I don't know how to deal with this problem?
By levisgirl01
@levisgirl01 (139)
India
November 14, 2008 2:02pm CST
Friends, this is problem my very close friend is facing... it goes like.. She is engaged and her fiance stays in USA. Now while chatting with him on internet one day, he disabled himself for 5 mins as he got a call, so she was just sitting and she got instant message of an unknown person... first she tried to ignore him but later on when he started pleading for chat she started off... and things went so fast that they both started chatting often! I (when she told me bout this) concluded it as a strong friendship but he one day came up and proposed her! He knew about my friend's engagement but still he feels they need to meet to come with an intelligent decision... i hope his not some kindaa fraud who is just playing with her sentiments.. but when my friend told that she don't trust her much he mailed her all his personal documents and even used webcam to show himself in real and now my friend is much into him.. everytime thinking of him .. calling him and chatting on phone and sending her pictures to him ... from his side to he sends messages , SMS, and pictures...
guys is my friend and that guy are right or my concern towards her is right?? what should i do to save her and her fiance's engagement??? please write your thoughts...
Thanks...
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3 responses
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
14 Nov 08
well for one I think the best thing you can do is be the voice of reason and be there for her if she makes the wrong decision, I had a bad experience with an online chatting service, I met a Nigerian man who was very nice good looking and so on we talked for 7 months and then I after meeting him and so on I found out all he wanted was a green card, and on top of that he was talking to all kinds of over women. so I hope she is careful you can't really trust people these days
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Mar 09
It's sad but true, you can't be too careful on who you trust.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I know that it's been five months, and I don't know if this has been resolved between your friend and this guy, but my one advice is that she really think about how she feels for this guy, and then for her fiance, before she makes any move. She needs to think of who it might hurt, and INCLUDING HER. Your concern for her is right.
I hope that this helps/helped.
I appreciate the discussion.
Have a wonderful day mylotting.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 08
Hello levisgirl01. I think your friend is an adult, seeing that she is now preparing for the engagement. I don't know why you are so into this engagement, for me, being engaged doesn't mean i would never be able to find someone better, my true soulmate. I know you have a good deeds, but instead of telling her to go back to the fiance, why didn't you ask why she likes the guy so much. She barely knows him, right? And if she couldn't save her engagement, it wasn't your fault. She is an adult, she has the responsibility of her own, and protecting her is not your job. For me, you don't have to do anything about her. Let her do whatever she wanted to do, but tell her to think about that really well, before she felt sorry. At lesat you have warned her
