I feel betrayed...

Well the worst that could be done is to take him to court and file a claim for the funds he owes you. But I myself would write it off as a lesson well learned. I have loaned to friends without being paid back in the past. I do not do it now. I will offer them some assistance in trying to find ways to get the funds they need though if they are a decent friend. But it's a loss I feel. Good luck if you keep trying to get these funds back. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

Hi.I am sorry about this... but friends still friends.pls give him a chance. it's bad to give up a best friend because of money. I think what you have to do is to talk to him franky about you need those money now.if he does not return those money back,what problems you will have or else,just let him know about it,and ask him to give you a suggestion.see what he says. hope everything turns well.cheers! tang

I don't know. I've lent money to a friend who needed it and she didn't pay me back, but I don't really mind because I can see why she couldn't. For me, though, it is easier because I could afford the loss at the time. I think that you might want to try to set him up on a payment plan - ie., maybe he can't pay it all back to you right now, but maybe he can give you a little bit eveyr week until he has paid you back?

I've been there, not just once, but many times. I know how it feels to be betrayed and fooled by a friend. I would have contacted a lawyer to ultimately exact payment from the friend who owes me plus the damages. However, I figured it's not worth the expenses and the time. While it's true that money is just money compared to friendship, but we cannot erase the fact that the friend that we have trusted betrayed us and may do it again and again and again. Is that person worth keeping as a friend? I don't think so. What I did under that circumstances was forget the money AND the friend.

Don't give up friendship just because of money,.. Money can be replace but friendship is hard to lose,... If your friend can't pay you just give him a chance,... If he still doesn't pay you just help him to get some money or let him pay in different way,.. Maybe he really doesn't have it,.. Friend is a friend,.. I think if he really has a money he will pay you,... If you really need that money ask him if he can borrow to his other friends just to return your money,... Just be optimistic and don't forget that friends help each other,... that's all..

Firstly never lend friendship to those and then never take sorrow, disappointment from them -This is what i came to conclude when it happened to me. And now when the bad time comes think as if you have given a charity for the friend you trusted and him to feel that he really did a unforgivable job.....In our epic it says forgiveness is the thing which can't be adopted but developed

I totally understand what you are going through as I happen to be in a similar situation. This gal came to our business centre and did some work only to tell us almost to the end of the work that she won't be able to pay for the job that day and that she'll bring the money the next day. Considering the fact that she's been a customer for a while, we didn't see it as a big deal and agreed. The next day came and we heard nothing from her and also considering the fact that it was weekend, we didnt contact her on the grounds that she was just taking the wkend off. We called her on monday and she happened to pretend that she forgot and said again that she would come that evening or in the morning the next day. That continued for a while until one day when she sent me a msg that she was given a post dated of a particular date cheque and would definitely come once the date had reached. The day came and nothing and she was still playing the same hide and seek and forgot and tomorrow game and to top it all, she stopped taking my calls or cutting them off. As I speak now, i confronted her today in her house and asked her what was up with all those games; while she was shocked to see me, she managed to cook up some story of how she got robbed and had nothing. I made it clear to her, along the line, that the issue was no longer just about the money she was owing, but the way she was handling the situation. She apologized and I could see right through her that she wasn't even sorry. Anywayz, to cut long story short, she brought part of the money and said she would show up this evening, which she didn't by the way. I'm sure i'll pay her another visit to get the remaining part. My advice: confront this guy, mainly about the money and let him know that while you need the money, he is also not handling the situation well. It just might occur to him that he really isn't. We have them all... the good, bad and ugly debtors! Goodluck.

I wouldn't get into that situation in the first place. I don't borrow and I don't lend money, it's as simple as that. Not because I think that people will intentionally cheat me out of my money, even though there are those probably, too. But more than that, people, when borrowing money, almost always have the honest intention to pay it back. But it turns mostly into an honest desire. Money is per se a very touchy subject, even in a marriage or partnership, so I don't really want to complicate my life, and I learned to say 'No' if (which obviously, with my attitude, hardly ever happens nowadays) somebody asks me for a loan.

Hi wrangel. Take it as a lesson. And we must pay for lessons isn't it? Forget this money because he never will pay you back but you must finish the friendship. He isn't your friend because if he is he would say "sorry but I can't pay you" and tell you what happen that make impossible for him pay you back. We can understand an explanation and a situation. But doing what he is doing it seams that you have the obligation to give him money when he have problems. It isn't a thing that a friend does with other friend. Keep this lesson and stay away from him. One day will come that he will regret about it. I believe in the Return Law and what you do you will get in return. So you will get this money in another way to help yours siblings. And he will pay this money in another way too. He will regret very much about what he did with you. Cheers and have a nice day.

I guess you will bear in this lesson. Now, if it is possible, you may ask him to return the money directly. If he can't return back and without a sorry. You should not trust him any more.

I feel betrayed as well... I have a friend before who is also my housemate. Since, we are on a wi-fi connection, he ask me if he could borrow my extra laptop. It was a Sony Vaio TR5 and I bought it 2 years ago worth $3,000 dollars. One night, he and his girlfriend had a fight. He thew my laptop out of nowhere and the LCD of my laptop broke... after realizing what he has done, he called me up and told me about it. I was shocked. Maintaining my composure, I told him to pay or replace the LCD as soon as possible. 10 MONTHS passed, he hasn't paid me. I called him and suggested that I will be the one to find the LCD and if ever, he will just pay me. Then, on the 11th month, he paid me but never talked to me again. I know he kept his word about paying me, but where did I go wrong? He is not talking to me anymore. In fact, I should be the one to be angry because he delayed the payment. Oh, well. Some friends.

I have been in the same situation. I actually was stranded in Ireland because my "friend" didn't return the loan when he said he would. There really is nothing you can do about it. Not without taking drastic measures anyway. But drastic measures usually end up making things worse. All you can do is never do it again. Realize where you stand with him and make it clear that the loan will never happen again. He has broken your trust and you cannot in good faith give him your trust again. In all likelyhood he is feeling embarrassed because he knows that he has broken your trust. I would be too. It's important for you to understand this. In any case it is important for you to communicate your feelings to him on this matter. I hope this helps, Good luck, Jay