in back with the baby or your cell phone or anything you never forget.

From what I have read most of them say that they were so busy that they forgot about the baby. Even when people are busy, most of them don't forget to eat, now do they? I say if your life is that hectic, then don't have a baby. I would like to say that if you cannot afford to make a life with a baby on one paycheck, don't do it..because your life will be so hectic with two jobs, a baby and everything else you have to do...but some can handle all that so I can't say that. I know one woman who has a job and her husband has one. They have two jobs. Sure, I guess they can handle it but she does everything so fast without thinking that she does not really enjoy life or appreciate people.

This seems to happen a lot here in Georgia. People "forget" their kids and it gets so hot here that it doesn't take long for that poor babies body to overheat. There was one instance seeral years ago where a lady in Atlanta kept her 3 year old in the car while she was at work because she didn't have anyone to watch her. She would go out and check on her periodically and make sure she was ok, but she thought that was a perfectly acceptable solution because she was in a parking deck. Luckily someone saw the child and called the police before any injury was sustained. People make me sick!

yaa ithas been realy going wrong in the recent times as people dont care about the little one they want toleave in alone and unsafe places. they will loose their identity of human beings. they soon got punished.

i think you have to be out of your mind to forget a baby in the van what in you no what could that person be thinking.do you remember putting the baby in the van how can you forget taking the child out this is crazy.

My son is constantly on my mind and I have never forgotten him. He is my life and I could not live with myself if I ever forgot him.

I agree with you, I do not see how anyone can forget their baby or miss it. Whenever I get out of my car, I look back at the car as I walk away. I know vans are higher and they may not see a carseat but people walk away without a glance back. I think some of these people have something wrong in their brain and honestly forget the baby. Most of them, though, have never had the maternal instinct kick in or they would have that baby on their mind and in their heart every hour of every day.

I agree with you 100 % there is NO excuse for leaving a baby in a car, honestly how can you forget to drop your child off at daycare ?? How can you forget your child is in the car...inexcusable.

I think that it's very possible for someone to simply not see a child in the back of a van, because there is simply no good reason to actually leave a child there. I don't hear that story too much, so I would assume that most of the time a woman does remember the baby in the back. I think that if someone is as scatterbrained as I am, they would keep a post-it note on the dashboard that says: "Baby!" so they would be reminded of the little kid there.

I also agree that the babies were left there on purposeQ I have three children and there is no way I could forget about one of them!

I think there is absolutely no excuse for leaving a baby in a van. Babies are so helpless and it is up to the parent to make sure they are safe at all times. Those that are irresponsible or have their priorities somewhere else should not be a parent at all.

Yes, to be honest there is no reason what so ever to leave a child in a car ( a baby in this case ). As a parent you should instantly take on the responsibilty of being a parent... If you can't handle the resposibility then use protection and don't get yourself into the mess in the first place... Also any passer by should also instantly see that there is a lone baby in a car and should instantly report it...

I agree with you, you are correct. But I have heard stories though that newbie moms can sometimes be so tired or even forget they have the baby with them when it is asleep. And for those I would recommend hanging something from the mirror or window as a reminder that says baby on board.

i also think those babies were left there intensionally. how a mother can forget and leave the baby there? If she is so interested in shopping or other works, why she has taken the baby?

You're correct in that there is no excuse for leaving a baby in a van, or any vehicle for that matter. It's sad, but during the summer months it happened quite frequently here in Houston. A lot of the parents, as one of the replies to this topic pointed out, admitted that they didn't usually care for the child in the morning, forgot to take the kid to daycare, or whatnot. But, when people see a kid in a car, we folks down here in Houston react. In almost all of the cases, all the windows to the car were broken in to get the child out. Disappointingly so, the parents, or guardians, do not face charges as they claim they simply forgot about the child, and that it was a mistake. But it is happening often, and to animals too! But, as a said a sec ago, citizens react - even to animals. One instance had some ditz go in for a manicure and leave her chihuahua in the car. A good samaritan (it was a summer day, no windows were open) broke one of the windows and got the dog out...the girl came out screaming...complaining that her window was now broken. Pathetic.

This is major problem, or at least it was when I last lived there. Mainly Asians going to gamblr would leave babies and very young children locked in vans and cars whils the parent/s gambled and drank. police had to make sure the car park area was patrolled regularly, and frequently would have to break into a car to save a child, I for one just can't understand how a parent could do that. They don't deserve children.

People get in habits. If you are not in the habit of dropping the kid off at daycare, you can forget. There are also people that have other things going on that forget things. My former roommate had serious sleep apnea and would kind of go into a state of, well, not sleep, but not awake either. Granted she wasn't safe to drive, but she could forget what she was doing before she got on meds for her various problems.

I actually thought that they left the baby in there on purpose thinking that they would be gone just for a quick second. I didn't realize that people could actually forget that a baby is in a car with them. Just turning around to lock the door should be a clear reminder. And even if that's not the case then sometime while you're out doing what you're doing something should trigger in your mind that something is missing on you. I agree, they must be really drunk or just really don't care about that child.