Its nice to make friends but.........

Hi frnds, Its nice to make frnds but... I will make frnds and i am having so many frnds from my childhood days frnds to college days frnds.I am making a habbit of new frnds.I will always helping nature to my frnds but some of my frnds were they will not talk properly and try to avoids me when i met them only few frnds like that maximum my frnds were nice frnds. But i never feel that if he avoids me nothing will happen to me i have some more frnds they helping nature frnds.

i use one rule that i actually learned from one of my best friends, and thats i dont keep people in my life that i cant learn from to become a better person, or that i cant teach and help them become a better person. If they dont fall into those two catagories i am blunt and say they are liars, who use words to try and get what they want, if they are sincere and have knowledge and experience you will benefit, if they change, and absorb your knowledge and use it constructivly you will see it, its simple, if they dont do either, peace out, not worth my time.

Friends come in all kinds of hues and temperaments.It really takes considerable time to know what kind of a person your friend is.Is he a real open minded one,a jealous one or have some personal axe to grind etc.Each one of them go through a testing period without it being announced.And few survive our test and taste and a few wither away by themselves.These things happen by themselves,We need not be blunt and shoo them away anymore.

i always felt that way maybe that is the reason why i don't have friends because i am afraid to have one...i met lots of people in my life upon growing up and almost all that i met are the bad ones on which they be-friend you for a reason..for their own benefits.. i learned to stay away, as so just to say i live on my own right now...hang around by myself...i am scared now because i just had those people whom i considered friends who just used me up...for money..for whatsoever name it..that is why whenever someone is being nice i just stay civil and wont stay close... whenever i feel like i don't like the person i just avoid them and hide..sometimes i can be blunt and tell them so if they wont stop acting stupid..

I know exactly what you mean I have some really good friends who I treasure, but not as many as I used to have. I spoke to this girl at the school when i was picking my son up and she seemed nice. I asked her to come for a cuppa one afternoon and she did everyday for weeks. No matter what I said or did she turned up every afternoon,she told me all her problems and boy did she have some, I would help anyone,but she was one of those.In the end I went out and took a cleaning job at that time of day. then she tried to come round after school when my husband came home,in the end he came home one night and started a pretend row and I obliged and in the end she took the hint and I never really did see her again.Some people just don't under stand what having a friend is , we see each other when our husbands are at work and we all understand that, my husband has three weeks off in the summer holidays and we go away so I might ring my special friends a ew times and they contact me by phone. it is the rules but after all that is over we get back for our outings and tea and coffee days.

Dear friend, It is graet to make friends....but you should notexpect anything from them....if you expect something from them then it is going to be a failure in your friendship and you should always keep this in mind and make friends......." All are my friends...but some are very close...."

Here on myLot that is more of an issue than in real life, but that is one of the things I am always reminding my myLot friends -- to be careful about giving out too much personal information. It is better to go slowly into relationships, I think, and the less strangers know about us the better.

I tend to think of people as acquaintances who may become friends. I have very few real friends and I do not trust easily. I make friends with people on two levels. One is on the surface where we just have fun etc but no serious stuff. To be a real friend means trusting with the inner core and very few have ever had that level of trust. The reason being I think was that my trust was betrayed once. Now I trust people who have earned it and I keep very few secrets. After all if people know who I am and what I believe in then they cannot betray something that is public knowledge. I have never bluntly told someone that I did not want to be friends I just did not choose to mix with them. Most of my friends were really work associates. I do not think I have ever had a friend that lasted for years. I have spent most of my life as a loner.

Usually when I break off a friendship, it's gradual, I just stop speaking to them, stop calling them. I may still accept their calls, but eventually they'll stop calling as well since I never return the calls. I don't think I've ever flat out told anyone I didn't want to be their friend anymore, but there have been people that I knew I didn't want to be friends with anymore, and we just gradually stopped speaking or lost touch.

Hi daffodil! I just love your name and the flower too! What is this about your friends? You will find as you get older that your true friends will be fewer and fewer and that is a good thing. If you can count your real friends on one hand then you are lucky! I have had to cut a very close friend of mine out of my life and it wasn't easy. She was my best friend for 45 years! Yes! It is a long story, but it had to be done! I had told her over and over that she was not a nice person and that I was tired of her abusive behavior and that I wasn't going to accept it anymore. She didn't believe me so I had to cut her out of my life. It took awhile for her to realize that I meant it! She was my best friend since we were 10 years old so this wasn't an easy thing. She wanted me to get my life together and when I did she didn't like the fact that she could no longer put me down and I would take her crap. So you see sometimes things happen and you just have to do what you feel is best for you. I do not miss her miserable self in my life. I know that I did the right thing for me and I know that she hasn't changed and will never change. People don't like her and have told her and she still won't change. If someone doesn't like me they can do the same thing and I too will get over it!

it's really nice having a lot of friends. specially those real one..but in todays time..friends are few to be chosen. Some friends only needs you when they need your help. Some friends took you advantages. I don't want to hurt anyone that's why i'm making way to avoid such friends which doesn't deserve my attention.

I do have some "friends" that I got rid of. We used to stay in the same house because we want to save money. She was such a darling at first but eventually she became different. Hiding her activities from me, she would make us (there's another friend that stayed with us ) look stupid by her not telling us her whereabouts, and a lot of things that made us really upset. I avoided her, deleted her from my friendster account, never went to parties where I know she'll be there, and made it a point that I wont see her at work . It hurt me when she did something that is really unacceptable. Even if we talked about what happened, she said she's sorry, I just can't regain the friendship anymore.