should I tell wife of job layoff?

If I was your wife, I'd be very angry if you didn't tell me! I've never kept anything important from my husband and I'd be very surprised to find out he'd kept something from me. Your wife will suspect that something is wrong and your sudden reluctance to spend money on your children will have her wondering and worrying about just what might be happening. Be truthful and tell her before you start having arguements over what she might think is meanness!

Wow, thats a tough question but I think you should go ahead and be honest with your wife now! She is going to find out right before christmas anyway if you are being layed off the week before.

I'd tell her. She might be very hurt and angry if you tell her after christmas especially since you've known since now...thats a month atleast you would have been hiding things. If you tell her maybe she could look for a job too - or a better job than what she has.

I'm so sorry! However, I think you should consider your wife to be your partner, you're in this life and family together, and you need to do everything you can to pull through. I wish you the best of luck! Surely you will be able to make ends meet if you work together on it.

it is better to let your wife know about your being laid off from work. that will not ruin your christmas if you tell now. you have enough time to plan. talk to her how you plan to go about it by cutting down on some expenses to tide over the situation. she will definitely be very cooperative and appreciate your sincerity in this matter. talk to her now. now.

For me, the best thing to do is you should tell you wife honestly because married life is a partnership and you should not hide anything. As couple you must be honest with each other and be together for better or for worse. Love is not the only basis for the lasting union of couple, it is also build through trust and respect. I am sure your wife will understand your situation what she can't forgive is your dishonesty, I think, of all wrongdoings, dishonesty is the worst thing to happen. I know your wife is open minded and might help you go through with difficulties. The more that you keep on postponing when to tell her, the more that it will be difficult for her to take it. I have a friend who feel cheated when she learned that her husband was layed off from their friends, she cried for a week because her husband did not tell her honestly. She said that she can accept it any if he lose his job, it was the start of their constant fight. So, to avoid the same scenario you better tell your wife early before anybody will leak the whole thing. Ask God for some guidance and He will help you go through with this difficulty you are facing now. Goodluck and God bless you and your family!

Yes tell her. Surprises are bad--as I myself have just learned. You should share everything with your spouse or it could lead down a bad road.

Of course you should tell her. Its better for her to know the truth now and not spend to much money later. I don't think she will be happy learning it later. It will be like you have no faith in her.

Yeah you should tell her! You guys need to form a Plan Of Action and if you wait until the last minute, it's only going to be more difficult. Plus I don't think she will like it that you have been keeping secrets from her as if she were a child who couldn't handle the truth... I know your heart is in the right place, but you should think with your head

One way or another she's going to find out anyway. The sooner you tell her the sooner she will be prepared for it and the sooner you can get it over with. While waiting around for the layoff you may have to try getting some other work. Be prepared for anything. Keep your options open. It's hard to get work these days. Cheers!

Tell her. If you and your wife are close, she already knows. she knows that there is something. Don't leave things to her imigination so she will think that it is more tragic than it really is. Christmas is family love and trust and sharing---really sharing. The season is about second chances, forgiveness, and new starts. you have a mate, children, and it seems a big heart. that is more than enough to have a very merry Christmas. Was not the birth of Christ all about the opportunity for second chances?

Absolutely tell your wife! If the tables were turned, would you want her keeping secrets from you? At least knowing what the budget and limitations are, you can plan for a modest Christmas, instead of an extravagant one. Although it's never pleasant to be laid off, at least you'll have the holidays home with the family. Then come the New Year, you'll be rested to hit the job market running. Good luck to you!

You should be honest with her and tell her. If you do happen to get another job or decide to take the pay cut, there's no harm done. I'm certain that she will be upset if she goes out and buys presents for the children and then finds out about the layoff. Christmas has religious significance to many and virtually everyone it's a time for family. Perhaps this is the year that you give your children the best gift that you could..teaching them the true meaning of Christmas.

Yes, pls tell her. As a wife, i think she doesnt want you to suffer alone there, she would like to share with you and work it out together. Don't be afraid to tell her. All the best for you and your family :-)

YES!!! Do not leave your wife in the dark about this. Don't wait to tell her until the job is gone. We women need time to mentally prepare for things like this. If you just throw it on her like that you are going to shock and upset her. Further more she needs to understand why she needs to be careful this Christmas and to not go out and spend a lot of money on presents because you may need that money to pay the bils. Please do not keep something of this magnitude from your wife. She will likely be very angry at you if you do. Having a little bit of notice will also help her to start curbing the budget now. Perhaps she will be more careful about the foods she buys opting for cheaper items, and she can start to cut back on water and heating and stuff like that. Your wife is your partner in life, do not leave her out of this. If she knows the truth she can start helping to scale back now.

My friend, it is better to be frank than miserable by keeping things to yourself.The situation globally is bad and its not just you but thousands of people who are losing their jobs. It is better to tell your wife now rather than if she comes to know by chance through someone else.Then she will really feel bad. I am sure she will understand as she must be loving you. If you tell her now by the time Xmas arrives she will have got used to it and when she finds that others are also in the same boat she won`t take it so badly.But if you postpone it and tell her just before Xmas then she and your kids will take it badly.So don`t be afraid but spill the beans right away and then plan your Xmas in a quiet way and you will not be the only one to have a subdued Christmas. I wish you a Merry Christmas.

Yes, by all means you should tell your wife. After all, she is your wife and she has the right to know. I know it will be hard for you but if you think about it, you are lying to your wife and pretending that there are no problems when in fact it is going to be a big problem. You should help each other and discuss things especially about serious matters. She will know it sooner or later. This is just my suggestion. Whatever happens I do pray that everything will turn out ok and that you can have a job the soonest time possible. God Bless your family!

You need to tell her as soon as possible. Your married. You need to be honest with her. Start looking for a new job now.

The key to any relationship is communication. Notice that I didn't say 'good' relationship. The extent that you communicate freely and truthfully with your life partner is the determining factor to making the relationship good. You need to ask yourself some hard questions. What is the reason that you don't want to tell her now? Could it be that your pride is bruised because you soon won't be able to support your family? Keeping secrets from your wife will not help. It will only make things harder. You need to have faith in your wife, after all you chose to share your life with each other. She needs to be a part of the bad as well as the good. Together you may be able to work out a plan, but if she don't know what's going on you will probably be working at cross purposes. Also, she can surely sense that something is not right. Not being open with her leaves her imagination room to jump to conclusions.

Tell her you should never keep something from her. How would you like it if she got layed off and didn't tell you? This way if you tell her you can plan on what to do next together rather than have all the stress on you and then make her wonder what's going on, she could possibly even get other ideas if you don't tell her. A woman knows when something is wrong and if you don't tell her the truth she will start putting her own thoughts in her head and they may not be good ones.