Does this sound silly???

hmm.. i think id rather go to our family. this is my opinion because i enjoy my being family more since i also rarely see them. but do what you're heart is telling you. if it makes you guilty not to go to your family, then just choose your family. if not, then celebrate and have fun with your friends=)

Think of it as joint custody... after a person gets married their parents no longer have full custody =P They have to share you with the other side as well lol... You could alternate spending thanksgiving with your friends or his side of the family and Christmas with yours or the other way around.. that way your family wont feel ignored or whatever... =) Heck i rather spend the holidays with my friends most of the time because i get bored of all the old ladies sitting around swapping recipes (usually on the 3rd day) i rather be going to the mall or the movies or even the park with my friends and sister on Eid (my holiday ;) ) So i can't blame you but you don't want resentment to come in the mix and have them think your inlaws are trying to keep you away from them... So no it doesn't sound silly sounds human =P

actually, you are not selfish at all. there are so many times that i feel the same way you do. my parents get upset because we want to be at his parents house for certain holidays. my in laws live next door so i guess they think we visit them all the time. we actually dont. i think its up to us as grown ups to make our own traditions for the holidays and if that means not including one set of parents, or all sets, then they need to understand. do what your family feels is best for them and go have fun. its better than regreting the holidays.